Is marriage necessary? - Page 4

haha let's run a cost-benefit analysis to see how marriage really stacks up-

1. married folks supposedly live longer. good for them, bad if society has to foot their medicaid/ medicare bills into ripe old dotty age.

2. you certainly lose out on various gaming opportunities if you're married. if variety is the spice of life, then you've got to be ready to eat bland food for the rest of your married life.

3. marriage means foreclosing on and excercizing your options. options have value till they are unexcercized. once excercized, they turn into dreary obligations. of course, there are times you might want to "lock-in" that option if you find a good partner, but i'd still think you'd want to hedge around as long as you can get away with it.

4. on the other hand, i see live-in relationships as largely an excuse for unadulterated adult-rated stuff. good if you are young and can keep up with the active demands of that life-style, bad if you're looking for plain old-fashioned rest and cartoon movies on weekends.

5. and then financially, the marriage partner brings with them various tax breaks. why pay uncle sam something if you can avoid it?

on balance it pays then to be married but it is as boring as a one-track mind😆

Human mind is really funny...It only understands the core values...And commitment is certainly one of them...A 'live in' couple may have commitment per say, but then again since the society doesnt approve of it, unknowingly they have their back doors open all the time...

sumtimes yeh it itz imp !! but not always

In the culture we belong to (Indians, Pakistanis, etc) it is necessary to get married because those are the social norms of those countries. I, however, don't think it is necessary.

IN the UK, cohabitation is on the increase to be a serious alternative to marriage. It is also now socially acceptable - though still NOT amongst our communities

Is marriage necessary?? Marriage is, in effect, a contractual relationship between two persons, and therefore whether it is necessary or not, depends upon the two parties entering into the contract. Whether the two persons chose to finalise the terms of their contract, the tenure of their contract (life long - ten years, five years etc 😉), the choice is really theirs.

I concur with all the points made by Sahana (Punjini) above and wont repeat them here.

Well, there are evolutionary reasons why the custom of marriage came into being in the first place....read the foll in terms of how life was back in the stone age (well, you know what I mean!)

1)property rights for the spouse of someone who dies (esp the women)
2) making sure the husband sticks around to provide for the family (coz it was the men who provided) If the law binds you together the man is less likely to wander off and not take responsibility.

I cld go on but these are some reasons...and now with the changing world, with women being increasingly independent you see a corresponding increase in live-in relationships.
So marriage is really abt security. Even emotionally, it used to be that if you're married then you're stuck together whether you like it or not! So it makes you feel more secure abt your partner....and then they fixed that problem with a wonderful concept called 'divorce'!! Now we just hope and pray that our spouses will not fall pray to the 'grass-on-the-other-side-is-greener' syndrome......

To finish....is marriage necessary? NO!
Did it come into existence for good reasons? YES!

P.S. I'm using the term 'evolutionary' here in a loose, non-genomic sense...

Originally posted by: mkzara

A while ago Buffie and I had a debate in which we digressed from the original topic into whether or not marriage was necessary and i wanted to talk about that. I know quite a few people who are in comitted relationships and dont believe in marriage. These people believe in spending their lives with each other and are in love with each other but dont believe in marriage. Since they are in committed relationships, i feel that marriage is not necessary. Marriage is considered to be a strong commitment, in which two people love each other, care for each other and stick with each other in the good and the bad. Now if someone has all that then marriage is simply a piece of paper which has no real significance and only exists to make the government aware of your commitment to each other.

good topic 👏

i agree with u 😊

well i used to belive its necessay to get marry

but now i don"T belive its just a social obligation

even in love u can be totaly commited to your partner

marriage is just done for the sake of society n govt

pinku

Originally posted by: egghatcher

the essence of entering into a marital bliss is personified by the sibgular phrase in sickness and in good health till death do us part

if one can stomach this commitment (to one singular person or bigamously to many😉) then it is worth going ahead

or else falter at the altar😛

Absolutely. It is all about evaluating your options and risks and then taking the final decision on which way you want to head....

But I do not agree that it is symbolised by the "till death do us part". One can contract to marry for a fixed period of time or for infinity.. aka till death 😉 Its all about the terms which you fix before you start the walk to the alter.

In some communities in India, even today, there is a contract of marriage which is prepared and signed by the parties/ their fathers, which forms the basis of their marriage, which even lists out all the material things which the girl gets into the marriage and the guy lists out his financial standing - almost like a pre-nup agreement

I think it is necessary. Partially because my family members would kill me if I didn't think so😛, and partially because it's what the world believes in. I mean, humans came into the world and set some rules for each other (i.e. we will wear clothes, we will live in houses, we will raise our children, etc etc). So marriage to me is kinduv like a rule the world has made. I don't know how old I sound while saying this, but I don't know that the world has advanced so much as to where two people do not marry one another anymore😳. It's just presumed to happen, ya noe? 😉