Are Saif and Kareena being insensitive? - Page 24

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Maybe I am a heartless soulless beast, but I honestly do not think any human being is obliged to attend funerals or express emotions that may not be inherent to them.

In my opinion, marriage, birth, death, and these major life events have become a social farce. Strangers converging to express best wishes and condolences to do what society thinks is the right thing to do. There is no honesty around sentiments anymore. You're expected to invite people to a wedding because they are "industry" or "colleagues" even if you barely know each other. You're expected to shed tears and be devastated even though you were just "co-workers".

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not being devastated when a colleague passes away. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not attending the funeral of a colleague. There is absolutely nothing wrong with continung your everyday life as it were when a colleague passes away.

Personally, I feel deep emotions only for close friends and family. There are plenty of acquaintances and colleagues whom I do feel joy/pity/sorry for depending on the life events, but I will never feel obliged to go out of my way to express it.

Insensitive would be scheduling a conflicting event during the funeral. Insensitive would be clicking selfies at a funeral. Insensitive would be going to a funeral and sharing your vacation pics with mourners.

Going about your daily routine that was planned ahead of time is not insensitive in my world. Saif and Kareena are quite pretentious, selfish and self-absorbed. There are many times they are full of themselves. But they have not gone out of their way to intentionally hurt Boney Kapoor and family.

Originally posted by: desigal90

By this forum's standards, yes you are indeed heartless. As am I 😆

Because it doesn't come naturally to me either to fly in front a different city if a colleague passes away. I would call the family for sure and express condolences. I would for sure attend the funeral if I'm in town. The only folks I'd be flying in for are my family and friends.

Originally posted by: astha36

There have been other deaths in the industry. Heard Shammi Kapoor passed away. Some time back Om Puri had passed away. Just because they aren't as famous as Sri, there should be different behaviours from the industry people? Nobody's life is more valuable than the other. They don't have to fake mourn to be socially acceptable. Not everybody is affected as much by someone's death as the other. So, if their family has attended the funeral, they have given their condolences, they can live life as they want without the fear of being labelled insensitive.

Originally posted by: crispsy

This is the best reply.
And i hate to attend funerals. I have intentionally avoided few of my relatives funerals. But i prayed for their souls. if that makes me a bad and insensitive person. Then let it be. cause i feel depressed visiting funerals.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Maybe I am a heartless soulless beast, but I honestly do not think any human being is obliged to attend funerals or express emotions that may not be inherent to them.

In my opinion, marriage, birth, death, and these major life events have become a social farce. Strangers converging to express best wishes and condolences to do what society thinks is the right thing to do. There is no honesty around sentiments anymore. You're expected to invite people to a wedding because they are "industry" or "colleagues" even if you barely know each other. You're expected to shed tears and be devastated even though you were just "co-workers".

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not being devastated when a colleague passes away. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not attending the funeral of a colleague. There is absolutely nothing wrong with continung your everyday life as it were when a colleague passes away.

Personally, I feel deep emotions only for close friends and family. There are plenty of acquaintances and colleagues whom I do feel joy/pity/sorry for depending on the life events, but I will never feel obliged to go out of my way to express it.

Insensitive would be scheduling a conflicting event during the funeral. Insensitive would be clicking selfies at a funeral. Insensitive would be going to a funeral and sharing your vacation pics with mourners.

Going about your daily routine that was planned ahead of time is not insensitive in my world. Saif and Kareena are quite pretentious, selfish and self-absorbed. There are many times they are full of themselves. But they have not gone out of their way to intentionally hurt Boney Kapoor and family.

Originally posted by: anjs

@bold : same implies to you, dear

Your comment is equally negative... Nobody burdened KK with Sridevi's death... People are just expecting common courtesy, where a colleague died and she couldve easily flown in for a few hours, but didnt do so...

Originally posted by: Enycedoll

actually my comment is not negative. my comment is asking people to get on with their lives rather than expecting things of people. I suppose you could say that I am expecting too much from the people on this forum 😆.

at bold: yes, people ARE burdening her by calling her insensitive, conceited and what not for not attending the funeral. It's as if people are with her 24/7 and know her personally. It never crossed their minds to consider that maybe she wasn't close to Sridevi? Maybe she called and offered her condolences to the family? Maybe shes like a lot of people who don't like attending funerals because they're depressing? I don't know, it could be a whole bunch of reasons. Why are we sitting and berating someone because they didn't measure up to some standard dictated by society?

Originally posted by: _Khaleesi_

best reply👏

its the log kya kahenge mentality sab kuch logo ko dikhane k liye

who cares if u knew the deceased or how close u were but attendance lagana zaroori hai 😆

this forum is so fake 🤢 ppl who were cursing n bashing sridevi till her death have turned into her fans 🥱

OT : kareena is being kareena #airhead

Originally posted by: desigal90

So if anyone in your work space passes away, and you're out of city, you'll actually FLY IN to attend?

I guess you folks are closer to your office work colleagues than I am. The hospital I work in has over thousands employees; some I know of, I've interacted with here and there. Mainly residents in other specialties. While I talk to them here and there, its unrealistic that I'll actually FLY IN to attend a funeral if something where to happen. Depends on how close I am to them