a family issue, about my son - Page 4

Originally posted by: Rapier

the question was...will you? let's say u have a very open minded daughter in the future, if not already. will u put her in that relationship? he is a scholarship boy after all, with a minor drawback of sex addiction. will you?

and i want to know ur answer when i reverse this as well. let's say there is a promiscuous girl. will you marry her (assuming u r a guy), thinking that it will all settle after u get married?

first of all no i wont put her there.. but if somebody... comes with a proposal for their ayyash son.. i would leave it to her to judge him.. but you have a right question,.. thats if and when i have a daughter in teh future.. may be I think like you are doing .. for you second question.. i would i mean i mean if she can walk to teh alter.. i can assure her amended behavior...as long as she is not on drugs etc... btw i have seen first hand couple of cases where , skittled away guys become sheepish husbands...to plain vanilla wives.after marriage...😆

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

"doesnt work out" is an american fad.. seriously.. back in india.. people dont go that far to think.. it doesnt work out etc...!!People make it work,,,,😊.. again depending on which part of india he is from...

Marriages do work out more in India, but it comes at a cost. Usually the women are the ones to suffer in order to make things work. My distant relative got married to a man who beat the living day light out of her. After 20 or so years, he "calmed down" and they're still together. I guess this is what you mean by making it work.

Originally posted by: PandorasBox

Marriages do work out more in India, but it comes at a cost. Usually the women are the ones to suffer in order to make things work. My distant relative got married to a man who beat the living day light out of her. After 20 or so years, he "calmed down" and they're still together. I guess this is what you mean by making it work.

i dont know of any wife battering people myself.. i meant parting ways on differences not inhuman grounds.. your relative proves my point even strongly.. if inhuman behavior is not making woman quit off the hubbies...other differences hardly would...

Originally posted by: blue-ice

Qwerty...time for you to visit India and take a look ..............Indians have managed to copy everything that is American...be it the TV shows, movies, dressing style or the american lingo............."doesnt work out" has also been successfully copied by Indians.........now it "doesnt work out" in India also😆

that's because she, like millions of Indian women are bound by necessity. Society, her family, his family will outcast her. Where will she go, what would she eat? It's quite a responsibility to "cure" their husband on the girl's shoulder.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

first of all no i wont put her there.. but if somebody... comes with a proposal for their ayyash son.. i would leave it to her to judge him.. but you have a right question,.. thats if and when i have a daughter in teh future.. may be I think like you are doing .. for you second question.. i would i mean i mean if she can walk to teh alter.. i can assure her amended behavior...as long as she is not on drugs etc... btw i have seen first hand couple of cases where , skittled away guys become sheepish husbands...to plain vanilla wives.after marriage...😆

well glad to know that at least u will give her the chance to decide for herself. but what if she decides she wants to marry him? then what? will u accept? u said u will start to think like me. meaning u will not be comfortable. yet u give such an advice to someone?

u would marry her despite her previous sexual behavior, knowing that her addiction to sex is not cured? and what if she isn't reformed. then what?

there are also people, namely women, who had their lives ruined thanks to such marriages. and they couldn't even divorce. because guess what? they were expected to make it work.

Although we have deviated away from the main topic a bit, I wonder where the TM is? I would like to hear what she has to say.

Again, talking to the son and deciding if professional help would be the way to go should be discussed with your family.

Originally posted by: blue-ice

Qwerty...time for you to visit India and take a look ..............Indians have managed to copy everything that is American...be it the TV shows, movies, dressing style or the american lingo............."doesnt work out" has also been successfully copied by Indians.........now it "doesnt work out" in India also😆

I had to post on this 😳. You are right, Indian's have copied the US amazingly. Indian ways are primitive and very oppressive. You have got a very good point there. In Europe we have donated our culture which shaped what is today the western culture, and now the culture of the USA. Ofcourse USA did then evolve more with their culture, but the foundation were all laid by Europeans who created USA as it is today. I think Indians need to be grateful to the British aswell for getting English. Today I see that anyone educated pursues the European languages or English much more, and I feel that thus India is trying to prove themselves worthy to be a part of the modern world.

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Originally posted by: blue-ice

Why do I have to know first hand incidences to know that it exists...if its there its there.....there are several ways to know it...........in India marriages survive more because the women have less options over there.......the places where the women are educated and working and have more options....the divorce rate is high.....and it doesn't work out anymore...

the reason i asked is since statistics is a big joke - one japanese team was travelling through UP and saw a lot of people spitting.. concluded a lot of people from india suffer from TB.. when actually they saw the people spitting after eating Pan... 😆....... which is why i say if you dont know many first hand.. there are chances... i dont have to travel to india to see "drastic changes"😊

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

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I had to post on this 😳. You are right, Indian's have copied the US amazingly. Indian ways are primitive and very oppressive. You have got a very good point there. In Europe we have donated our culture which shaped what is today the western culture, and now the culture of the USA. Ofcourse USA did then evolve more with their culture, but the foundation were all laid by Europeans who created USA as it is today. I think Indians need to be grateful to the British aswell for getting English. Today I see that anyone educated pursues the European languages or English much more, and I feel that thus India is trying to prove themselves worthy to be a part of the modern world.

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I don't know if its even worth commenting. Can't argue ignorance and prejudice.