Falling in love with more than one person

friends ,do you think falling in love with more than one person as sin?

suppose a girl has a happy married life and loves her husband very much.still she falls in love with another person. although she does not indulge in to anything offensive with this person.she is still loving her husband as before but side by side she feels something special for this new person also. can she love two persons at a time ,staying with her husband forever and loving him as before and side by side feeling special for the another person without having anything physical with him?do you consider it a sin?

please make your comments. i will give my ones later.😊

Why not... Love is like any other emotion, which can happen at any time. Love need not be physical either. So it is very much possible for a person who is well and happily married and in love with her spouse to also like and love another person.

How one handles such an emotion is what then decides the future course of their lives and their desiny.

I also believe that if a person indulges in extra marital affairs, there is nothing taboo about it either. After all, it is only an emotion and nothing more than that. Emotional attachments and dalliances often lead u to trouble. If u r emotionally very stable and your affairs do not cloud up your mind and heart, then there is no problem at all.

tvmaniac... i was trying to draw the difference between physical fidelity and emotional fidelity.... I attach more importance to emotional fidelity and when that is there in its place, physical fidelity automatically follows and if it does not, and if the emotional quotient is well in its place, the physical infedility will not matter at al..

rumiji i dont think ive had an impact on you so much that you feel something special for me 😆

i think this is an impersonal debate. we should write whatever we think impersonally. there should be no personal attacks or non-attacks(????😉) here.😊

if you love a person and are in a satistied relationship, that is your love is reciprocated in everyway, then it is not likely that you will fall in love with another person.

you may be temporarily swayed by the attention this person gives you and you may find it flattering but it is not likely that the infatution will stay for long.

love is a matter of the heart along with of the mind. if heart is content and mind has peace we are not inclined for any change... we are not likely to setout into anything new!

i am neither justifying anything nor glorifying anything. I am expressing my point of view.. which is what the debate is meant to be.

thanks rumi.

the topic of the debate is whether falling in love with another person while being in a marriage relationship wrong and is it a sin.

My second post.. re emotional fidelity, is exactly addressing that point. I have always believed and practiced that it is more important for a person to practise mental and emotional fidelity. If u believe in your mind that you are loyal to your partner, my beleif is you will not find yourself falling in love with another. This again is a very general statement and the whole issue would differ from person to person.

Physically, you see good people, you see attractive people, you meet and connect with so many people in your day to day life that you are bound to at some point of time or the other like the person.. I use the word LIKE in its true sense and no other ulterior motive. Is that liking wrong. No. I believe not. I move from different states of infatuations month after month. Is that wrong. Not to me. So if I am emotionally attached to a partner, do I close my eyes to the world.

tomorrow, even if i were married and Richard Gere comes before me, drool I will.... no questions about it. Does that make me unfaithful...

If u were working in a male dominated office and you have constant interacions with your colleugues, at some point of time, you move away from being collegues to becoming friends, to becoming anchors for each other in times of office stress etc. How would you classify that emotion.

So, i go back to my original statement that as long as your emotional quotient with your spouse is intact, other things dont really matter at all. Where trust exists.. other considerations fly out of the window.

These are my opinions on the subject matter. This is not intended to justify any action or glorify any action. Please dont construe it as such pls.

👏 Well said greatmaratha, I agree with you. It is possible to fall in love with more than one person but that doesnt mean that you go cheat on the one you are with already... we do get attracted to many people but we usually repress our thoughts and do what is socially accepted, and i think that is a right think. In other case where someone you have loved left you (by death/betrayed/break up/etc), it is a right thing to accept if you do fall in love with someone else cuz there are many ppl especially girls who think Love happens only once and commit they life to spend only in memories but I dont think that's very practical.. but at the same time i dont mean that you should just go to somebody else as soon as u loose the other person

Sorry I am not very good with words.. but hope whatever I have wrote make some sense...

Amreen

armeen, you have written very well indeed... its not words that matters, it is the emotion and the fact that you must convey whats in ur mind. You have conveyed that beautifully...