Originally posted by: Maya_M
QT pie, as someone who works for battered women I would love to read your views but impartial please😉. Stop agreeing with Ani and don't you dare watch the movie first without commenting here😆😆.
Let me use Google chachi for more on this.
I commented on this post Maya, check BELOW now, as I moved the post for you. Since you brought up my input in relation to working for battered womne, I have few things to add.
1. Most of our clients are dependent on their husbands for everything. Not being confident enough to hold a regular job (one that does not require education) is what makes many of them HELPLESS. As much as I blame the husband for taking advantage of that, I FIRST BLAME the PARENTS. Educate her, give her confidence so that she can ATLEAST defend herself.
2. Most of the clients have sincere hopes to make the marriage work and we support them all the way. In some cases ABUSE stops, but when it does not, the women know who to call and what to do. None of mine have ever said that they would want to KILL the beast. They have said things like "hopefully he'll just die some day" .. I know, even typing such makes me shiver.. hearing them as they weep, is dreadful.. Even in KIRAN's case, I am wondering how INTENTIONAL it was. She does say, I had nothing else I could do- suggesting intention??
3. I am surprised by the neighbours. Mostly, clients we deal with admit that police interference happened since neighbours heard and called (yes, in US, where many people assume nobody cares for anybody since they don;t poke their nose in every business of their neighbour 😉😆) But apparently, the community is aware of such individuals and very many times, watchfull.
4. As I said, it was a good gesture on the Govt.'s part to offer her the honour, but she could and should IMO have denied it. That would have set a stronger example of raising voice against domestic violence and not committing crime to prevent it. It is people like her, who FAIL TO REACH OUT.. In some ways, it is their fault and largely their culture and UPBRINGING should be blamed for this. 🤢🤢
(some of the above opinions may be too harsh for some, apologies in that case and please ignore)
Edited by mermaid_QT - 18 years ago
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