How dare you talk to ME like that?! - Page 2

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I believe in Tit for Tat and I apply same theory in my life. I do respect all my elders but if any circumstances comes in my life when I have to go against my elders wishes, I do it. Whether they like it or not. But I have my own way to go against their will. I would never hurt their sentiments, until they don't hurt mine and I am very strict about that. I have already applied Tit for Tat theory on my cousin sisters and my aunt, who didn't gave second thought before hurting me and in same way I taunted them in polite way, so that they would keep quite and no fights can take place. I had stopped talking to my sisters and aunts for two days, when they realised their mistakes, they apologized and I forgive them. 😔
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: rohun

im dealing with this now...i have had to speak some hard truths to my parents for things they have done to others that have not been right...truth hurts and elders dont like hearing it...but one must be careful in how they talk...i think it is best if you hold a mirror to them and talk about what they did rather than how you perceive them to be...that way you are using facts rather than emotions to deal with situations...in general of course there needs to be a level of respect given as they have more life experience than you which for the most part does make a difference...

I agree with you.
It so happens, when I and my parents have fights.. when I try to point out facts, I tend to hurt their feelings, and when we talk about feelings, they dont find any logic/facts... one needs to find the right balance in dealing with such issues.. which is sorta difficult.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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i do feel bad when someone talks to me like that. but i don't wanna force anyone to respect me in the way my elders do. i just don't want them to hate me. thats what it feels like to be respected when one see u trustworthy enough.
but few people in my family say that they can do anything just because they are older than me? i seriously don't back down in answering back to them. and i want my younger ones to be like that if i say something like that. of course i don't want to hurt them! but if they are saying something which i think is clearly wrong, then as i said i won't back down!

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