Originally posted by: SaalaDonkey
http://www.onislam.net/english/ask-the-scholar/family/marriage/451654-how-islam-views-early-marriages.html
Oh then it is true!! Its ok in Islam and is not a sin.. hmm..
As for marrying a little girl, not yet mature to object, without her consent, there is a difference between the contract of marriage and the consummation. As for the contract, aside from Ibn Shubrumah and al-Asamm who prohibited it, the vast majority indicated that it may be done by a father only, as in the case of the presence of a suitor that he fears may pass her up. (Keep in mind the different cultures, eras of history, locations...etc.)
This was allowed for a father (according to some a grandfather as well)due to his compassion and protectiveness of his children. This was certainly not allowed for uncles or others.
As for the consummation of marriage with a young female, the scholars agreed that the groom shall not be permitted to enter in on the bride until she is ready for intercourse.
In al-Mughni, Ibn Qudamah said that "her family should not permit him to consummate the marriage if she was not physically capable of intercourse, even if she was nine. He added that if they asked him to take her, he may refuse and he shall not be required to sustain her as a wife until she is physically mature."
The same has been echoed by the three other madhahib (juristic schools), which all indicated that the groom shall not be allowed to move in with her until she is physically capable of conjugal relations; something that should be left for the experts to determine.
Getting married young is the prescription of the prophet for some of the toughest challenges that face the youth and have an enormous impact on the well-being of the society; he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O young people! Let those of you who afford marriage get married as it will help them lower their gaze and protect their chastity. And for those who don't afford it, they may fast for it will curb the sexual desire." (Al-Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud)
@red - So my aunt's friend was telling about exactly this such situation!! Her FIL was strict, which led to my aunt asking about it and her friend saying if he says it should happen she is ok for her 7yr old little girl to be married off.. (They resided in UK)
@blue - Why marry her off if she is not supposedly ready for intercourse? It doesn't make any sense to me.. Marriage is done for love, for getting children, protecting wealth and many other reasons.. I don't get which of them can be used to justify a child being married off..
@green - omg 9yrs is not frowned upon? 😲 A child of 9yrs is certainly not capable of having safe sex! Even if she was she shouldn't be having sex! Even in the west I find it ridiculous that some kids indulge in sex when they r abt 12-13yrs old.. Over there the parents should be whipped for allowing young girls n boys to think they can mess around with it so young!!
@blue - Who r the experts? Mother, aunts, grandmother, MIL, husband, father, grandmother,mid wife, doctor, FL? Who exactly would determine if the child of 9 yrs has to wait till she is 9yrs 2 months till she is ready? Or that maybe she is ready at 10yrs and 1 month? I am just putting one situation.. cz this is exactly what happens in Yemen for an example..
@red - ok.. thanks for answering my question.. That its indeed an Islamically sound practice..
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