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Posted: 8 years ago
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If the laws of Feminism say, "Her body, her rights" how does a girl who chooses to worship the ground her husband walks on become a doormat? Specially when she isn't forcing the husband to accept her devotion and just doing her own thing on her own.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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I have never been a supporter of that my body my rights theory too, especially if you are saying about that video which said that whether I stay with you or spend night with someone else its my right. Is it? I mean really, so accept the same from the guy as well, if he spends his night with other woman, he becomes a douchebag, but if the girl does its her choice? If the girl is allowed to wear whatever she wants, then would a girl not object a guy who goes into the marketplace clad only in his UG

This for me is not feminism but pseudo feminism

Anyhow coming to this question, yes Gauri said that she will consider Om as her husband without any expectation, someone here even compared her to Meerabai, but is Om worth it? A guy who doubts your chastity and thinks you to be a gold digger, you want to consider him worth waiting? Why give someone a chance to insult you, especially someone you know would insult you
PLus I don't think Gauri actually wants to never encounter Om, she has come to Mumbai to go to her Sasural
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism

I have never been a supporter of that my body my rights theory too, especially if you are saying about that video which said that whether I stay with you or spend night with someone else its my right. Is it? I mean really, so accept the same from the guy as well, if he spends his night with other woman, he becomes a douchebag, but if the girl does its her choice? If the girl is allowed to wear whatever she wants, then would a girl not object a guy who goes into the marketplace clad only in his UG

This for me is not feminism but pseudo feminism

Anyhow coming to this question, yes Gauri said that she will consider Om as her husband without any expectation, someone here even compared her to Meerabai, but is Om worth it? A guy who doubts your chastity and thinks you to be a gold digger, you want to consider him worth waiting? Why give someone a chance to insult you, especially someone you know would insult you
PLus I don't think Gauri actually wants to never encounter Om, she has come to Mumbai to go to her Sasural



First part - unrelated debate about what feminism is so not touching that.

Second part - uski marzi. My question was even without watching how she's going to act around him or knowing what she'll ask of him...how does Gauri become a doormat? As per the spoilers,Gauri isn't actively seeking Omkara or wanting to meet him. But she ends up at his place anyway.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Feminism is such misused term .It should be choice Gauri is not doormat still but I hope she doesnt become one once she can clarify to him but if he chose not believe she can leave amd be how she wishes too ..Her dialogue about sasuraal irked me otherwise yest when she saod about waiting for him I was okay..
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Posted: 8 years ago
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This I agree with. It's still early to say if she is a doormat or not, cause we haven't seen what she is going to do. If she is going to go the way, anything he says, husband is my god...then of cause she is a doormat, but that hasn't happened yet. So yeah, uski marzi, lets see what she is going to do first.
After all Gauri has no choice but to follow om to Mumbai, I mean if she didn't would not the villagers question her, as to where her husband was?
I think there are too many possibilities as for now and many of them don't require her becoming an abla naari just because she feel she should maintain the accidental marriage.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: lostmymusic.



First part - unrelated debate about what feminism is so not touching that.

Second part - uski marzi. My question was even without watching how she's going to act around him or knowing what she'll ask of him...how does Gauri become a doormat? As per the spoilers,Gauri isn't actively seeking Omkara or wanting to meet him. But she ends up at his place anyway.



Added the first part as you had mentioned if my body my rules is feminism then why not this, and I just said that even that is not feminism

Now coming to the second part, the girl who took the dust below her so called husband's (who doesn't believe in this so called marriage) into her hairline is the work of a doormat, considering a man who just acted to marry you for protecting you from goons you husband, is the work of a doormat
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Feminism ko goli mar and enjoy bas aik massoma sa jawab :p
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Posted: 8 years ago
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If it's indeed her choice to think of him as special and devote herself to him from "afar" then that is her problem! As long as she stays "Afar". But if she comes to his house, tries to seek him out, assert her rights as his so called wife etc, that is possibly taking this too far. It's like she is somehow making herself available to him and pushing her way into his life.

I have not seen the last episode as I am traveling but up to what I saw, she was determined to think of him as "her own" but away from him. I feel it's like a Hero worship scenario for a man who saved her from imminent death. She has become his "fan girl" for want of a better word!


Personally, I do not accept a woman just accepting a man as her husband even if the marriage was done under duress. The putting footprint dust in her hair was going too far and I found that hard to digest! That part was NOT needed! But her sense of over blown gratitude that is blinding her to reality, I can actually understand that. I think she is not thinking rationally and blinded by her emotions right now. Does it make her a doormat? It's too early to tell.
Edited by MrDarcyfan - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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It seems like Gauri is forcing herself on Omkara.
She is going to Mumbai( Her sasural) for Omkara but she said that she will never expect anything from him then why is she going?
And she is wasting her precious time and feelings for someone who's not worth it!
So this is stupidity acc to me!
Khair, It's a show so I can't expect any sensible desicion from a FL.
As this would break the rule of our TV shows!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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loving someone wether they love u r not .. whats wrong with that... om has many reasons to hate gauri and gauri has many reasons to like him...in rikara case they dont even know each other well..

i have seen in real life where there r men who love women who dont love them back. they give their best to make them realise their love.. in the end it works out or not.. same with many women... ofcourse there is a time when that realisation dawns that the effort is not worth it if it doesnt work out...
for gauri it was already established that love is worship... so if she respects omkara and worships him whats wrong.. why does somones true emotions towards someone make them a doormat? trust me even if she does expect something out of him which she is currently not, i find nothing wrong..may be she developed some feelings for omkara through the ordeal..

sometimes relationships and matters of heart are not easy.. if u like somebody u will give ur shot towards earning them into ur life cos thats what ur heart desperately will want at that moment.. the brain tends to work later..



Edited by NamuVyas - 8 years ago

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