Is marriage necessary? - Page 5

Originally posted by: nikki79

Well, there are evolutionary reasons why the custom of marriage came into being in the first place....read the foll in terms of how life was back in the stone age (well, you know what I mean!)

1)property rights for the spouse of someone who dies (esp the women)
2) making sure the husband sticks around to provide for the family (coz it was the men who provided) If the law binds you together the man is less likely to wander off and not take responsibility.

I cld go on but these are some reasons...and now with the changing world, with women being increasingly independent you see a corresponding increase in live-in relationships.
So marriage is really abt security. Even emotionally, it used to be that if you're married then you're stuck together whether you like it or not! So it makes you feel more secure abt your partner....and then they fixed that problem with a wonderful concept called 'divorce'!! Now we just hope and pray that our spouses will not fall pray to the 'grass-on-the-other-side-is-greener' syndrome......

To finish....is marriage necessary? NO!
Did it come into existence for good reasons? YES!

P.S. I'm using the term 'evolutionary' here in a loose, non-genomic sense...

Originally posted by: s.priya

Absolutely. It is all about evaluating your options and risks and then taking the final decision on which way you want to head....

But I do not agree that it is symbolised by the "till death do us part". One can contract to marry for a fixed period of time or for infinity.. aka till death 😉 Its all about the terms which you fix before you start the walk to the alter.

In some communities in India, even today, there is a contract of marriage which is prepared and signed by the parties/ their fathers, which forms the basis of their marriage, which even lists out all the material things which the girl gets into the marriage and the guy lists out his financial standing - almost like a pre-nup agreement

Originally posted by: chatbuster

haha let's run a cost-benefit analysis to see how marriage really stacks up-

1. married folks supposedly live longer. good for them, bad if society has to foot their medicaid/ medicare bills into ripe old dotty age.
Good point but live-ins might live longer too, 'cause it is the staying together that leads to better health.


2. you certainly lose out on various gaming opportunities if you're married. if variety is the spice of life, then you've got to be ready to eat bland food for the rest of your married life.

Wrong! Food is bland when the chef doesn't know how to cook! You have to know how to add spices (Indian spices are better 😉).


3. marriage means foreclosing on and excercizing your options. options have value till they are unexcercized. once excercized, they turn into dreary obligations. of course, there are times you might want to "lock-in" that option if you find a good partner, but i'd still think you'd want to hedge around as long as you can get away with it.

Excellent point.

4. on the other hand, i see live-in relationships as largely an excuse for unadulterated adult-rated stuff. good if you are young and can keep up with the active demands of that life-style, bad if you're looking for plain old-fashioned rest and cartoon movies on weekends.


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And what are you looking for - the former or latter?


5. and then financially, the marriage partner brings with them various tax breaks. why pay uncle sam something if you can avoid it?

Absolutely!

on balance it pays then to be married but it is as boring as a one-track mind😆
On the other hand, if you want thunderstorms, earthquakes and volcanos in your life, get married! Who said it is boring?!

Originally posted by: cheri

I think arrange marriage is not necessary but love marriage is a sweet thing 😳