Originally posted by: Elysia
I'm sorry for butting in again 😳
But how can you forgive and accept a man like Viraj? Someone that you can never trust. Someone who puts you through hell only to watch you squirm in pain. Boiled water, iron, belts, sticks, rape, miscarriage, murder - Viraj is behind all this and more.
What is it about him? Is it because he's charming and charismatic? Is it because there is a sense of mystery and danger about him? I want to understand what it is about him that convinces anyone that he deserves chance after chance, that he could be redeemed. If anyone, anyone at all, can provide me with rational arguments and not arguments that're based on emotional like or dislike, then I'm willing to be openminded about him.
For one moment, just one, put yourself in Jhanvi's shoes and imagine living the life that she did with Viraj. Imagine having your feet burned, force-fed meat, raped, etc., waking up every morning [or night] not knowing what might trigger the monster in your husband.
I don't believe a single person who claims that they could accept a man like Viraj from the heart. We're all human beings. We all have a pain threshold, and we can only endure so much torture before we break - no man or woman can endure it with a smile. If they say that they can, then they're lying.
The truth is that men like Viraj are much like serial killers in the metaphorical sense of the word. They hunt for prey. They enjoy inflicting pain on their prey because it gives them a sense of power, a sense of utter control. They manipulate. They lack empathy. They feel no remorse. They're evil. It's as simple as that.
Then society jumps in and labels them mentally ill -- telling people that they can be cured, that all they need is treatment. It's a lie. They don't want treatment. They don't care for it. Plus, it's the society's way of saying that "we don't have room for him in a prison cell, so let's just go with the clinic and put him back out there to deal on his own".
Honestly. Viraj is the epitome of cruelty, of what evil men are capable of doing. How and, most importantly, why should that be accepted by anyone?
We might as well accept rapists and murderers while we're at it. It's the same thing. Half the time, people claim that the rapist and murderer is mentally imbalanced too.
It doesn't excuse anything. It doesn't justify anything.
Plus, it would be a wrong message to viewers. To women who are daily beat up by their supposedly "ill" husbands. It's like telling them "stay with your psycho husband because he's only mentally ill and needs help and support, just forgive and accept and don't quit on him, no matter what he does to you!" I mean, seriously? Is that the kind of message that should be given to women who endure abuse? Who had dreams of a happy marriage and only ever wanted to be a good wife?
It's wrong. I don't care who plays Raghav -- but I see the character as The Hope. He may not be real in the sense that in the real world abused women aren't saved by some heroic stranger. But he gives the hope of a better life. That a victim of abuse/rape, and a woman at that, can find happiness again with someone else, someone BETTER, who will treat her the way that she deserves to be treated.
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