polygamy and Purdah - Woman's view? - Page 5

no probz sowmya...ne contribution is gud...and i dunno wat u ppl mean by purdah...purdah means covering...itz not an article of clothing...lol
ders a hijab (da head covering) a burqa (da long cloak covering da whole body except face) n den ders da niqab (veil over face plus all mentioned b4) sum ppl mite wear it cuz der forced 2 but most dont...4 sum ppl it has bcum culture n dey wud jus feel weird leavin da house w/o it and 4 others dey wear it bcuz dey want to..it is done by choice...infact ur not supposed 2 force ne1 2 do it

Wow, thats interesting to know sowmyaa. I feel it is some form of Hijab, covering the head with a cloth after all. I dont know the true history behind how this started to comment on it, I know there is some "Surya vanshi" connection for the Rajputs who believe they are the descendants of Kush from the Luv-Kush twins of Shri Ram and Sita. Dont know if this is a story or truly believed in.

And my good aapa 😆 (my sister but not really)wears a burkha according to conveniance, she has no qualms about wearing it especially when she feels she has put on weight. I've seen her in all the different kinds according to her mood 😆 veil, burkha, hijab and plain casual clothes and a swimsuit as well.

The way i see it hijab and all other forms of purdah should be chosen by the girl is she wants to do it. Some girls do it by choice like my friend she is 16 and her mother doesn't wear a hijab but she does because i guess she agrees with the principal behind it which is to not put so much emphasis on beauty and be a buffer between rude men and good women. I wud like to say ~PaKi*PrInCeZ~ great work u obviously know what u r talking about and it seems u have done quite some research. 👏 For me personally i dont wear a hijab but i dont believe it hinders people in any way if they choose to wear it and not if they r forced then its just a compulsion and there's no point in doing something if u dont believe its right and u want to do it so i am going to wait until i am ready and then do it. 😳

Hi guys , please correct me if i am wrong . Purdah has many forms - Its worn like hijab ( what i understand is like covering your head .....plz feel free to correct me) . To wearing a burqua that covers a woman from top to bottom .

Now i am an avid reader and love reading up on women's interest . Some of the books i have read are issues in Islamic Countries . This is simply to understand a culture that i am not very familiar with .

Now , i have understood that different Muslim countries ask their women to cover up in different ways , there are restriction in different ways and in different limits . Some of the Muslim Countries are forward towards their women - example Pakistan ,Iraq , Jordan ,Indonesia ,Malaysia ,Morroco etc etc. While some are very traditional - example - Saudi Arabia ,Afghanistan ,Iran etc.
Now after reading biographies / autobiographies from wome n who have lived among oppression from men - example honeymoon in purdah( Iran) ,All the Jean Sasson books(Princess ,Princess Sultana daughter etc....based in Saudi Arabia), My Forbidden Face (Story in Afghanistan),Price of Honor ,Reading Lolita in Tehran etc etc .....these were some of the books that give me insight on women's view on purdah .

Pakiz Princez as long as purdah isn't imposed on you , it hurts no one , possibly has its plus points . When a woman , must remain covered .....and be punished if even a single hair or nail shows . Thats when it leads to oppresion . Lucky are we women who haven't had these things imposed on us . After reading those books i felt depressed thinking of these women who have no liberties ,and need to remain covered in the Desert Sun of Saudi Arabia . Forget working they may not step out with out a male member of the family , they may not drive ( imagine trying to drive while wearing a burqua) , they may not go to a University . And many basic things that we take for granted are not given to them . Thats when Burqua can be an oppresor than a liberator .
Please do not take offense . This is purely a discussion without intention to hurt anyone !!

thannx zara 4 complmenting me..actually i didnt research it i jus knew it..lol

and yea aparna di...maybe im so pro it bcuz i choose 2 cover my head by choice and no1 forces me 2 and i did it cuz i felt it was rite and it dusnt interfere with ne of my daily activities...women in other countries rnt dat fortunate and maybe thts y those women c it as opression..

lolz @ aparni di 4 her comment on driving with a burqa on 😆 ..my mom dus it 😆 ....i jus wear a hijab but my mom wears a burqa cuz she wants 2 (lol theres no opression newhere here so my family is all pro hijab/burqa)...wen v r in da car she pulls it up past her knees and den drives so it dusnt get in da way 4 her..lol

Originally posted by: ~PaKi*PrInCeZ~

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lolz @ aparni di 4 her comment on driving with a burqa on 😆 ..my mom dus it 😆 ....i jus wear a hijab but my mom wears a burqa cuz she wants 2 (lol theres no opression newhere here so my family is all pro hijab/burqa)...wen v r in da car she pulls it up past her knees and den drives so it dusnt get in da way 4 her..lol

Jav i pictured an Asian lady driving a car like you said !!😆😆 . But she must lifting the veil on her head while she drives right ? I am thinking of those ladies who aren't allowed to show even an inch of skin to the public as a rigid rule .Can't even lift that veil for a second .They are punished if they do so in some conservative countries . Ladies like your mom and girls like you who do it willingly will never feel upset about this rigid rule .

I mean when i was in India , while i was around my In- laws i had to wear a Saree . I started to detest Sarees because it was a compulsion . Now in the U.S i crave occasions to wear Saree .Anything thats a compulsion becomes unattractive .

Like my dearest friend is a Punjabi Jain who always loved wearing short skirts and tank tops , she married a Marwari Jain and was forced to do a ghoonghat(form of purdah) all the time inside the house with her in - laws around . Poor girl was so miserable that her freedom was taken away !! She forced her husband to move out especially for this sweet piece of freedom . Now she still does ghoonghat when she meets her in laws , BUT is happy that she doesn't have to do it all the time as a rule.

Thats what i mean , purdah or ghoonghat when forced becomes oppresive . When chosen , like you've done , it feels sweet !!😛

Originally posted by: Aparna_BD

Hi friends ,as some of you know i am not a Muslim .But in the Islamic religon, Polygamy - marrying 4 wives at a time . And Purda are an important part of the culture .

My question to women and men too are ,how are things in this modern age with regards to polygamy . Is it still happening a lot ? What does a woman feel about it ? Before her marriage does a young girl be ready to accept sharing her husband with another man ?I Have read that Allah permits a man to take on more thyan one wife ONLY if he can treat they equally . Now is that humanly possible for a man to do so ???Have you seen it done ? Is anybody in such an relationship ?

Purdah - Islam wants the women to be covered .Are there women who cover themselves and feel covering themselves curbs their rights . Or do you feel its a good way to feel secure against one wanted stares etc . From a woman's point of view would like to hear an Islamic woman's point of view ,

P.S - My post is not meant to hurt any one or put any religon down . Its a way to understand our neighbours culture . If i said any thing offensive , please forgive me , as i may have said it without even knowing it coulod be hurtfull.

Regarding marriage, I would say that marriage, is an institution and as far as my knowledge about the culture goes, marriage is based on the fundamentals of trust, faith and human values, further I believe the century old Islamic tradition of more than one marriage was culture with a purpose, and had a noble intent, though the same thoughts are not followed by people in this day and age.

yea aparna di..ur rite...nething v r forced 2 do seems bad 2 us...cuz v r forced 2 do it bt if we choose 2 do it it is fun and v Njoy it

heyy dus ne1 else have ne opinions regarding this issue? (well actually i jus wanted 2 make sure it stays on pg 1 😆 )

hey guyz dun kill me for my opinion.... but i realy hate it when ppl do it for their convenience and call it religion.... like i know many girls from my skool who wear hijab becuz they think they look better with it and then they wear deep necklined tops and skirts... like i feel bad when i see that... becuz even if it is not my religion, i really respect what hijab stands for, like the actual belief behind the practice... i have seen these same girls flirting so much with guys and doing all kinds of stuff... and one day they wear it another day they take it off... so is it like, that its ok if the guys see their on one day buts its wrong if guys see their hair on another day... i feel that if u r following religion its very good but don't just use it for ur convenience and put it aside when u want to... thats what i think.... and i agree with paki princess... if it is by choice then u would enjoy it 😊