To balance relationships - Page 2

Originally posted by: Nithunavi

If he tells saanjh abt shanti spot he taking maya then she will blow up & again lecture him for an hour shouting non stop.
Why he should not take maya his other frnd to shanti spot if he wants to !
Arjun knows to balance relations that's why yday he asked saanjh abt going on drive or tea or things she likes to do instead of his sorry as always which she likes.
Now tell how he's not capable for maintaining relationships.
Actually whole clan is so immature that without knowing abt arjun views they hooked saanjh as his wife.. becharaa is gng mad with their unreasonable blames.

Originally posted by: Nithunavi

If he tells saanjh abt shanti spot he taking maya then she will blow up & again lecture him for an hour shouting non stop.
Why he should not take maya his other frnd to shanti spot if he wants to !
Arjun knows to balance relations that's why yday he asked saanjh abt going on drive or tea or things she likes to do instead of his sorry as always which she likes.
Now tell how he's not capable for maintaining relationships.
Actually whole clan is so immature that without knowing abt arjun views they hooked saanjh as his wife.. becharaa is gng mad with their unreasonable blames.

Originally posted by: SaurabhKiRadha

I agree tm vandana is very relatable n sensible ckt only one fault she wants arjun n saanjh to get married but there has been no attempt to know arjun's feeling , his thoughts about marriage. I know arjun have no soft feelings for her so she can't confront but she should encourage saanjh or ayan to speak n break the ice rather than telling saanjh ki i know arjun loves u ( she may be right also , it may be arjun does has feelings that he has not realised) . BUT WAT IF DOESN'T HAVE ? WHAT if her gut feelings are wrong ? It will worsen situation for saanjh n separate vandana n arjun more .

Originally posted by: SaurabhKiRadha

I disagree with 1_3 lines here, both saanjh n arjun amicably decided that shanti spot is there pvt spot . So he should inform his buddy when he wants to bring sum1 if not permission. What would have happened if he informed first ? saanjh would have refused , shouted angrily but after her anger cools down she would've understood his situation, she would have not feel betrayed or hurt like she felt wen she saw them . Fact that he kept ayan as guard showed arjun felt guilty.

Same thing about maya 's proposal due to fear about maya's reaction he is not giving her his clear answer , this hiding thing covering things even done with gud intentions creates mess in life.

Originally posted by: katrinasalman

I ask you one thing. If you ask or confide something in your close friend but don't expect the response that you want, would you share your feelings with that person again? It is not possible to tell each and everything to a person no matter how much ever one may be close to that person. If I ask my close friend or confide to him/her and if I get to hear their lecture or the jaap of the other person, I would not confide or ask that person again in that regard. Same is the case with Arjun and Saanjh. Saajun might be best friends but there will always be a thin line no matter how much ever close they are. If Arjun had told this to Saanjh, she would have fumed and fought with him which would frustrate him. Saanjh or her parents have not purchased Arjun so as to be possessive about him and he is not Vandana's jagir that she can dump him to anyone as per her whims. Has Sanjh patented Shanti spot that no one else other than she and Arjun can enter? Has she put the board that trespassers will be prosecuted? If she is behaving like this with him now, what all will she do if by chance Arjun decides to settle with her?

Maya has a troubled past and she needs true love in her life. So her insecurity is justified. She finds that solace in Arjun. Who knows, she might get normal once Arjun himself proposes to her. Previously, Maya used to get scared of Ashwin but now she is able to face him. The credit goes to Arjun. He is the one who can give her a colorful life. So Maya will change.

Originally posted by: katrinasalman

I ask you one thing. If you ask or confide something in your close friend but don't expect the response that you want, would you share your feelings with that person again? It is not possible to tell each and everything to a person no matter how much ever one may be close to that person. If I ask my close friend or confide to him/her and if I get to hear their lecture or the jaap of the other person, I would not confide or ask that person again in that regard. Same is the case with Arjun and Saanjh. Saajun might be best friends but there will always be a thin line no matter how much ever close they are. If Arjun had told this to Saanjh, she would have fumed and fought with him which would frustrate him. Saanjh or her parents have not purchased Arjun so as to be possessive about him and he is not Vandana's jagir that she can dump him to anyone as per her whims. Has Sanjh patented Shanti spot that no one else other than she and Arjun can enter? Has she put the board that trespassers will be prosecuted? If she is behaving like this with him now, what all will she do if by chance Arjun decides to settle with her?

Maya has a troubled past and she needs true love in her life. So her insecurity is justified. She finds that solace in Arjun. Who knows, she might get normal once Arjun himself proposes to her. Previously, Maya used to get scared of Ashwin but now she is able to face him. The credit goes to Arjun. He is the one who can give her a colorful life. So Maya will change.

Originally posted by: Akdhaparijatluv

I'm actually waiting for Arjun maya saga to prolong some more time and Arjun gets big jhatka from maya... I can totally understand saanj why she is feeling more and more hurt and now saanj became irritating bcz she started questioning Arjun and he started lying...

I want to see what maya will do if some day Arjun lies to her and hangout with saanj after becoming some more close frz or in relationship.. maya will get hurt just like saanj and will question Arjun at one point ... what will Arjun do then? Lie to maya also? When Arjun said that shaanti spot is for saanj and Arjun then maya should have taken back but no she came there ... place thing person whom we share memories if they are shared to third person ofcourse anyone will get hurt like saanj...

I hope in future after Arjun maya bcome close and they also share some good memories and I hope Arjun takes saanj or share their memories with saanj and let maya witness that scene and I will wait for her reaction ...

I may feel bad for Arjun at some times and he has some positive side also but definitely he can't handle relationships and balance them... he can definitely make other friends but he should not forget or lie to old frz and share their memories with others...

Originally posted by: SaurabhKiRadha

Ok so u mean to say i should make frns who only agree with or i i should take their opinion when i expect them to agree ?

I have frns i need frns not just to support me but who can tell me wrong wen i am doing wrong thats difference between frn and true frn . If i am given option to choose between a person who will advice or act as per wat is better for me rather than way suits me or wat i want than i will choose 1st .

If arjun did not felt guilty he should not have kept ayan there. I never said arjun is jagir of vandana or shanti spot is jagir of saanjh . That is why i never said arjun should take permission to choose his frns or take them where he wants . But when i hv group of frns , we have special places special secrets i will not share it with my new frn without telling them . N if she is wrong arjun should have discouraged saanjh from beginning only baba this is not your pvt property ayan can come anyone can come here no need to lock it up n keep two keys one with you n one for me . Both had done this arrangement with each other consent that noone else than them will enter in their pvt spot so y to blame saanjh for this stupidity both r responsible.

Maya has bad past n she needs arjun but it is of no importance if arjun doesn't feel same for her. I can't predict wether she will be normal or not , maya's full story her past her present n future are still wrapped in mystery

Originally posted by: katrinasalman

If Arjun does not feel the same for Maya he does not have the same feelings towards Saanjh either. Maya understands Arjun better than Saanjh. She respects his intelligence, talent and capabilities. Most importantly, she gives him the space he wants. That is why he goes to her. But Saanjh behaves as if she is married to him or engaged to him though she knows he doesn't love her.

I would definitely want my close friend to advise me but not dictate terms to me with long lectures. That is what Saanjh is doing.