Provoked - Your views - Page 5

Originally posted by: raunaq

why she didn't seek help?

That is my question? If she had the guts to go out and buy petrol and set him on fire then WHY? Why didn't she seek help?

1. Was she afraid that by telling her parents, she would trouble them too----Then why did she kill him? That made things worser for parents.

2. Was she afraid that going to police won't work because he might come back?----Then she could have taken women's supportt group addresses from police and taken their help.

3. Was she deranged after all the abuse?-------possible and in that case she needed treatment. Hope she got one.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

This is further glorified in those serials some camps churn out daily and also in some films. 🤢

Originally posted by: Maya_M

I wouldn't make a sweeping statement like that. Before blaming everything on men it is also upto us women to stand up for our rights.

i think prevention is better than cure so if men wont provoke these women then y would women take such steps. it was a women had it been a man suffering all this he would have killed the culprit in year or two only.men have less tolennce.

would like to hear some men comment on this topic.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Girls married to such men should have the same thinking. Jitni baar iska uthega, utni baar mera bhi uth gaya to koi gal nahi😡

Good points made all of you! I agree that unless parents give the daughters the security that she always has an option to opt out of a life in hell, the girls will continue to suffer so that their parents do not have to suffer the shame of their daughter having a broken marriage.

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

a few more cases of this kind and hopefully men will think twice before abusing any woman.

So was it the right message? Did this killing cautioned abusive men?

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

SOME parents ( Even rich / rather loaded ) who marry away their daughters in a grand wedding, often times tell there daughters never to come back even when they know ABUSE is happening. For those of who, whose jaws dropped to the floor, BEEN THERE DONE THAT!😕 Lack of folks's support and in fact a feeling of SHAME in going back😭 is the PRIMARY REASON the women often bare and bare some more and it goes on beyond belief ... There has never been a real goal, a real achievement and the girls tend to be directioless They have way more gold than we have probably, but they have NO WHERE TO GO if they leave their husband. This tends to be MORE PREVALENT in certain communities as opposed to certain others and I will not name names here. Many educated men working in top-notch techy companies grow up thinking " Aadmi hoon, ekad bar hath uthh bhi gayaa to koi gal nahee" .. These parents have failed with both daughters and sons and hence, it is essential to go with the flow and change some age-old traditions.. I concur with raunaq, maya, DB and such that it is GIRL's PARENTS who can take a SOLID STAND and the trend of considering beating to be okay will change some day. Boy's parents will change automatically, knowing that "Dadagiri nahee chalegee 😡"</span>

Originally posted by: Maya_M

I wouldn't make a sweeping statement like that. Before blaming everything on men it is also upto us women to stand up for our rights.

ohh yehh sorry forget to add it,those men who do that they do that bcz women let them do that , they dont understand their rights.

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

i think prevention is better than cure so if men wont provoke these women then y would women take such steps. it was a women had it been a man suffering all this he would have killed the culprit in year or two only.men have less tolennce.

would like to hear some men comment on this topic.

The root evil is bad parenting and society.

Originally posted by: Sound

I agree that unless parents give the daughters the security that she always has an option to opt out of a life in hell, the girls will continue to suffer so that their parents do not have to suffer the shame of their daughter having a broken marriage.

Parents shouldn't shame their daughters for standing up against abuse. Why fear society? Nothing is more important than your daughter's life.