Problem with Yash and Puja!

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coolgal270

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Posted: 7 years ago

Adi is a little childish...he took everyting with a pinch of salt and thought everything is easy and honky-dory in life!!

Zoya is a little naive at times and she too thought her life is a fairytale where nothing could go wrong...

Both were Financially secure , healthy, married to their respective 'perfect' partners and deeply in love!!

Both were dependent on their partners

AND they took them for granted at times!

AND they sometimes didn't understand what Puja & yash wanted them to do...

Agreed to all this..

But that does NOT excuse them to have an EMA!!(nothing does actually)

My problem with Yash and Puja is that they never communicated their issues to their spouses...

In a marriage, no two partners are same..there will be always difference of personalities, beliefs etc...but if one is not liking something or is having difficulty in adjusting, you need to communicate!!

If Puja would have told Adi how childish she thinks he is or how she wants more than friendship, he would have adhered to it...or atleast given it a thought!

Similarly if Yash would have shared his problems , his financial difficulties with Zoya she would have lend a helping hand or maybe given some solution..

Just hinting on it and expecting your partner to understand you is wrong... I am not saying that spouses can not understand each other subtly or cant understand hints...they CAN, they surely Can...but if for some reasons, they did not, why Yash could not be clearer? why he did not just go to Zoya and told her that we are facing some financial crisis and lets everyone stay at one place? or we cant afford two houses?or we cant buy a new house in mumbai?

Zoya being Zoya, she would have happily sold her jewellery for Yash, if it was needed!!

Similarly if Puja would have communicated she was not happy with her marriage, Adi would have gone out of his ways to ensure he does more and fulfills all her dreams..He thought she was happy,he believed life was good for her as much as it was for him..He trusted her as a wife and friend and was sure that she would share her problems with him, whenever they come!!

and that is what marriage is all about! two people, who are different from each other and who have varying dreams, yet they work it out towards a single goal!

If you dont tell someone what your problem is, how can you expect them to solve it?Not sharing your issues with your partner, and expecting them to be as perfect as you would like, is unfair!!

Both Adi and Zoya were truly in love with their spouses and they WOULD have tried to make changes or adjustments!!

but keeping them in the dark and then being unsatisfied or unhappy with the outcome is not fair...And on top of that, Poosh cheated on them when AdiYa were totally in love with them and trusted them the most!!

Yash & puja were building castles in thin air but it is only Zoya and Adi who are taking the fall & plunging into darkness because of that!!

And for that I can never forgive Poosh!

Love, Sumi

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@Fruitcustard_9

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Posted: 7 years ago

Sumi i hope u call u by name

Poosh were egoistic people or they considered adiya antaryami that they will understand them without poosh telling them . If adiya were having some problem they would definately had reached out 2 poosh 4 it & they definately dont feel shame but i guess poosh felt ashamed 2 ask adiya something kyunki unki ego kam ho jati.

In what angle poosh r mature ??

Which person invest 5 crores in a bankrupt company

A person is having 6 crores still his company is bankrupt.

I think poosh dint talk 2 adiya intentionally coz latter they can use this reason 2 get divorce. If poosh were really interested in their marriage they would had workout on it but infact they created illusion of perfect marriage 2 fool adiya

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geet0910

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Posted: 7 years ago

STATUTORY WARNING!!

Is show me darshaye gaye sabhi paatr KAALPANIK(fictious) hai.. inka Jeevit ya Mrut logo ya chizo se kisi bhi prakaar ka koi sambandh nahi hai.. 😆 [This should b shown b4 starting any epi of bepannaah]

So the point is cvs made a fictional character just like some naagin n makkhi character without any logic.. so finding logic n reasons for poosh cheating n hows n whys is a bhaste of time.. 😆

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Joy

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Posted: 7 years ago

Agree... Poosh were wrong n being selfish whatvr their emotional reasons be!

@Geet 🤣

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coolgal270

@coolgal270

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9
Sumi i hope u call u by name
Poosh were egoistic people or they considered adiya antaryami that they will understand them without poosh telling them . If adiya were having some problem they would definately had reached out 2 poosh 4 it & they definately dont feel shame but i guess poosh felt ashamed 2 ask adiya something kyunki unki ego kam ho jati.

In what angle poosh r mature ??

Which person invest 5 crores in a bankrupt company

A person is having 6 crores still his company is bankrupt.

I think poosh dint talk 2 adiya intentionally coz latter they can use this reason 2 get divorce. If poosh were really interested in their marriage they would had workout on it but infact they created illusion of perfect marriage 2 fool adiya

HI Deepika, I hope i can call you that 😆

Yes plz call me Sumi!!

I get your point but I also think that Poosh thought that Adiya would not be able to handle the truth and thats the reason they didnt come forward...

plus they were not happy with their marriages(atleast puja wasn't) ...things wouldhave been much simpler if they would have been honest about their feelings with AdiYa!

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Cold coffee_mania

@Fruitcustard_9

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Posted: 7 years ago

They were not happy coz of themselves only not adiya , it was their assumption that adiya will not understand but ut was not true adiya really luved poosh , would had done anything 4 their luv but truth poosh were never luv in with them.

Tell me govt nai koi rule banaya hai kya ki life partners will have same dislike & likes

God's knows what kind of baarish pooja got from yash coz i found both loosers

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LoveHopeMagic

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Posted: 7 years ago

I'm with you in this. Poosh definitely did wrong in keeping their feelings inside. They never tried to share the problems of their personal life or the problems in their marriage. They expected the partner to understand them from the hints they gave[In yash's case here]. He wanted Zoya to know how financially challenged they have been but why did not he outright tell her that. He did not. His mistake. Zoya is not someone who would create problems unnecessary in others life she would have agreed to shift to Mumbai in a fleeting moment. I still dont get this guy called YASH. 😕

Edited by Sovereign_K - 7 years ago

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coolgal270

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: geet0910
STATUTORY WARNING!!

Is show me darshaye gaye sabhi paatr KAALPANIK(fictious) hai.. inka Jeevit ya Mrut logo ya chizo se kisi bhi prakaar ka koi sambandh nahi hai.. 😆 [This should b shown b4 starting any epi of bepannaah]
So the point is cvs made a fictional character just like some naagin n makkhi character without any logic.. so finding logic n reasons for poosh cheating n hows n whys is a bhaste of time.. 😆

😆 ya...but given the extent of damage they have done to AdiYa, baar baar sochne pe majboor ho jaate hain...

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coolgal270

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: luvurishbala
Agree... Poosh were wrong n being selfish whatvr their emotional reasons be!
@Geet 🤣

Yes, totally!! atleast they should have given one chance to AdiYa & explained!!

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mans1234

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Posted: 7 years ago

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Hello,

I really liked your post ..

Both Yash and Pooja should have communicated their disappointment with their respective spouses ..

Now Aditya and Pooja relationship - Pooja new Aditya from childhood .. She was well aware how he is was .. Aditya is child by heart but at the same time he can be smart and mature .. If Pooja did communicate , I am sure he would have changed .. Aditya surely deserves this honesty from Pooja..

No two people in a relationship are same .. if she was dissatisfied then should have been open about it .. May be as per her, Aditya was not passionate husband but just a friend but atleast he was stable in his relationship .. By stable i mean a good and a loyal husband.. May be sometimes it good to be straight forward and tell what you feel.. sometimes people understand things like that rather than assuming that your partner vl understand everything ..

Now Yash and Zoya - Yash very well knew where did Zoya come from .. Circumstances and situations make people what they are .. Zoya's life has been quite easy that way .. Her family was very protective of her so she has always been naive and sweet but she is understanding too .. if Yash would have been open about his problems Zoya would have everything in her capacity to help him out .. so being all silent about is not acceptable ..

I get when your spouses fail to understand the way you want them too be but then comes communication .. Get angry with your spouse , tell them you r really furious .. I am sure if Yash and Pooja expressed their anger/disappointment Zoya and Aditya would have done everything .. Atleast they knew them so much ..

I guess eventually Aditya and Zoya might feel guilty thinking that they dint understand their spouse well ..

I guess Yash and Pooja should have been a lil mature in handling the situation ..

But from Yash and Pooja's perspective i felt they were just too unhappy and may be given up on their marriage and hence this step ..

Sometimes out of desperation you take such steps and they did a mistake ..

So , i dont know in the end i dont have much sympathy for them as they dint try to work out if their respective spouse ..

Sry for the long post ..