Let things come out in the open

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I feel it is time for things to come out in the open. And Ganga is taking the initiative.

Ganga Jagya have to solve their problems in their own way.

Anandi and dadisa tried to ignore the problem thinking everything will be alright.

Before the situation becomes more ugly between Shivam and Abhi, between Anandi and Ganga.

Ganga did not taunt but she expressed her sadness. Does she has to live in anandi's shadow forever?

Now she is a doctor and independent and she should stop depending excessively on Jagya for emotional support.

I remember how Shiv used to be lovey dovey towards his wife even in the midst of family and they used to tease him about it. Now I dont see any lovey dovey scenes between Jagya and Ganga in front of DS and Anandi. If such scenes happened who will feel more awkward? Jagya or anandi or Ganga?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Some problems wont go away by ignoring them. If one ignores cancer in the beginning, it will lead to death.

One has to face the problems and bring out the problem in the open.

It will do good to everyone concerned in the long run.


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Posted: 10 years ago
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This problem was anticipated by Anandi herself at the begining. She saw it coming.
Before that she was just a visitor.She used to come with her husband and go away

She was hesitant to even step into the house.She did tell them that she doesn't feel at home.

But her concerns were squashed by the same people who said they will not have problems with her stay.

Now what has changed over the years?

Did Anandi's feelings for J change? No .
Did her feelings towards Ganga change? No.

Did her behaviour towards them change from the time she was a visitor till now? No.

As for J and G what was it that changed over the years?


Shiv and Anandi being lovey dovey with each other was the reason for their strong marriage.
It is not about romance but it was about being each other's source of strength.The way their marriage shaped up they would have been the same way even now if Shiv had been alive.


If there are no romance between J and his third wife I don't think Anandi's presence is the reason behind it.
The way things are happening it was quite obvious that the differences of opinions over a lot of things had been arising between the couple over the past 11 years.

From what Ganga said that this Abhi and J issue had been going on for 11 years.It is not just Abhi and Shivam issue but it was also about J being too strict and rigid with Abhi.
Then the big issue about letting Mannu know about his biological father
Lack of romance could be attributed differences between husband and wife too over children and differences over professional life commitments and issues related to work.

Anandi is not the root cause it is the way the husband and wife look at things is the root cause of the problem.

If he did not like the way his wife handled the purchase of equipment issue why did he bring in Anandi into conversation to make a point to his wife?

Ganga knew her husband was not really over his first wife and there are ceratin qualities in that lady he appreciates so why is she so discontent ?

Edited by aparnauma - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Even children want to come out of their parents shadows and assert themselves as having their own plans.
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At that time both anandi and ganga did not anticipate the problems.

Both of them thought things will continue as ever.

But subtle changes were taking place.

The children, the unfavourable comparisons.

Ganga did not anticipate unfavourable comparisons.




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Posted: 10 years ago
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Once I used to take help and advice from my sisters.

Now I dont need their help or advice. Because I can think for myself and I know how I can help myself.

My sisters hold no grudges against me and they understood because their own children are also asserting themselves.

I have not become ungrateful just because I came out of their shadows.

Let me commit my own mistakes and suffer is my attitude now.
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Anandi clearly said that though Dsa thinks of her as beti the past between J and her can't be brushed away. She may not see him as a husband material nor she may not ever want to go back to him but she did say that Ganga may have problems with her staying.
Ganga knew her husband just fall short of worshipping the ground on which Anandi walks and he would love to see his wife have some qualities of Anandi then what changed for her?

Why can't she tell her husband that she can't be Anandi nor does can be like Anandi and he has to accept her as Ganga?
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Posted: 10 years ago
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CVs have given Ganga Jagya fights instead of romance purposefully.
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Once I used to take help and advice from my sisters.

Now I dont need their help or advice. Because I can think for myself and I know how I can help myself.

My sisters hold no grudges against me and they understood because their own children are also asserting themselves.

I have not become ungrateful just because I came out of their shadows.

Let me commit my own mistakes and suffer is my attitude now.

But here Anandi is not holding grudges against Ganga or Jagya so why should she be faulted?
Why should it always be Anandi? Why can't Ganga look inside her and why can't Jagya look inside him?
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Posted: 10 years ago
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first of all there is no need for jagan getting angry on each other for every thing .getting angry on everything is not solution instead it can create more problem in jagan life .instead of fighting on everything both should talk to each other calmly and listen to each other calmly

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