Posted:
Originally posted by: coolgal270
Adi is a little childish...he took everyting with a pinch of salt and thought everything is easy and honky-dory in life!!
Zoya is a little naive at times and she too thought her life is a fairytale where nothing could go wrong...Both were Financially secure , healthy, married to their respective 'perfect' partners and deeply in love!!Both were dependent on their partnersAND they took them for granted at times!AND they sometimes didn't understand what Puja & yash wanted them to do...Agreed to all this..I agree completely. Adi's immaturity with married life is obvious. Zoya's situation is different because she was been treated like a princess by her husband thus, she wasn't much aware of when there are problems in life, how to tackle with them at all. Yeah absolutely granted. They both had faith in their partners that no matter what happens, their spouses will always guard them. Lil bit alike situations & like habits.But that does NOT excuse them to have an EMA!!(nothing does actually)My problem with Yash and Puja is that they never communicated their issues to their spouses...In a marriage, no two partners are same..there will be always difference of personalities, beliefs etc...but if one is not liking something or is having difficulty in adjusting, you need to communicate!!
EMA's are absolute bs & if you're married you should be loyal to your partner & if you can't, the best option is to leave them. Perhaps Zo & Adi weren't aware of what thier spouses expected from them. Emotional support, a caring hand, a shoulder to cry on, you name it. Communication definitely wasn't there & I like to add another point, Adi & Zoya trusted their partners BLINDLY. They thought PooSh were always so close to them & were honest when they shared something with them. Took much transparency.If Puja would have told Adi how childish she thinks he is or how she wants more than friendship, he would have adhered to it...or atleast given it a thought!Similarly if Yash would have shared his problems , his financial difficulties with Zoya she would have lend a helping hand or maybe given some solution..Ikr? This came to my mind too. He might be childish but she didn't marry him because he's childish right? He's a caring guy. Why didn't Pooja give it a thought to share her innermost feelings with her husband, who had been her best friend since she was 12 or so? Adi has brains for god sake & I wish Pooja understood how idiotic she was behaving 😕😕Yash is secretive as of now like how it was revealed y'day that he had taken a bank loan of 1 crore. I better not come to conclusions here. He's weird. Zoya might be naive & fragile but he married her because he loved her. Unless you fall out of love...Just hinting on it and expecting your partner to understand you is wrong... I am not saying that spouses can not understand each other subtly or cant understand hints...they CAN, they surely Can...but if for some reasons, they did not, why Yash could not be clearer? why he did not just go to Zoya and told her that we are facing some financial crisis and lets everyone stay at one place? or we cant afford two houses?or we cant buy a new house in mumbai?Zoya being Zoya, she would have happily sold her jewellery for Yash, if it was needed!!Communication lacked that's what you mean here right??? True. If you don't discuss your issues you can't expect your partners to miraculously know them 😕 I felt stupid at whatever Pooja had written in her diary about her feelings towards Yash. It just proved she trusted him more than anything else. Adi was just the best friend whom she married. Yeah wasn't expressive at all. I felt this specially when they showed how Pooja borrowed 5 crores from Adi, to invest in Yash's business. Absurd...Similarly if Puja would have communicated she was not happy with her marriage, Adi would have gone out of his ways to ensure he does more and fulfills all her dreams..He thought she was happy,he believed life was good for her as much as it was for him..He trusted her as a wife and friend and was sure that she would share her problems with him, whenever they come!!
Adi is kiddish we know but for real, he's a grown up man. Seemed to me as if she had assumed inside her mind that even if she shared her feelings with him, it would be of no use & Adi wouldn't understand her. He would be the loving husband for a week or two & then be back to normal, with childishness His entire world rotated around his wife at home & when at work, he was an obedient, sincere & a charming pilot. How he noticed Pooja looking happy when he's with her was what he concluded about her! That she was happy with him. She wasn't a tantrum queen or argued with Adi every now & then right? Adi's blind faith on Pooja made him feel what you're saying; as a friend, she would share her problems with him. Unfortunately Pooja had other plans..and that is what marriage is all about! two people, who are different from each other and who have varying dreams, yet they work it out towards a single goal!If you dont tell someone what your problem is, how can you expect them to solve it?Not sharing your issues with your partner, and expecting them to be as perfect as you would like, is unfair!!Both Adi and Zoya were truly in love with their spouses and they WOULD have tried to make changes or adjustments!!but keeping them in the dark and then being unsatisfied or unhappy with the outcome is not fair...And on top of that, Poosh cheated on them when AdiYa were totally in love with them and trusted them the most!!
A/c to Adi & Zoya, what they felt & lived was love exactly! They were honest & committed while their partners weren't. Now that this topic is being discussed I feel that it was PooSh who were immature in true sense. It was just a matter of lack of communication. If you're living with someone under one roof, it's not like you expect that person to read your mind. AdiYa's love was defeated against PooSh's EMA 🤬Yash & puja were building castles in thin air but it is only Zoya and Adi who are taking the fall & plunging into darkness because of that!!And for that I can never forgive Poosh!Love, Sumi
Sumi, your analysis was on point. I hope you don't mind me calling you Sumi. I added my thoughts in dark blue 😊 AdiYa were bound to get hurt some or other day since if PooSh hadn't died, still the affair would've continued..
Channel V Dil Dosti Dance
