Should or Should Not Bebo Wed Saif ? GIMME 5 - Page 4

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If you're looking to enter a long-term relationship with a woman, make sure she's a worthy partner ' that's the only rule. You should be able to live with this person and she should be a positive influence on your life. Women can either make you or distract you till you're lost, but it completely depends on how you deal with things. You also have to work on being consistent. You have to work on your relationship if you want it. It's easy to give up and get someone new. But after a point, you don't want another casual fling; you want intimacy, depth, to be loved. That means you have to be lovable. You've got to put something in, and that takes building ' you have to put in effort every day. I used to wonder what people were talking about when they said that relationships require work. I thought, "We really like each other and we like to hang out, so where's the work required in that?" But sometimes you have to do things that wouldn't come to you naturally, just to show her how serious you are.

Things fall apart

Divorce is a function of a marriage no longer being what it was: forever. It's destructive for some people to continue living together. If you're happier without your spouse, then a divorce will leave you feeling more positive towards your kids and family at large. Divorce is much easier without kids, but even then, you should make every effort to ensure your marriage works. But it's not the end of the world if you grow up and say, look, we can't live together. At some point, you need to take control of your life and not be dictated to by society. Some people say it's better to have an affair and not rock the boat. I don't agree. I like how my life has turned out. I respect my past, and have learnt many things. The most important thing is for the children to be taken care of, if there are any. They will eventually understand that there's nothing wrong with their parents living in different environments.

Don't cheat, leave!

Cheating is so bloody stressful you should avoid it at all cost. Forget about your partner; just think about yourself ' you're better off leaving! Do whatever you have to ' live alone, rent a studio, buy a record player, take guitar lessons or run around naked ' but don't cheat. 😆Deal with yourself better, look better, learn to be more interesting to other women, but do not cheat. I can understand if a person in a long-term relationship gets attracted to someone else and things happen. He doesn't want to take it all the way, but doesn't want to lose the opportunity either. But this is a dangerous path, mostly for you. Unspoken sins weigh most heavily in our minds. And cheating negates everything. It's the wild card in the pack. What we need to understand is why people cheat. What we're really looking for is the warmth of another person, to touch or be touched by somebody. It's the sensation you're chasing. We want it because it's on the other side ' the forbidden fruit. It's fun, gratifying, and you enjoy it for a while. But the damage that occurs later is almost irreversible. This understanding is the only thing that will protect you, unless you don't want protection. Some men have a stable marriage, kids, a house, car, everything, and after that they want a little excitement. But it's a dangerous game, because you can get burnt and lose everything. The path to peace lies through boredom. Physical sensation is like a drug ' it's addictive. If life feels empty, there are so many ways to fill it up' though they might not be as much fun [laughs]. But they're much healthier in the long run.

Caught in the act?

If you're in a relationship that you're not serious about, and you're constantly screwing around behind her back, getting caught could be a great opportunity to move on. If you're in a loving, honorable relationship and you've been indiscreet, you can beg, plead and explain ' and try to live with that crack in your relationship. If you're in that type of relationship, my advice is to drink a bottle of your favourite poison and walk away, because it's never going to be the same again. Women blow up in your face for the smallest mistakes. Infidelity ' forget about it. An honorable relationship is done the moment you've been unfaithful. There's no love left. If she needs security, either for herself or the children, or money, then she might stick it out, but there will be no love. My advice would be to split before she cuts your dick off in your sleep.😆 You'd never believe that this is the same girl who once looked at you with so much love.

Father figure

Women can definitely get it wrong. They can react out of ego. They're often right, but sometimes they're not. But if you don't get into an argument at the time, you might get an apology later. You will be respected for not having blown up. You have to let her know that she is the queen in certain areas. And sometimes you have to treat her like a child and tell her she's pushing it. She has to know that she can argue and shout, but that there are certain rules. She has to know that you're not her chamcha and that you can say no, but that as long as she's not wrong, you will give her the moon. You have to play the role of father, brother and lover all rolled into one. 😳