Age difference in a relation...... - Page 3

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

Why do you always make these kinda posts? LOL!!! Can you not think of something else besides *** for a change? Anyways, I know you're just kiddin, so, I'll let you off the hook.😳😆

dear i just say the truth....😆...think about this one too...

It has been proven that girls mature faster than guys, so to be on the same maturity level in a relationship, it will be better for the guy to be at least two years older. It usually doesn't work out for the girl to be older (of course, there are exceptions) because she matures faster and guys are still pretty immature until they pass the age of 20 at least (sorry for all guys out there who are younger and pretty mature😳), and girls get pretty annoyed with guys who can't relate with their "real" problems.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

if the two connect sexually in the wildest possble way everything else falls in place......😆

That rule can apply when it comes to extramarital affairs - but with your spouse, you must first connect at many other levels, warna jeena kaafi mushkil ho jayega.

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

An 18-yr-old girl would certainly not be able to meet the expectations of a 30-yr-old and vice versa. Yes, there will be clashes of opinions...more like a generation gap. How can you treat someone who's FIFTEEN years older than you as you life-partner, someone who you're supposed to walk with hand in hand in every step of your life and treat like your best friend, your soul mate? I mean, I'd never be able to do that. I guess it's about how you perceive people. I always take someone who's ten years or older than me as an elderly figure to me and the respect is more like the respect I have for my elder brothers, uncles, aunts, dad, mom, etc and not in the way I'm supposed to respect my spouse, if that makes sense. Likewise, I'd never be able to take someone younger than me (or of the same year as me) as my life partner coz I would wanna feel like the lady of the house and not the man of the house who takes care of a baby boy and dominates him. Even if the guy is mentally more mature than me but younger than me age-wise, I'd find it socially embarrassing. Like WA said, I prefer the guy to be at least two-five years older than the girl. More than that or less than that can take a u-turn or hand me a rakhi.😛

Originally posted by: _LalithaJanaki_

girls get pretty annoyed with guys who can't relate with their "real" problems.

Immaturity pisses me off. I'd shoot myself if I ended up with a guy who still played video games.

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Immaturity pisses me off. I'd shoot myself if I ended up with a guy who still played video games.

My dad is 10 yrs older to my mom. Both my brothers are approx. a year older to their wives. My hubby is four years older to me. We all have our "happily married" and "not-so-happily" married days.

I don't think age has anything to do with true happiness. The hearts need to connect - that's what matters most. Temperaments matter too. If a couple has just the right age-gap (b/w 2-5 yrs going by most posts here) but their temperaments and upbringing are totally different - chances are they won't find much happiness.

We can come up with numerous theories about the perfect age gap but that's pretty much what they all will remain - theories. Frankly speaking - most desi marriages last together due to the social/family pressure and desi thinking. I have seen very few desi couples who are truly happy or truly in love. Most are just plain old habitual of each other after spending so many years together. Most are too afraid to look within and do some soul-searching as far as issues like happiness and love are concerend. Nothing wrong with it - it seems to be working for the desi kids. But why the heck we spend so much time looking for the right family, right age gap, right this, right that when we all know it's going to be a compromise for most of our lives. Most desi marriages are based on everything but love.

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

My dad is 10 yrs older to my mom. Both my brothers are approx. a year older to their wives. My hubby is four years older to me. We all have our "happily married" and "not-so-happily" married days.

I don't think age has anything to do with true happiness. The hearts need to connect - that's what matters most. Temperaments matter too. If a couple has just the right age-gap (b/w 2-5 yrs going by most posts here) but their temperaments and upbringing are totally different - chances are they won't find much happiness.

We can come up with numerous theories about the perfect age gap but that's pretty much what they all will remain - theories. Frankly speaking - most desi marriages last together due to the social/family pressure and desi thinking. I have seen very few desi couples who are truly happy or truly in love. Most are just plain old habitual of each other after spending so many years together. Most are too afraid to look within and do some soul-searching as far as issues like happiness and love are concerend. Nothing wrong with it - it seems to be working for the desi kids. But why the heck we spend so much time looking for the right family, right age gap, right this, right that when we all know it's going to be a compromise for most of our lives. Most desi marriages are based on everything but love.

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Immaturity pisses me off. I'd shoot myself if I ended up with a guy who still played video games.

To my beloved and cherished mates, my companions of good times and hard, my source of pride and joy, the smile of my lips and the tears of my eyes. My little loves Link & Zelda & Midna, Prince Dastan, Marth & Roy and all my Melee mates, Mario & Peach, My Raving Rabbids, to Lou and my Guitar and our band the Furious Zagzag - this winter it shall be the end of our days. 😭

Come let me play a last reprise of Knights of Cydonia in your honor. Let me shred it one last time.

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lU6H7Vh0uEo[/YOUTUBE]

Originally posted by: _LalithaJanaki_

I know, right? I have some "non-romantic" guy friends who talk about very babyish video game/i-pod problems when we girls are talking about problems in the world, or stress-related issues. It gets very annoying and ruins the mood.😡😆 If I ever marry, I'm marrying someone who's between 3-5 years older than me. No younger boys for me, thank you very much!😆

I find it really sad that women are so hostile to men and their toys. There is nothing babyish or unromantic about video games and I-Pods. Obviously with such attitudes I guy would rather play with Samus Aran. Sometimes the best relationships are when you stay up all night, working hard, pushing and shoving, working up a sweat with that wiimote for a good melee.

Actually, adding on a more serious note. This is why compatibility really comes in. Sometimes what is mature and immature differs from person to person. Its not that guy who plays video games is less mature or childish. There are some great responsible guys out there who love video games. Some even in their thirties and forties, some with kids. It just depends on finding a girl who understands or can tolerate this small side obsession. Guys may find a girl's shopping habits and tastes to be annoying and irritating. The girl has to find the right guy willing to compromise with her tastes.

Age is a factor, and huge age gaps can be challenging. But its a minor factor when comparing overall connectivity and compatibility. If you find someone you can genuinely connect with emotionally, intellectually, physically it does not really matter if they are five years younger or older. True compatibility is the essence of a relationship.