Is it wrong to try to woo one love - Page 2

Originally posted by: lumos_31

Arjun will do what Maya wants. 'Maya is trying to attract him, and theres nothing wrong in that' is contradicting what u just said. If Arjun has to fall in love with her, Maya should not get insecure abt saanjh, should not play mind games with Arjun. Thats not called trying to attract its called making somebody forcefully tu rn towards u albeit not in a literal sense. And if u think that is right, then I don't know what ur definitions of right n wrong are.

Addressing the TM, this is not called wooing in anyway. Wooing would be showing Arjun ur real self, but here maya is trying to present herself aa somebody she is not. She is top to toe an illusion, a facade. She wants Arjun to see only those thi gs abt her that she wants to show him. And such a love doesn't really last. Whose basis is on lies and deceit.

@lumos_31 Even we normal people doesn't want to show our weakness or vulnerable side infront of the world.we always try to overcome our weaknesses.we show our vulnerable side wid only trusted ones and dear ones.dat means we are all fake people?answer is No.here Maya is not normal &suffering from mental illness.&she is not acting here.everbody has different shades that doesn't mean they r acting.Maya also has some positive strength so that she became successful woman in her work.she also have strong side.Maya is not a facade.her feelings are true.she is not lying to anyone.she sometimes showed her vulnerable side to him for example in dat go down scene.And one more thing here Arjun & saanjh are not in a committed relationship.If the girl is normal & if she knows dat Arjun loves saanjh(if he loved) then if she trying to separate them it is wrong.but here she is not normal to even recognise wat is right or wrong.but if cvs turn her murderer it goes out of her character.girl like maya can't murder anyone they will kill themselves.this is my pov only.

Originally posted by: Nithunavi

And one more thing is saanjh is possessive & obsessive for arjun but no one finds it fault bcoz the whole clan of mathura & sharma made her AS WIFE OF ARJUN.
they indirectly made saanjh Mrs. Arjun without even arjun's knowledge.
And they encourage saanjh clingyness, obsession for arjun.
Even vandana thinks arjun is a plaything that she says "I give u all rights over arjun Possession u need to be back of him 24/7" LOL I'm amused at their stupidity.
Arjun even doesn't know abt saanjh becoming his wife & his marriage already done with saanjh by HIS SO CALLED FAMILY.

@pomegranate That's exactly my point. That maya is mentally unstable. I did not say she is doing all this without reason. But what is wrong is wrong. Imagine u fell in love with someone, but then realised that u were made to fall in love with that person by that person, would that acceptable to u? No right?

Saanjh is coming across as a despo these days ... like LOVE ME LOVE ME PLEASE . The way she asked for that dress from Arjun ...yaar she should have atleast waited to see whether he would give her the dress or not ...all these years he never gave you an expensive gift ..what changed that he will give you one now ! Have some self respect girl ...don't come across such a despo . From their previous convo it should have been clear to Saanjh that he doesn't harbor any romantic feels towards her ..so y r u becoming such a chipku ?😕 And in contrast when Maya got the dress she didn't even have a smile on her face neither she said thanked him for the gift.
The difference between Maya & Saanjh is that Saanjh is always trying to force her opinions & thoughts down Arjun's throat while Maya never does that & giving him space

Originally posted by: TheUnique

Saanjh is coming across as a despo these days ... like LOVE ME LOVE ME PLEASE . The way she asked for that dress from Arjun ...yaar she should have atleast waited to see whether he would give her the dress or not ...all these years he never gave you an expensive gift ..what changed that he will give you one now ! Have some self respect girl ...don't come across such a despo . From their previous convo it should have been clear to Saanjh that he doesn't harbor any romantic feels towards her ..so y r u becoming such a chipku ?😕 And in contrast when Maya got the dress she didn't even have a smile on her face neither she said thanked him for the gift.
The difference between Maya & Saanjh is that Saanjh is always trying to force her opinions & thoughts down Arjun's throat while Maya never does that & giving him space

Arjun lied to saanjh because of saanjh. She blows up everytime he spends time with maya, so now he lies to her in order to avoid drama. Lieing to her was arjun's choice, maya had no hand in it. Otherwise, midnight ice cream and roadside tea was maya's way of trying out arjun's likes, adjusting to his world

Saanjh blows up everytime he spends time with Maya

But then what should saanjh do?

He spends time with Maya from morning 10 to 9 in the night .After that also he goes mid night session for ice creams.When Maya said there is no ice cream at home.It's ok I will stay awake and work.Arjun melts down .He is too naive in certain matters and saanjh knows that.
He even lied to her on lunch ...he could have asked that collegue to talk to saanjh ...can I borrow your friend for today ?

Thirdly the only person who questions arjun in Sharma house is saanjh.When the boxes arrived , vandana called saanjh.So that itself shows what is saanjh position in their lives.

Lastly Maya has invaded in their personal spaces so they object Maya like taking to their shanti spot .

It's arjun s mistake since he should where to draw a line.

Originally posted by: lumos_31

The dress thing wasn't her fault. Ayaan made her believe Arjun got it for her. Till today, there is nobody who is special in Arjun's life other than Saanjh. Everytime they fight, it is Arjun who comes back to Saanjh. That is changing now, and anybody would find it hard to accept, i don't think Saanjh becomes a despo for that. And your last line, I disagree. Both Maya n Saanjh are doing the same thing. The difference is in how they are doing it. Saanjh is trying to make Arjun understand her pov, but Maya is trying to change Arjun's thinking altogether. Ultimately, Maya is going to be successful, no doubt. But i don't think ArYa will last.

Everybody here thinks from Maya's pov, hence I think its difficult to understand Saanjh's actions, and they come across as irritating because ppl want ArYa together. Initially Saanjh herself wanted Arjun to warm up to Maya, apologising to her, getting her the cake and all. Saanjh has seen how dangerous Maya can get, and hence her actions are very justified. If u keep yourselves in Saanjh's place, keeping your love for Maya aside, then I really dont think anybody here would not feel what Saanjh is feeling v ie hurt at ur best friend lying to u for a stranger. I agree the CVs should make her do stuff other than nagging arjun all the time but that I think is just a matter of few more episodes. We will get to see an action taking side of Saanjh, surely.

I know the dress thing wasn't her fault .. Ayaan made her believe it that way . But Ayaan's just a college kid who's regularly getting into trouble for something or the other where as Saanjh is a lawyer. Just like she's sensing Arjun's closeness to Maya might harm him what went wrong with her senses this time around that Ayaan might be wrong cuz Arjun never ever gave her such an expensive gift . Shouldn't she give that a thought instead of being such a despo .
Maya & Saanjh are not doing the same thing . Saanjh is suffocating him .. she's not yet been totally honest with him ... never told him about her feelings for him .
But Maya has been honest with him & her mom is even telling her to tell everything about her past before he comes to know from someone else & she's been giving that a thought.
Saanjh wanted Arjun to warm up to her cuz she wanted him to keep his job but from the time she saw them together she cannot bear it .. When Maya had launched Arjun a few months ago when Sannjh didnt even know Maya's feelings for him but still she felt insecure seeing them holding hands .. shouldn't she be happy for her friend ?
If Saanjh has seen Maya's dangerous self so has Arjun. Like when she was about to deflate the hot air balloon if he rejected her ...how she broke the mirror in pieces cuz she couldn't stand color ..the way she said about her hatred towards color but he still wants to help her.
I am not seeing the show from any of the character's perspective .. & still I think Saanjh should calm down & not come across such a despo .
You are right Arya might not be the end game even I feel so cuz they wouldn't dare to change the basics of Indian drama & so its good girl Saanjh who will get to marry Arjun & not Maya .. but that's so cliche

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