Why is Arshad not good for Zoya? - Page 4

A very interesting point you have raised there, Subha.

To me, there are few things not certainly many, on why Arshad is not good for Zoya.And totally as per my thoughts; not debating that this is correct interpretation!

Key being, Arshad is one who is the type of person, who is ready to let go of the past in entirety; totally ignore that it existed and start things new. He did insist upon it, a convo in his car when he was dropping Zoya, when they met the very first time. This, while is an endearring quality, it is totally not suitable for Zoya kind of a character. She needs someone who understands her past, the pain, the doubts, the confusion and everything about it and embraces her knowing these. Brushing everything under the carpet and looking forward to the present and future will not suit her temperament, as she will feel a big void in her life. No amount of LOVE can replace the understanding of her past.

Will come back with the rest of my thoughts.

This is such a nice topic!

Firstly, I don't think Arshad loves Zoya. He just has a liking towards her. He doesn't know the real Zoya, her tastes, her fears, her opinions, her strengths or any. And without any of these , he concluded within a couple of days that he feels an eternal connection with her. I personally feel it's more a liking or a good vibe developed for her but not love. I also think this because it didn't seem like he was much worried when Zoya was struck in the riots. I'm not comparing with Adi. Only Arshad. He was as worried as one would be for any acquaintance. Not for the one whom we love. I didn't even feel he was deeply in pain when Zoya rejected him. I think, for him, he likes Zoya because she's beautiful, good and well behaved. He'd love to have a wife like her and will be disappointed if it does not work out. But he won't be broken. Had Zoya told him that she loves Adi that day while rejecting him in the dinner, even then I don't think he'd be very broken. He does not love her. Because he actually doesn't even know her completely.

Second, As few others already mentioned, the problem ZoSh had in their relationship would still persist here. Lack of friendship. Zoya is never, never her original self before Arshad. She's more controlled, respectful, gentle and silent with him. Kinda obedient too. She never shows her worries or anger or any emotion (Except for Dahi handi).

Third, Arshad never attempts to peek into Zoya's heart. He never tries to understand her small mannerisms, changes in her eyes or minute expressions. Nor does he ever ask her casual things like her taste etc. Most of the times, he's only set to be too good to her and this thirst to prove his worth to her. He's always more focused on exhibiting his good side to her instead of observing or knowing her.

Having said all of that, I don't really think they won't be happy if they get married. They'll be happy. But definitely that's not a kind of relationship Zoya deserves or wants for herself. The kind of love she deserves is something that sets her free, let her be. Something that's intense, that's passionate and above all, because she has a bitter past, now she would need a relationship which reassures her regularly that he's very much in love with her. That her husband can't belong to anyone else. And I don't think Arshad is expressive or passionate to let her feel that security or that feeling of he being her possession.

Without comparing with AdiYa , I think Zoya and Arshad will make a couple who will constantly put efforts into their marriage and just be satisfied. A kinda compromise. Not too happy. Not too sad. Just lead a life.