Falling in love with more than one person - Page 3

I especially liked ur analogy abt tap water

I guess wht confuses ppl is da definition of luv.

This is where the problem arises. Suddenly the spring water is turning into a trickle into her mind where the need for her husband is not strong as before. In fact the husband wants it, but she is too emotionally drained to have anything left for her husband.....inevitably, disasters strike.....

off course minnie. agree with you 100%.that's why i said we have to undersand what is tap-water and what is spring-water.certainly we should not give too much importance and time on the secondary relationship so that the relationship with the spouse gets hampered. that's why i wanted to say that we have to understand the definition and off course , the limit of each and every relation. 😊

rumi...two days i dont talk to you ...and you already start showing signs of extreme intelligence......😛😛😛

👏👏👏 lovely work pal

i am always intelligent baby!😉 you didn't know how great is your best friend! 😆

You know its unfair to be judgemental .........as to what made her fall for this other person inspite of the spouse .But i am dead against extra marrital affairs ......make a clean break with the previous marrige or with your affair . Chose one !!! I would believe that !!!

Friends, we discussed this topic long time ago and I love to read Rumi's, Minnie's, PJ's, Ideas views once in a while to get good thoughts for the day..today I came accross this nice post by Rumi some time ago and it has nice inputs by all members. You can also post your view if you want. Rumi we miss you in debate mansion...I also miss ideas don't know where are you all gone... 😭

Hi sowmyaa
i am very busy with my work in my college these days. 😭 that's why i only manage to come to post updates here. i hope this load will be a little light in the mid February. I promise to come to this section then. 😊

Defining and setting emotional and physical boundaries to love is what counts. Infidelity physical or emotional hurts your partner.

Well , there can be a few approaches to explain the feeling called love.
1. If you think of love one of the common human feelings,there is nothing wrong in falling in love with as many persons u like.If you can be happy 100 times a day or if you be hurt 20 times a day why love can't happen in your life more than once??
2. If you think of love as the feeling that we relate to our mother,father sister brother then also I dont think there is any problem including one more fellow in our beloved list.After all "Pyar batne se kam nehi hota"
3. If you decribe love as a special feeling toward a special person who happens to be husband or wife the I would say before judging this issue we need to think why you fall in love multiple times.Of cource I know that it happens for many peoples but that happens due to some problems in the relationship or sometimes due to some problems with the persons involved.
There are many reasons why a relationship becomes not so enjoyable and that sometimes divert the attentions of one or both involved in a relationship.Sometime it is improper frequency match sometime it is difference between the lifestyles they used to live before getting into the relationship sometime it is some bad habbit of one or both and sometime it is beacuse of one of the partnets being born just not tobe satisfied with one love.
Whatever be the reason you better go and investigate the reason why its happening but God's shake don't change the meaning of the very special feeling called LOVE.

Himali,
This is the topic I was talking about. I didn't wanted to repeate some discussions done here so I think this could help you answer your question.