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savvy05

@savvy05

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Posted: 11 years ago

#211

Biraj, we rarely see you on the CC these days and it is lovely to catch you online after a long time. Safe travels🤗

Visi, love to be part of a book club even though it is a big time commitment Would love to see if anyone else is interested in this😃 MoM in that respect strikes a right balance in terms of diversity of content as well as the time requirement.

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Vistaa

@Vistaa

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Posted: 11 years ago

#212

@Shoomie: Happy Navratri to you and yours😃...could not help but chuckle at IWMG😊 So true!! Good that you have a friends circle that can help take care of the problem.

Loved your post and I too, was most struck by the total lack of any bitterness or anger when they meet again. It is simply regret and pain, nothing else.

@Biraj & Doc: Voila!! Problem solved!!!😆

@Savs: Agree that BC is a big time commitment, but we can still dream and hope, no? 😃

Thank you ladeez for the fabulous discussion and company! Take care and Rabba Ve🤗 And once again, Happy Navratri to all who are celebrating!!

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PSharada

@PSharada

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+ 10

Posted: 11 years ago

#213

Originally posted by: Vistaa

Thanks Sarada.

You raise a legitimate point about any of it being worth it. I think both JK and Aarti would be asking themselves that very question whenever they are feeling low and missing each other. But that is also one of life's conundrums that really does not have any real, good, constant answer. It would vary from situation to situation. When Aarti wins a landslide victory and goes on to lead her government for the greater good of the people, her answer might be yes, it was worth it. Then again, when she attends Manno's graduation and sees her rush to hug her father and simply smile at her, then Arti;s answer might be different.

Damn AD is so hectic - So many beautiful takes and I wanted to write about each one but time sure is a cruncher for now. I so wanted to write what you have written down in the bold Visiji.

I can relate to my experience here. I was a Masters in Mathematics in India and when I shifted to US my husband encouraged me to do my Masters in Computer science as being an engineer was my childhood dream which I couldn't do when I was studying due to lot of reasons. I did give my GRE and TOEFL and when I finished my grad course, I had landed a plum job in Cisco in campus interview and this was in 2000 when the market was zooming ahead. But however I was expecting my elder one and so I gave up the job offer and not only that I stayed as a home maker and a mom and I took up job only when my younger one turned 2.5 yrs and started pre-school in 2005. That was my decision because I felt no matter what I could have earned, I would never give that up for the time I spend raising my kids. Had I gone in 2000 for the job, I would have been way up in the career ladder but I choose not to do that. Now even when I am stuck at a Team lead position, I am happy, so if I were in Aarthi's shoes, I wouldn't be happy. That much I am pretty sure of. Maybe that is my perspective but I still feel Aarthi was the loser in the whole bargain. Looking at the whole picture, she seems to have lost a lot. Maybe you all may differ with me but that is my thought on Aarthi's decision.

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dips99

@dips99

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Posted: 11 years ago

#214

Payal, loved your take. Especially the last part.

Schoomi, it always amazes me to realize how the perspective changes over the period of time. As Savvy said, it's easier to see the other side of everything hopefully because we are older and wiser 😊

We should really finish this Gulzar trilogy and add Ijaazat to our future MoM list. But we need some regional movies now.

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Newbiesoapfan

@Newbiesoapfan

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Posted: 11 years ago

#215

Originally posted by: soapsuds
Enjoyed reading all of you. Work calls now. Wish I could have re watched the movie rather than a hazy memory of watching it ...some 35 years ago...or thereabouts. The fact that I haven't been able to rewatch any of the MoM tells me that there is something wrong with my life that I haven't been able to get in that time! Although fortunately have watched most of them...once upon a time...except of course the one that must not be mentioned...,(...I am with J on voldemort )...so have been able to enjoy all the discussions. But re watching as an adult I am sure will be a completely different perspective. Hoping to do better for the next MoM and actually watch ( or rewatch) the movie in time.

I didn't watch then... and no time to watch in time for the MOM!! Kitna time time ...!! Lovely discussions !!

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Newbiesoapfan

@Newbiesoapfan

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Posted: 11 years ago

#216

Originally posted by: Vistaa

I hear you about the nostalgia, Doc. Nostalgia for all the things you mentioned, + maybe simpler times, specially for kids. No 24/7 connectivity, life lived in real world and not on FB, and the mandatory two hours outdoor playtime in the evenings. Kho kho, I spy, and sikdi and the rest. 😊

Totally with you, Savs and Dipsy on the bold. That is exactly what it has to be: both have to stay true to themselves and in order to do that, they cannot stay together. And therein lies the tragedy for me. Not that the story ends with both going in opposite directions, for that is the only thing they can do, but the fact that it has to be that way. Sure, the ending of the story sees a huge improvement in their lives in that, as Dipsy said, both find closure to the demise of their marriage. And as you mention, the connection has been re-established and the channels of communication are open again. And to that extent, it is a happy ending...my reaction is to the reality that it has to be this way. Both are getting on in years...surely, they are going to be missing other more and more when they are apart.

So true about Savs's awesomeness in managing the MoM...how remiss of me to not thank her, 😳 Thanks, Savs, you are the best!!!🤗

Am wondering looking at the MOM and my recollections of glimpses of the movie...the movie was far ahead of its time ... a family that broke but came back together later ... the exes making peace... its possibly more in tune with what happens today... a woman moving because of career and making a choice ... and then still staying in touch with family in a way ( broken or unbroken)... more possible by the connectivity that is possible nowadays... I am actually going against Visi's tide here... but ... that's what struck me...

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PSharada

@PSharada

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Posted: 11 years ago

#217

AD is back breaking and hectic.The Telengana protests have really made situation bad in south India. My family went to Tirupathi but were stuck there due to the bandh and non-plying of the buses. The situation is really bad but they had the sense to turn back and come home safely. The fight for separate statehood is getting ridiculous day by day. So what's happening.

So dips was suggesting for regional movies next time around for MoM. How about we do Sakhi/Saathiya of Mani Ratnam. I think people who know Tamil and Telugu can watch Mani Ratnam's movie( I personally feel Madhavan and Shalini were top-notch in the original and way better than Vivek and Rani) and others can follow the Hindi version of Saathiya. A.R Rahman gave awesome music and the story is a happy ending hamesha wala one.

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meens80

@meens80

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#218

Originally posted by: -Vee05-
[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84XOVz-SHQw[/YOUTUBE]

Where did you dig this one out from Vee? Nice song..Man look at Mohinish Bhel, looking at these heros age I myself feel old now😳
Hope the pregnancy is coming along smoothly and you are doing well..

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meens80

@meens80

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#219

Wonderful discussion on the MOM, every month I think I will surely watch the movie and participate in the discussions the following month and SKD mein hi reh jata hai😒
Been busy so haven't had a chance to re-watch the movie, but loved all the takes.

I think the work life balance is a very individualistic and personalized topic, each one can have a different take and no-one is really right or wrong. I have friends that range from overly ambitious to completely laid back, each one does their best to be the perfect mom, wife and daughter in every which way. I think in today's world it is much easier to strike a balance and have the best of both the worlds.
With flexible working schedules, work from home arrangements many can afford to be working and soccer moms at the same time😳.

A very close friend of mine is a Sr. Partner at PWC in NY. She 33 years old has two boys and does EVERYTHING possible with them but then I think she barely sleeps😆😆. She loves being the top accountant in her very skilled team and loves being a mom too. On the other hand my neighbor has 3 kids and spends all day with them, cooking, cleaning,entertaining n being the perfect hostess to anyone passing by and just loves her chilled out life. So its all about what you want from your life and noone can say one choice is better than the other.

I also think the support and encouragement you get from your family is equally important. My cousin in India was a very spunky girl and very talented at jewellery design. She had a love marriage into a rich conservative family who did not think it was necessary for her to work, they wanted her to persue her talent as a hobby n that just completely died down in a couple years. Today her hubby is super successful, with an active social and professional life and she tries to be the perfect housewife who has learnt to be happy with her family. But she is so not the same girl she was 10 years back.

Where are my manners, hello everyone🤗

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-Vee05-

@-Vee05-

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Posted: 11 years ago

#220

Originally posted by: meens80

Where did you dig this one out from Vee? Nice song..Man look at Mohinish Bhel, looking at these heros age I myself feel old now😳
Hope the pregnancy is coming along smoothly and you are doing well..

I was looking for the remix version and found the original and liked it so much better ki i was like lets post this 😊

Things are going well...😃