Is Saif calling Amrita ugly? - Page 6

Originally posted by: hotchoco

Look at Mira and Shahid. Her friends are probably still clubbing and partying and here she is the mother of two kids.

Mira Rajput will be 27 in 3 weeks.

I'm not sure that she's sitting at home with her hot ass husband and two beautiful babies thinking "oh gawd, if only I was off my tits in some Chandni Bar downing Sambuca's and dancing to Anarkali Disco Chali before losing my purse and walking home"..

Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose

I think, maybe not problematic, but it's very difficult.. and it's not everyone's cup of tea. They can work, but sooner or later can create practical issues. Before getting into one - one really needs to sit down and weigh pros and cons very carefully. In old age too, one should be ready that in all likelihood, they will be left alone if the spouse is much older.

Physical ageing and looks is just one aspect of age gap, there are others too.

I knew someone who had a love marriage and her hubby was 10 years older and wanted a divorce. Her main issue was, that he was the more dominating one in the relationship and dismissive about her opinions/ decisions, and treated her like a naive kid because she was 10 years younger than him.

It kind of silly if you think about it but it was eating her from inside everyday,

Frankly, a man that talks like this would have done the same to Kareena too. The only difference is that he himself is too old now and a flop also to attract a young hot woman with a big name like Kareena. Some random desperate models can’t provide the fame and power couple status that Kareena does.

She is just lucky she has him now when his options are limited. He will stick with her because where’s he going to find someone hotter from now?

Originally posted by: hotchoco

Frankly, a man that talks like this would have done the same to Kareena too. The only difference is that he himself is too old now and a flop also to attract a young hot woman with a big name like Kareena. Some random desperate models can’t provide the fame and power couple status that Kareena does.

She is just lucky she has him now when his options are limited. He will stick with her because where’s he going to find someone hotter from now?

Waise, I think Kareena genuinely loves him.

Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose

Waise, I think Kareena genuinely loves him.

She is a simp for him. Only Kareena can believe Saifu is an intellectual and historian. She is the perfect airhead for someone like him. 😂

Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose

What I think is - Does Saif regret marrying Amrita who was 13 years older to him- he was just 21 at the time if I'm not wrong. He may have felt that he was too young when he got in such a serious commitment which he may have not really been ready for, which made him miss out things that probably he thinks would have enjoyed if both of them were younger.

This could be true.

Many divorced people do regret their previous marriages. But it isn't always a bad thing or a criticism of their exes. Sometimes you're too young or too immature to get married. You may be incompatible and unsuited for each other. Two absolutely great people can have a lot of regret about their relationship - simply because it was the wrong time, wrong person, wrong place - and not because anything is wrong with anyone. Barring certain exceptions, I am always skeptical of people who call their exes crazy or trash-talk them.

Originally posted by: hotchoco

Relationships with dramatic age differences are always problematic no matter what anyone says. A couple might love each other but it creates so many unnecessary problems. 10+ years is way too much in either direction.

I don't think that is always the case. A 21-year-old with a 31-year-old is problematic because twenty-somethings are still young. They still have a lot of growing up to do. They still have to discover their place in this world. It is only when people have lived a few years as an adult after college that they get a better sense of what they want and need in life. But a 37-year-old and a 52-year-old may be fine because even though there is a much bigger age difference, they both have enough life experience to know what they want and make a mature informed decision to be together.

My rule of thumb is under 20, relationships should be within 1-3 years apart. Under 30, relationships can be up to 5 years apart. Once above 30, you can have any age gap.

Originally posted by: hotchoco

Or Dilip Kumar and Saira Banu. She spent most of her 60s as a nurse and caretaker. At that age you are still young and vital. I have uncles and aunts in that age group and they are always traveling and having parties with their friends. They play golf and have a cricket team amongst themselves and play on most weekends. Saira Banu was making hospital rounds and wiping his drool, no offense.

I don't think this is an ideal analogy. You could be any age and end up having to take care of parents, grandparents, siblings, kids, spouses, or relatives who become ill and dependent. There is also a societal expectation that glorifies caretaking and demonizes self-care.

Bailing on a relationship when things get difficult is a shitty thing to do because the commitment is in sickness and in health. But taking a break from caretaking duties to enjoy a vacation or do something fun, isn't wrong. Expecting other family members to lend a hand in caretaking isn't wrong. I also think it is ok for people to start dating again if their significant other is no longer able to fulfill the relationship. Humans have social, emotional, and physical needs and caretaking is hard - there is nothing wrong in finding someone else to share the burden with.

Originally posted by: mz.gigglez

I think the message is do not let go of yourself after marriage it goes for both spouses. Remain attractive for each other and maintain a healthy lifestyle to remain fit.

I find it problematic to reduce the relationship to physique and fitness. There is so much more that goes into a long-term committed relationship.

Keely Smith has changed a lot over the past 26 years, but she and Pierce Brosnan are still happily married.

I'm not going to say looks aren't an important part of a relationship. It definitely is a very important aspect of a relationship. If you're not turned on by significant other or find them attractive, the relationship won't last long. And both people in a relationship do need to make an effort to be attractive to each other. But for a successful long term relationship, the attraction has to go beyond looks - it's about how much you enjoy time with each other, how much you support each other, what kind of parent you are, how you treat your in-laws, how you treat each other's friends, and more. When you look at the big picture, hot people can turn ugly very soon and you can feel privileged and lucky to be with someone who's not conventionally attractive.

Originally posted by: Porcupine

When Saif married Amrita, she was a very popular actress that time and he got quite attracted towards her and was adamant to marry her at such a young age against Sharmila's wishes. Sharmila was not happy about their marriage. This is what I heard about them. I believe Amrita is only about 6 years older than him, not 13. They had kids and they lived together for many years. Saif was complaining that Amrita was abusive towards his family, so blah blah.....He had Rosa in his life. He left her for a more hot and sexy Kareena.

There's no overlap between Rosa and Kareena. Saif broke up with Rosa by March 2007. Then shortness after began shooting for Race and Tashan. He and Kareena fell for each other during the shoot for Tashan

I think at the end of the day, it all burns down to the person.

What sort of personality he/she has. Why they are getting married in the first place. So one only needs to think about their decision a lot before taking the final step. What is the limit to which t hey will be able to compromise.

A 21 year old can also be more mature.

Sachin- Supriya also have a 11 year old gap and she was just 18-19 when they married.

Its funny we are getting into these discussions, I was just reading Middlemarch 😆

Originally posted by: desigal90

There's no overlap between Rosa and Kareena. Saif broke up with Rosa by March 2007. Then shortness after began shooting for Race and Tashan. He and Kareena fell for each other during the shoot for Tashan

She was already hurt because of Saif's behavior and a few months later Saif/ Kareena affair headlines started to appear that hurt her even more. She was living in India and tried in a dance reality show . She did it after Saif/ Kareena affair news. She seemed quite hurt.

Originally posted by: desigal90

There's no overlap between Rosa and Kareena. Saif broke up with Rosa by March 2007. Then shortness after began shooting for Race and Tashan. He and Kareena fell for each other during the shoot for Tashan

But there is an overlap.

Tashan's pre-production started in 2006. The casting discussions, cast meetings etc all happened while Saif-Rosa were still on.

Likewise Kareena and Shahid were still "together" when she began falling for Saifu too.

They both were unhappy in their respective relationships and they fell for each other. It's okay to admit that. Sh*t happens. 😎