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Originally posted by: Ecrivain.

Mata ji

You are saying the same thing albeit differently😆

@bold these lines tune into arranged marriage vs love marriage.

That is exactly what I had said yesterday that in an arrange set up one goes into it with a mindset that adjustment will be the key and hence, the longevity and success. And in a love marriage, its a case of knowing too well which has the con of goes kaput in your face when the circumstances close on in.

But, saying that mostly arranged marriages work and love marriages dont, is wrong. I will give you an alternate scenario where in a couple or even one of them holds onto the relationship for the times gone by and for the love shared while in arranged marriage that emotional aspect is negligible and hence, at the outset of a family vs spouse scenario or a scenario where compatibility is an issue or a case here one of the spouse's finds love outside simply cos he/ she hasnt had the experience earlier is detrimental to the relationship too.

And Soup, are you kidding me😆Distance because its healthy for the heart, you are too cute.😳Pre-,arial sex is a choice, not a norm and the couple takes an informed decision with all cons and pros weighed and there is protection available for taking care off health from STDs or unwanted pregnancies.

So yep, its a measured step, and to be honest in an arranged marriage the beginning of matrimony with a bloody suhaagraat is so God damn cringreworthy that anything is better than that, absolutely anything. 😆I am sorry but this ritual should be done away with asap. Its only to vent the frustration that close knit societies fuel in a man and woman who are tied like bulls and cattles in separate farms.🤢Eww, its gross.

Originally posted by: Dreamer-89

Err, no.

I was talking about the real lives, Benna. In an arranged marriage, the couple is supposed to have sex on the first night, despite the fact that they barely know each other or have met only on the respective ceremonies/ functions. In some cases the groom and the bride meet directly on the day of the wedding and yet, people expect them to establish a sexual relationship on the go and have babies there after.

Haha, in TV land its all about TRPs and if the SR is done well, it garners eyeballs.

I agree the union in IPK1 under the stars was heavenly and blessed. Oh and yes, you are right, there wasnt any promo or anything about it. It caught everyone off guard 😆😳

Originally posted by: Ecrivain.

Real life that's the way it works?? 🤓 yikes that's so lame..I don't know what to say other than What the in ASR style ok so now it explains how the Telkyland track garners TRPs

Originally posted by: Dreamer-89

Originally posted by: Ecrivain.

Originally posted by: dey.bh

Common now, its a very poor description of an arranged marriage. I had arranged marriage and yes such rituals also exist but its still just a ritual.Sexual relationship without marriage is considered evil. Marriage is therefore the beginning of a new life rather the beginning of sex life.This new event is thus glorified. Its therefore a celebration. But its still just a ritual like the ritual of marriage itself is. Legally, you could only sign and get married. Yet you choose the traditional way. Like wise people get a decorated bedroom for their first night. You can always consummate your marriage later as most of the people do. Nobody is going to tell you that because beyond that door you and your partner decide the rules. Its still a matter of choice even in an arranged marriage. The question of protected sex is also adequately decided like it is decided in a love marriage.

Having said that, there will be exceptions in some families where womenfolk are married so that they can produce the male heir but this generalization is quite misleading. Exceptions are not examples.Also, when two people decide to get married even in an arranged marriage, they know what to expect ahead. Unlike love marriages, the development is slow but definitely beautiful. Meanwhile, all the rituals will bring you close to your partner. Each ritual has its own beliefs and own reasons. These are actually are the building blocks of the new relationship. Its like building the bond of friendship first before starting a sexual relationship.

Love marriage and arranged marriage are two different things. Don't compare them. Each has its own pros and cons. Each is good in its own way.

Originally posted by: dey.bh

Yes, that is the case but the way it was said it did put the whole idea of arranged marriage in bad light. Yes, I represent a section and so does the girls you are referring to. Be sure the topic is about them.

Forcing someone for sex is always bad, marriage or no marriage, love marriage or arranged marriage or even for Devdasi pratha or Natha pratha. I just someday women get what they deserve.Slowly. very slowly the trend is changing.

Amrita Pritam's ' The Weed ' is one story which gives insight to how women are raised in rural areas.

Btw anyone following the Sabarimala temple case?