Working Mom vs Stay-at-home Dad - Page 2

Originally posted by: ~LiL*PrInCeZ~

If 1 parent needs to stay home to look after the children, why is it expected to be the mother? Why are there these double standards, even in the 21st century.

It is always mom who stays with newborn because 21st century doesn't change human body😛. There are some duties which only a mom can perform though there are things which can be substituted but still that is how it is. So that is why naturally a mother stays back. In US where maternity leave is not too long we have flexible schedules so it is easier if father can help too. In a balanced home that is how things work. 😊

In my previous post I was talking about the women who prefers to stay at home and waste time when kids go to school.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Note: Career is not just a job.

One person from DM I would like to mention is DB-Varsha. She is a perfect example of someone who had a career, nice family and now a good settled life. I love her for that.

👏👏👏 i like the bolded part. a question just hit me after reading your initial post. what are your views about ladies who never got a chance to get education and job in olden times. they ended up being housewives. i am not talking financially disadvantaged ladies of todays generation since there are available sources now but in older times ladies used to be housewives. i think that was not a choice for them during that time right?

Originally posted by: raunaq

👏👏👏 i like the bolded part.

a question just hit me after reading your initial post. what are your views about ladies who never got a chance to get education and job in olden times. they ended up being housewives. i am not talking financially disadvantaged ladies of todays generation since there are available sources now but in older times ladies used to be housewives. i think that was not a choice for them during that time right?

Thanks Raunaqwa☺️

You are right. They never had a choice. Since birth they were brought up to be good home makers. How tot cook, do chores, take care of husband and kids and extended family. Actually without help they were working whole day. There was no time for a career but they were working for sure. There are many women from those times who contributed by helping in agriculture, family business etc. Now the scenario is different.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

As Raunaqwa mentioned we have had this debate many times and as always I respect men and women with real career and who balances home too. I don't have respect for anyone who chooses to be home for just the sake of it and claims to have done sacrifice by doing that. We all can do our bit by balancing career and home. All of us are homemakers (men and women) when we do chores around house and take care of family. It takes an able person to have a career along with it.

Note: Career is not just a job.

One person from DM I would like to mention is DB-Varsha. She is a perfect example of someone who had a career, nice family and now a good settled life. I love her for that.

I agree.... varshaji achieved success in career as well as on home front.... i think if the feeling of love is present amongst the family members.... it becomes easier😊

Can we say .....Job is not just Career ? 😳

Originally posted by: kabhi_21

u mean marry the servant and he will be always at home 😉😆

We are talking about married men's matter sweetheart........2nd time saza kyu?😉 are u talking about bachlors........then marry a servent ok😃

I do not have any problem to stay home and raise my kids. My wife should be able to make enough to support the whole family. I have seen some folks who do like the ideas of fathres raising the kids (stay home dad).

I think the whole concept is changing. Lots of dads are now becoming stay-at-home-dads. I think it has do with the whole "traditional" thinking. People hate changes. It throws people off. In European countries and U.S. it's changing. But I think it'll still be a long time before it becomes acceptable in India. Just b/c India has the whole "pati-parmeseshwar". It'll be hard if over nite it becomes the "patni-parmeshawari". It has all do with the old ways; they are changing now; slowly but surely they are.

Lovely idea! except that I don't think men really have the ability to actually look after the home, clean, cook, do the laundry, take care of the kids and still look lovely and calm when wife comes home grouchy form work and demands a cold beer. 😆

Originally posted by: syrene

Lovely idea! except that I don't think men really have the ability to actually look after the home, clean, cook, do the laundry, take care of the kids and still look lovely and calm when wife comes home grouchy form work and demands a cold beer. 😆

😆 i would sleep the whole day.... or go play cricket.... ah how can i forget dating with girls for lunches😆