Originally posted by: return_to_hades
Why is it wrong to do something that attracts another person? It is one of the most fundamental and natural instincts to make oneself appealing to fit into a social group and/or attract a mate. Everyone is doing something or the other to be attractive. Our beliefs, our perceptions, our behaviors they are all consciously or subconsciously part of a package that is designed to make us attractive to friends and/or lovers. Human beings use makeup and clothes to attract a mate. Other species go through elaborate mating rituals. Even the most conservatively dressed and behaved people do so because in their opinion that is what is attractive and appealing, because that is what they believe will attract the most reliable and lasting mate. So why should humans not have a right to engage in one of the most fundamental and natural social activity in what way suits them?
Secondly, not every human action is for others. Sometimes we do things because we like it or enjoy it. We do it for ourselves. Even acts done for others may indirectly be for ourselves. Feeling good or self-worth is influenced by several factors including how attractive we find ourselves. People do many things to feel good or increase self-worth like eat healthier, get into an exercise routine, learn a new skill or language, get a higher degree or dress-up. Sometimes this indirectly or indirectly relates to pleasing others. But that doesn't mean it isn't for oneself either.
Why is I'm going to do a PhD because I want people to see me as intelligent acceptable, but I'll wear the bikini because I want people to see me as sexy wrong?
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