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Rumi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#41

haha its true without DM the show wouldn't work, thats why I meant right at the end, closing credits shashank and santu marriage possible, u kno how prerna and basu get together in the end in Kasauti zindagi kay. to be honest alot of people have been fairly respectable to me here,lol, I haven't read the whole thread yet, just off work. might think differently once I've read it if possible!! (so long).

so thanku for puuting up with my diff views.

Have had very negative reactions from some other forums for positng a different view.

And someone said my ideas were romantic, guess they right esp concerning Hitmi, but I really hate Hiral, because i can't tolerate second love. don't believe in it! :(

Also to make it clear - i am fully aware this show is about Sanraj. thats why I started watching it. Love the pair, and how he grew to respect her etc. What I loved about this relationship was a growing respect that Dm had for a lower cast/poor girl- that development. Rather than accepting her as a wife angle.

I liked him realising her intelligence in spite of being young and scared, but having such courage and endurance. I liked him realising he was unjust towards her because he married her then treated her as a servant. That's why i loved the part when he said she should marry someone her own age, showing how considerate he was.

What I can't be happy with is that she is /was 18, him over 40 atleast as has 20+ kids.

A stepmother should never be younger than the children - its not right.

Sorry to use the word paedophilia, sorry to upset you guys, but I was trying to give you a sense of the reason why i can't accept a sexual relationship. i see SAN/RAJ as mentor/mentee rather than lovers.

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Rumi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: ramonag
vidya moonstruck liked arjan & hitmi.. 😕

Ahem please read my post again I said no such thing. In fact it was Arjan that ruined Bandini for me.

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RamonaG

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Posted: 15 years ago

#43

anyone who has watched the same bandini that most of us in this forum have watched cannot entertain or advocate such self deprecating ideas.i think we are watching two different versions of the same soap, which is interesting to note...MIL marrying SIL is indeed a novel idea & u deserve all kudos for ur ingenuity. Wish we could all be so intelligent but luckily we are not...also in KZK PRERNA was with bajaj in the end not basu. I think we have seen two different versions here too!!?amazing !.

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Rumi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: ramonag
anyone who has watched the same bandini that most of us in this forum have watched cannot entertain or advocate such self deprecating ideas.i think we are watching two different versions of the same soap, which is interesting to note...MIL marrying SIL is indeed a novel idea & u deserve all kudos for ur ingenuity. Wish we could all be so intelligent but luckily we are not...also in KZK PRERNA was with bajaj in the end not basu. I think we have seen two different versions here too!!?amazing !.

prerna and basu die together.

Shashank is no longer SIL.

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svmi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#45

Originally posted by: moonstruck
prerna and basu die together.

Shashank is no longer SIL.

but he once was. You seem to have very strong views about the age gap which is a fair but not about the relation between MIL and ex SIL which would totally be unacceptable in any society. Large age gap may not be norm but is not abnormal. i am sure you did not like 'cheeni kum' either.

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Rumi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#46

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Thats all! You must wear a helmet and chain mail to protect yourself. The gopikas are going to go on a rampage soon. So also the Sanraj supporters (which is nearly the whole forum)>😆

Thanks for the warning, I;ve already had death threats, and there are people coming with axe too! 🤣

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Rumi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#47

Originally posted by: svmi

but he once was. You seem to have very strong views about the age gap which is a fair but not about the relation between MIL and ex SIL which would totally be unacceptable in any society. Large age gap may not be norm but is not abnormal. i am sure you did not like 'cheeni kum' either.

I haven't watched that, but it doesn't seem too bad because tabu is older. Its under 20's etc with older men that i have a prob with. If santu was 21 when she got married I wouldn't have minded as much.

And like I said I don't seee how a girl can be mother to older kids. her mothering birwa and lil one was sweet, tho she just looked like older sis...ah yeah thats my point see, I felt like she looked like DM's daughter so 😒

The ex son-in-law thing, ye seems odd, but as these are not santu's real kids, nor is Shashank her real son-in-law. I'm guessing its the society which I've been brought up in which allows me to think like that, because only violation of blood-related relationships can be incest. Though of course if kaddu was still married to shashank, it would not be ok to contemplate santu and shashank marriage. everyone forgets shashank used to be in love with santu.

was it not wrong for the mother in law's lover to marry the daughter then?

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farhana

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Posted: 15 years ago

#48

I take enormous offence at the idea that you think a relationship between a girl of 18 and a man in hus 40's is paedophilic. It is legally acceptable to get married at 18. You say that that big an age gap is unpalatable. Well my parents had a 20 year age gap and whilst they often looked at the world in different ways, their relationship was one based on mutual respect, understanding admiration and love. Not all romance is about making googly-eyes at the teeny-bopper sitting across from you. When all is said and done I would always take a DM over a Hiten or Shanky anyday.

As for the idea that second loves don't exist, you try telling that to the people who are experiencing it. It is wrong to assume that just because you have loved once you cannot do so equally passionately again. I never cared for the HitMi relationship anyway. The maasi-bhanja relationship is what is unpalatble for me, even if it is through marriage. The principle remains the same.

You gave the example that Prerna and Anurag were together at the end. They were together in death, and even then only because Ekta felt she had to bring them together as the initial premise of the show was their love. But anyone who'd seen KZK will know that while early on Prerna and Anurag still pined for each other, at some point their relationship changed into one of devoted friendship. They loved each other but not as man and woman, but as friends and soul-mates. And yes, it is possible to have just a friend as a soul-mate.

In truth the bringing together of these two after death was the most preposterous thing ever. And felt so forced. Right up until the end Prerna was for and with Bajaj. I'm sure Ekta didn't start off with that intention, but in the course of the show the relationship between Prerna and Bajaj completely took over and became the defining relationship of the show.

I concur totally with the whole Birwa issue. Section her, imprison her or burn her at the stake, I could care less!

The TaruJi track was such a missed opportunity by the CV's. That had such potential and yet the CV's stopped it almost as abruptly as they started it.

I am hating Maulik at the moment, but I can't bring myself to hate him completely. Somewhere deep down he does have some goodness, it just happens to be buried under a lifetime of misguided angst and hatred.

Santu and Shanky have a good friendship and onscreen this is easily portrayed by the two respective actors. But they have no chemistry whatsoever. As far as a relationship between them is concerned, never gonna happen in a million years. I don't have to kill you, Santu will do it herself for that suggestion!!! 😆

Santu begins and ends with DM.

As for killing off DM. If Ekta ever did that it would be in the same category as the KZK ending. The worst, forced completely illogical end to an otherwise sublime story.

Shanky was never Santu's lover. She wasn't even aware of his feelings until he turned up to marry Kaddu. By then she had married DM, and didn't love Shanky anyway, so his marrying Kaddu was more about him being able to set aside his feelings for Santu, rather than any moral issues.

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svmi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: moonstruck

I haven't watched that, but it doesn't seem too bad because tabu is older. Its under 20's etc with older men that i have a prob with. If santu was 21 when she got married I wouldn't have minded as much.

And like I said I don't seee how a girl can be mother to older kids. her mothering birwa and lil one was sweet, tho she just looked like older sis...ah yeah thats my point see, I felt like she looked like DM's daughter so 😒

The ex son-in-law thing, ye seems odd, but as these are not santu's real kids, nor is Shashank her real son-in-law. I'm guessing its the society which I've been brought up in which allows me to think like that, because only violation of blood-related relationships can be incest. Though of course if kaddu was still married to shashank, it would not be ok to contemplate santu and shashank marriage. everyone forgets shashank used to be in love with santu.

was it not wrong for the mother in law's lover to marry the daughter then?

In 'Devdas' a novel by Sharat Chandra Chattopadhyay, Paro is married to the man with children much older than her. This is not a rare occurance in any society, in any age or era. It may not be to your liking but as i said earlier it is not abormal and there is nothing vulgar about it.

Sheshank was not Santu's lover. There was never anything between them. Sheshank liked a girl on his visit to a village and when he met her the second time she was a married woman. The only relation they ever had was that of a MIL and SIL. And a marriage between these two is unthinkable , unacceptable and vulgur.
Anyway, everybody is entitled to their opinion and so are you.

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Rani

@pyar-ishk

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Posted: 15 years ago

#50

All I can say is to each is own.

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