Adi was the reason Pooja cheated - Page 2

Originally posted by: eshasrk

Aditya is NOT the reason why Pooja cheated.

Pooja wanted to cheat, becoz she made the conscious choice too. She knew Aditya before they got married, she knew abt his likes and dislikes and suddenly after marriage she wanted him to change. To start liking all those things she liked.

And even if Aditya did not respond to that, there is always something called COMMUNICATION in a marriage. One party is not satisfied, talk it out with your husband or wife.

And if things still don't change , then there are 2 choices :

1) Either you man up and put an end to such a marriage where your not happy and satisfied OR

2) one can do what Pooja did and that is : cheating on your spouse

Both are conscious choices and both have their consequences

So Pooja blaming Aditya or so the CVs want to make it seem I find too lame

Cheating on your partner is NEVER justified irrespective whatever the reason for a failed marriage might be

And indeed now I think we should get a role reversal : Zoya should be the one who should take revenge from Aditya, coz acc to Pooja he was the one responsible for the fact that Pooja started something with Zoya's husband

Originally posted by: mijanur

Zo ko Maya banni padegi intekam lene ke liye.

Originally posted by: bugsbunny12

I agree i felt bad for pooja today

she always accompanied adi to his football matches even though she was least interested but adi refused to come to her poetry sessions

he lived by KKHH tagline love is friendship whereas love is a bit more than that, as even rahul and anjali find out in the film later on.

Pooja never got adi's company when she wanted...and adi had taken her for granted...even when she got upset and was leaving, instead of apologizing he said "pooja send me some chips upstairs"

I know it does not justify cheating but it sure made the reason behind cheating clear...

Originally posted by: mijanur

Completely agree with you. Cheating can never be justified. She knew Adi in and outs, she should have say no before marrying him.

She also knew how much Adi hate cheating still she decided to do it. If she was not feeling any junoon then she should have ask divorce from Adi.

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

I m sorry I don't buy d reason of betrayal , if she want passion then who was stopping her 2 talk 2 ADI . ADI did went with her in camping in full moon night. Pooja was coward not a frnd also 2 adi

Originally posted by: eshasrk

Aditya is NOT the reason why Pooja cheated.

Pooja wanted to cheat, becoz she made the conscious choice too. She knew Aditya before they got married, she knew abt his likes and dislikes and suddenly after marriage she wanted him to change. To start liking all those things she liked.

And even if Aditya did not respond to that, there is always something called COMMUNICATION in a marriage. One party is not satisfied, talk it out with your husband or wife.

And if things still don't change , then there are 2 choices :

1) Either you man up and put an end to such a marriage where your not happy and satisfied OR

2) one can do what Pooja did and that is : cheating on your spouse

Both are conscious choices and both have their consequences

So Pooja blaming Aditya or so the CVs want to make it seem I find too lame

Cheating on your partner is NEVER justified irrespective whatever the reason for a failed marriage might be

And indeed now I think we should get a role reversal : Zoya should be the one who should take revenge from Aditya, coz acc to Pooja he was the one responsible for the fact that Pooja started something with Zoya's husband

Originally posted by: Santiago24

As parties looking from outside, we always tend to be rational and apply that yardstick when evaluating human relationships.. unfortunately that's such a fallacy as human beings are anything but rational..

Pooja and Adi were always friends who gave that relationship, an added dimension of being spouses.. Atleast thats what I gathered about Pooja's spiel today.. They were best friends.. Its also not about changing someone you love.. its about expectations, compromise, adjustments - which are all part of a marriage.

That's where Adi faltered as he continued to take Pooja for granted, as he was still treating her as a friend.. assuming that she would get it.. whereas Pooja had these expectations that they could share each others likes.. make that adjustment even if one did not like it.. for ex, her going for football matches..

That communication can solve anything is the most easiest tool in the world and yet the most difficult to implement.. the irrationalities, frailities, the circumstances, the other person, his or her receptiveness, and several other factors go into the defining of each situation..

I will cut both Pooja and Adi some slack here.. two individuals with differing expectations.. Am I condoning cheating here? No, not at all.. Am just assimilating the story and trying to decipher the actions that led to this outcome.. No judgement..

To live a situation is very different from passing judgements, which again we as humans are aces at doing.. thats the paradox of it all 😊