Working Mom vs Stay-at-home Dad - Page 3

Originally posted by: Maya_M

As Raunaqwa mentioned we have had this debate many times and as always I respect men and women with real career and who balances home too. I don't have respect for anyone who chooses to be home for just the sake of it and claims to have done sacrifice by doing that. We all can do our bit by balancing career and home. All of us are homemakers (men and women) when we do chores around house and take care of family. It takes an able person to have a career along with it.

Note: Career is not just a job.

One person from DM I would like to mention is DB-Varsha. She is a perfect example of someone who had a career, nice family and now a good settled life. I love her for that.

👏👏 Here here Maya!!! Very well put.

I think a man would feel inferior if he is staying at home and wife working and also it depends on individual family situation e.g. man being injured at work and having to stay at home. Another example is that if a maternity leave is shared by spouses and the man stays home for the 2nd half. If a man and women donot demean one another what is wrong with it? In this day and age its necessary for both partners to work but I donot think its wrong if either one stays home.😳

Originally posted by: kabhi_21

😆 i would sleep the whole day.... or go play cricket.... ah how can i forget dating with girls for lunches😆

That's what N wanted to do .. I start a biotech, it goes public, he retires, then I hire hot espaniol maids and he will golf in the course and then some at home 😉 when I am away working.. 😆😆

I agree with Maya about
1. Having a job and having a career aren't one and the same
2. DB comes to mind as someone who has carried out all duties.
3. I have met several jobless women who don't even keep home as good as we do.. I hope their number doesn't grow. I have also met some women who actually have a job (not career) and they complain about how striking a balance is hard 😛. Both these categories don't stop to amuse and amaze me.

If a man wants to be a home maker and spouse doesn't mind, then he should be a home-maker 😊. why not?

Nice topic! Well this is the case in my house my dad stays home most of the time while my mom goes to work. but my dad still works its just my mom has the better job that why she works more often and they want someone to stay home with the children(meaning me)..lol..

ANd i dont mind it, but when i tell certain people they look at as being odd and un tradional?

Its just a matter of view and the perspective u look at things.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Thanks to Maya, ABhi, QT and Raunaqwa for nice words of acknowledgement and encouragement for me 😳 .

I don't have any problem with Women-Men working hard at their job-career, working at home taking care of family and rest. What ever is working within their own family structure should be fine. No one should judge them or knock them for what they are doing.

Each one of this is hard to do. Staying home at taking care of kids and family is not easy task. At the same time working in professional world, coming home and doing family duties is harder too. We have to juggle and ballance it.

Many men are now helping out alot more than in my days. These days dads are staying home to take care of kids, and handle house hold chores which was impossible in my time. Male ego came in the way of things.

If family decides together that it is better for one spouse to work outside of home and another to work inside of home and rest they devide and work together nothing wrong with that. Let the couple-family make that decision. No one else should have a say in what is right or wrong. My 2 cents.

👏 DB Jaan, I couldn't have put it better than this. you said it all here. I have been a stay at home mom, worked a job, a school going mom, and now finally a career oriented mom from past 3+ years. I have seen it all and I agree with you here 100%. Whatever works for the family at any given point of time and what ever suits the couple most is what should be done....and no one else should have a say in what is right or wrong. no one else should judge them based on their own notions or what works with their own family. once again 👏

Originally posted by: Maya_M

As Raunaqwa mentioned we have had this debate many times and as always I respect men and women with real career and who balances home too. I don't have respect for anyone who chooses to be home for just the sake of it and claims to have done sacrifice by doing that. We all can do our bit by balancing career and home. All of us are homemakers (men and women) when we do chores around house and take care of family. It takes an able person to have a career along with it.

Note: Career is not just a job.

One person from DM I would like to mention is DB-Varsha. She is a perfect example of someone who had a career, nice family and now a good settled life. I love her for that.

Well said Maya and really a nice eg. 👏

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Thanks to Maya, ABhi, QT and Raunaqwa for nice words of acknowledgement and encouragement for me 😳 .

I don't have any problem with Women-Men working hard at their job-career, working at home taking care of family and rest. What ever is working within their own family structure should be fine. No one should judge them or knock them for what they are doing.

Each one of this is hard to do. Staying home at taking care of kids and family is not easy task. At the same time working in professional world, coming home and doing family duties is harder too. We have to juggle and ballance it.

Many men are now helping out alot more than in my days. These days dads are staying home to take care of kids, and handle house hold chores which was impossible in my time. Male ego came in the way of things.

If family decides together that it is better for one spouse to work outside of home and another to work inside of home and rest they devide and work together nothing wrong with that. Let the couple-family make that decision. No one else should have a say in what is right or wrong. My 2 cents.

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Originally posted by: Gauri_3

👏 DB Jaan, I couldn't have put it better than this. you said it all here. I have been a stay at home mom, worked a job, a school going mom, and now finally a career oriented mom from past 3+ years. I have seen it all and I agree with you here 100%. Whatever works for the family at any given point of time and what ever suits the couple most is what should be done....and no one else should have a say in what is right or wrong. no one else should judge them based on their own notions or what works with their own family. once again 👏

Thanks GD and Dewey 😃

Gauri,

I know the struggle of family, going thru school and supporting spouse in their education and doing all that while working and taking care of family. 👏 Hats off. in Making something out of oneself, being self sufficient and independent at the same time being supportive within the marriage is a great positive thing.

for me it is what is best for the family...i mean if the mother has a better job and has more working days then the father then ok somedays the mother works and other she stays home and while she is at work the father can stay home..whatever works best for the family

wow nice discussion guys 👏 👏

well I just want to know wts the difference between a career and a job? 😳