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sowmyaa

@sowmyaa

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Posted: 20 years ago

Sibling! Having sibling also play major role in your upbringing. Sibling teaches you to share, care, fight and also to be for each other when you grow up as adults. It is great experience to be brought up with brother/sister or both. I am not generalizing anything here, but I have seen that now a days (I am only talking about Indian families both living in India and abroad) couple are limiting their family to one child. There are millions of individual reasons for these but some general reason are working parents, expensive lifestyle, hard to raise kids etc. Do you think having sibling is very important for chid's growth or you think it is not that of a big deal? Also, I would like to hear from someone who does not have a sibling and is only child and if he/she ever wished that they had brother/sister.

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Deepthi

@DeepAnBH

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Posted: 20 years ago

I agree, growing up with a sibling is a lot more fun. It teaches many important lessons and we have a life long friend in our siblings.

But what should happen to the world population and natural resources. I think every family should have a biological child and an adopted child. That ways the family is complete in all ways and the world will be a better place

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sowmyaa

@sowmyaa

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Posted: 20 years ago

Ok here is my life dilemma, when I had my first baby I had lots of post partum problem and me and my husband had gone through lot of things. Specially me – I had to go through lot of physical and mental torture. Due to that we were not even able to enjoy our baby's first couple months. Just 'coz my in-laws were there with us for long time we were able to come out as winner and remember those bad days with smile. They were so helpful physically and as a moral support too. Now, I want to have a second baby just 'coz I think my first one should have a brother or sister and family is complete. I want her to be exposed to how it is to have another baby like her who is so near to her. However, my husband is very scared after what happened first time. Dr's said that just 'coz you had this problem first time it won't happen second time. It's nothing that bad, but still we are burnt with the first experience. Now its very hard to convience my husband and ofcourse, I don't want to trick him ;-) but if I also think of those days I get nervous too. Now as deep said, my husband also wants to adopt a child. But I am not too sure about that thing. I don't want to do something this big in my life for which I have even .1% doubt.

In such case, I feel very bad that I can't even give my daughter a sibling and its not that I cannot it's just that I might have to go through some physical complication in beginning, but then its going to be just fine. I feel guilty that she will be missing all such fun just 'coz of our decision. Apart from this big issue, another issues like tvmaniac pointed out is that if we have 1 child we have option to take her to India every year and I can stop working for 2 mths every year and just stay with her in India fro 2 mth and give her cultural exposure to India and to live with her grandparents. But it's very sticky point I guess and its hard to make decision that will affect your whole life rather life of your first child. I don't want to live all my life with a guilt that I could not give her a sibling and at the same time I am scared to go through all those nightmares again!!

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simran

@simi1295

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Posted: 20 years ago

i dont knw abt anyone else but im so glad i have a sister.. she is more of a best friend then a sister... i talk to her about everything and i dont knw what i would do if i didnt have her. she teaches me things which no one else can, not even friends. she taught me alot about life and all the things that we have to go through in life. i think its very important to have a sibling, otherwise the kid grows up feeling alone. having a sibling can be like having a best friend who you can live with and who is thr for you always, day or nite. 😊

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Morgoth

@Morgoth

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Posted: 20 years ago

Its not a big deal if you dont have siblings. The general stereotypical impression of an only child is that he/she is a spoilt rich brat or is dying of loneliness. Is this true? In some cases, yes.

But, in most cases, its really NOT. Children develop based on how parents mold them. In most cases, only children are quite normal. Having a sibling is not essential. Friends and hobbies work quite well to alleviate loneliness.

Life's lessons such as sharing, et al. can be taught by parents. Anyway, why complain when you can get all that hot water to yourself 😉.

Jokes apart, sometimes, parents have monetary constraints or do not have enough help around the house (which is required when it comes to raising a child post pregnancy) which is why they decide not to have another child.

Anyway, its all about adaptation to different things. Children adapt easily and not having a brother or sister does not hinder their growth!

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Athena90

@Athena90

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Posted: 20 years ago

i am a single child! growing up alone is kinda difficult. Sometimes, u face situations which u feel like sharing with someone but really don't think anyone would understand!

there are times where u really are alone, lonely despite having many friends! and u wish u just hav a sibling

my mom has a wonderful relationship with her 2 brothers and i feel i have been robbed off that privaledge! its really sad

But i guess everything has its pros and cons. Right?.

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greatmaratha

@greatmaratha

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Posted: 20 years ago

I cant ever imagine growing up without my pesky bro..... Its been such great fun with full of ups and downs, but mostly the journey to adulthood through childhood with my bro has been just great.

The sharing that we have developed over the years has now matured itself into this strong bond and that is really my comfort corner. I know that even if the world turns away completely from me, this one place I am always welcome.

I think growing up with siblings does make us better persons. By this I dont mean that people without siblings or single child are not mature or selfish etc... thats really a streotype and stereotypes have a way of proving themselves wrong, but its nicer with a sibling around to share your fun and burden during your growing up years.

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frosty

@frosty

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Posted: 20 years ago

I am an only child and its not just lonely growing up, it is lonelier when
you hit your mid-twenties. Most of us start thinking about our parents
mortality at this age, and while all of us hope and pray that our parents
live to be a hundred, we all know that the inevitable going to happen.
This fear is the worst for an only child. Trust me I know. You realise that
you are truly going to be ALL alone. I know that your spouse supports you
but only children can truly feel the loss of a parent and an only child at
such occasions is actually the ONLY one experiencing the emotion. It is
this fear and also the fact that when I am old I will have no one I
remenisce about my childhood and parents with that saddens me. Yes I
am blessed with good friends but no amount of friends can subsitute
family. I am not saying that people who opt to have only one child are
wrong, just wanted to share my experience

Edited by frosty - 20 years ago

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Aparna

@Aparna_BD

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Posted: 20 years ago

It sure helps to have a sibling .......we as parents( not that i am a parent ) will not be around for ever .....and its good to know that your kids at least have each other when we are gone !!

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ME_T

@ME_T

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Posted: 20 years ago

#10

i have 2siblings.
and it they play an imp role in my life.

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