Is it wrong to try to woo one love

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Really i am shocked to see that ppl here think that due to maya manipulations, arjun will not love her truly, or arjun is being separated from family and relations etc.. I dont think maya has tried to separate him from his family.. Its his family and saanjh own overdominating nature that is making him go away from them.. Saanjh noway seems to only care for arjun bcoz she thinks maya is bad..she constantly tries to instigate him against maya bcoz she feels insecure... Instead of focusing on maya evrytime, if she focused on letting arjun see her love than it would have done her more good..
Many people fall in love and the other person doesnot hve same feelng for them so if they are trying to woo him, to make him fall in love with her than whats wrong is this.. In every other serial we see hero falling in love at first sight or something and then doing romantic things to make girl fall in love... Here maya is doing same thing.. Arjun is single now...anyone who wants can love him and try to get him... Maya is not breaking arjun saanjh relationship bcoz thier is no relationshp...thier is frndshp.. And any women will be insecure if they know thier love best frnd loves him too... Like saanjh is insecure bcoz maya loves him so she is trying to break arjun maya frndshp..but her approach is wrong..she is trying to order arjun which is not going well wth him.. Maya is doing same thing..but in another way...bcoz she understands arjun...which saanjh claims but i doubt if saanjh really knows the real arjun.. She cannot understand when he wants space etc...

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Very well said. Maya in no way is manipulating arjun yee sanjh and to irritating moms ka nateja hai that arjun is hoing away from them. maya is not manipulating arjun but is just trying to attract him that every girl/guy does when he/she is in love with someone.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree wid ur words.Arjun is not a kid to be manipulated by someone.if saanjh wants him in her life she has to admit her feelings to him even it is not easy for her.It is his own choice to choose anyone.Their parents are behaving as if it is a crime to propose someone(in maaya's case).First dey have to talk to arjun about saanjh.He is not committed to anyone, he is single & he is not cheating anyone.They have to try to know wat he wants why blame maaya.i think they are not even aware of maaya's condition then why are they panicking about loosing arjun &he is going to be troubled by her?only based on wat pandit said?it is too childish.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Yea at the end of the day manipulation doesn't work
The man still does what he wants
Plus in this case Arjun is the one that is going to decide whom he wants in his life
It's solely Arjun's decision
Maya is only trying to attract him towards her and there is nothing wrong in that ;)
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Posted: 8 years ago
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That's what even I'm trying to say for everyone who's saying Maya is manipulating.
She wants her love to keep happy. Don't anyone who loves someone buy gifts for their happiness.?
Don't they try to impress their love to fall in love with them?
In many serials we have seen how hero tries to woo the girl , hero tries to keep her happy with gifts & impress her in many ways to fall in love.
But here female lead is not abla naari she is independent woman who can take first step in relation. Gone are days where guys only should make first step in relationship.
And Maya has no problem with arjun family except for saanjh. Any girl in her place feels really irritated & insecure when she knows some other girl loving her lover.
Even saanjh is insecure that's why she is giving lectures to arjun day & night abt maya.
Even she wants to leave arjun from that office and resign. On that day when arjun went to throw Way gifts on Maya face saanjh was saying now everything will be fine bcoz Maya will be gone from their lives.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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very well said...Maya is not at fault...it's Sanjh and both families.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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And one more thing is saanjh is possessive & obsessive for arjun but no one finds it fault bcoz the whole clan of mathura & sharma made her AS WIFE OF ARJUN.
they indirectly made saanjh Mrs. Arjun without even arjun's knowledge.
And they encourage saanjh clingyness, obsession for arjun.
Even vandana thinks arjun is a plaything that she says "I give u all rights over arjun Possession u need to be back of him 24/7" LOL I'm amused at their stupidity.
Arjun even doesn't know abt saanjh becoming his wife & his marriage already done with saanjh by HIS SO CALLED FAMILY.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: ishakumar

Yea at the end of the day manipulation doesn't work
The man still does what he wants
Plus in this case Arjun is the one that is going to decide whom he wants in his life
It's solely Arjun's decision
Maya is only trying to attract him towards her and there is nothing wrong in that ;)


Arjun will do what Maya wants. 'Maya is trying to attract him, and theres nothing wrong in that' is contradicting what u just said. If Arjun has to fall in love with her, Maya should not get insecure abt saanjh, should not play mind games with Arjun. Thats not called trying to attract its called making somebody forcefully tu rn towards u albeit not in a literal sense. And if u think that is right, then I don't know what ur definitions of right n wrong are.

Addressing the TM, this is not called wooing in anyway. Wooing would be showing Arjun ur real self, but here maya is trying to present herself aa somebody she is not. She is top to toe an illusion, a facade. She wants Arjun to see only those thi gs abt her that she wants to show him. And such a love doesn't really last. Whose basis is on lies and deceit.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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This is the right time for saanjh for proposing arjun if she wants him in her life.she has to keep her ego aside dat arjun should propose her first otherwise he will fall for maya.but she is showing it in her actions clearly but he is too dumb to notice it.i like saanjh-arjun relationship also along with arya's (i mean both the girls) but it is his choice to choose anyone.he clearly asked her about it in yesterday's episode while eating budiya ka Baal but she was mum &silent.maya has no one in her life to give her support her mum is not enough strong to do dat.she herself is weak but saanjh has atleast their parents luv &support to overcome heartbreak.both the girls are truly love arjun.but I think arjun will not love anyone but I sometimes feel he luvs saanjh but i have no clarity about it even.am literally confused about arjun's feelings.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: lumos_31


Arjun will do what Maya wants. 'Maya is trying to attract him, and theres nothing wrong in that' is contradicting what u just said. If Arjun has to fall in love with her, Maya should not get insecure abt saanjh, should not play mind games with Arjun. Thats not called trying to attract its called making somebody forcefully tu rn towards u albeit not in a literal sense. And if u think that is right, then I don't know what ur definitions of right n wrong are.

Addressing the TM, this is not called wooing in anyway. Wooing would be showing Arjun ur real self, but here maya is trying to present herself aa somebody she is not. She is top to toe an illusion, a facade. She wants Arjun to see only those thi gs abt her that she wants to show him. And such a love doesn't really last. Whose basis is on lies and deceit.


only thing you are forgetting is that Maya is not normal and she is mentally unstable, she is literally incapable of thinking like a normal person. otherwise, any sane person can understand that Saanjh will not be a threat because arjun is not even interested in her. Maya needs to understand that she does not need to manipulate situations to bring arjun closer to her, he already runs towards her on his own. First it was the shanti spot, staying with her in the hospital, encouraging her to face her fears, buying her a dress giving her ice cream and sitting down for tea at the local chai shop. those all happened naturally, maya did not play any mind games. Maya's manipulations are wrong and toxic but without the psychological issue, she is a very capable woman and she needs to understand that. In front of arjun, she want to be the powerful maya mehrotra but in her vulnerable moments, she lets arjun see the real her. so yes she is wrong in her ways and that is why she needs support, doctors and medications because underneath all the toxicity, she is a good person who is worth the effort.

In addition, there was once a poll in the forum that asked whether we would marry a man who shares such a close bond with a female friend and that answer was no. because even normal women will be uncomfortable with such close friendship between her husband and another woman, especially if said women is in love with him.

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