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Posted: 12 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: sectoreight

This is just our assumption that saanchi will be "expected" to dress more traditionally.

Saanchi has been wearing jeans and sleeveless tops all the time in Badi haveli prior to her sudden interest in jagdish. Nobody had any objections to her clothing - neither sumitra nor dadisa. This is saanchi's own endeavour to "fit in"... because Jagdish likes her in Indian clothing.

At this point in Badi Haveli, I think they are just relieved to have any girl as a bahu for Jagdish, and they don't have any expectations from saanchi anyway. 😆😆 . They all know who she is even if they don't say it outright.

The city is most certainly bringing about difference to the village in terms of education, healthcare etc. etc.

There is a difference between modernization and westernization.

Jayetsar is well on its way to modernization even if it isn't being westernized.

This is not our assumption alone. Anandi did make a big deal about it herself when she objected to Saanchi's proposal being taken to BH. But then - Saanchi over heard and blunted that particular argument by dressing in a saree and that too seedha pallu.

I don't think a saree or a salwar suit are westernized. But since I am apparently so wrong on so many fronts - maybe you are right here too.

Maybe sari and salwar suits alos are very western and imported from England - what do I know !!

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Posted: 12 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: hooked
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This is not our assumption alone. Anandi did make a big deal about it herself when she objected to Saanchi's proposal being taken to BH.

But badi haveli folks themselves never said anything of the sort. It is just anandi's own personal opinion as unofficial unappointed representative of badi haveli's interests. 😆😆

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Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: sectoreight

No. Because teej sinjara is sent from the girls maika based on the maika's customs. It consists only of sattu (a wheat and jaggery mixture sweet); kumkum; green bangles; and a sari along with gifts of saris for the girl's mother in law.

There is nothing controversial about this and the stuff remains standard even if there are variations in the rituals.

It would be like a tradition of sending a daughter firecrackers on Diwali and sweets.

Even if there are variations in the sasural, the gifts of firecrackers and sweets are not going to vary.

see what I mean?

No amount of variations will belie the gift of firecrackers and sweets because these are the standard for every Diwali.

Well not everybody knows all customs and trust me not everybody appreciates them either. It is nice that Ira is fine with it. I did not know what this teej is all about - coz unlike Diwali - this is probably very typical to people of Rajasthan.

My sis chose to get married into such a fmaily and her MIL had asked for a somehting similar for teej from my mom. But my mom said - we don't do it - so I can't send it. if U do it - please do what you U want to - just don't expect me to change my rituals to suit yours.

I was talking about the interesting manner in which on one hand - they want Anandi's saasra to have pride of place in deciding everything and yet - they impose their likes/dislikes on them at other times. I still think it wud have been prudent to check with her MIL. That's all !

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Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: sectoreight

But badi haveli folks themselves never said anything of the sort. It is just anandi's own personal opinion as unofficial unappointed representative of badi haveli's interests. 😆😆

Please quote the whole post and answer the whole thing. I also spoke about western dresses that you mocked earlier.

Adding two laughing icons to every post doesn't make it funny. This is ridiculous. What is your problem anyways ?

If you hate my views so much - why read them ?

Anandi is not any of the bold stuff. she is the acknowledged goddess of Jaitser and the only Queen of BH. What she says goes - in both houses both here and there. She is very much the uncrowned royalty here who knows how to get exactly what she wants every single time.

DS has been her fan always but now even Daddu has acknowledged her as such.

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Posted: 12 years ago

#45

Originally posted by: hooked

Well not everybody knows all customs and trust me not everybody appreciates them either. It is nice that Ira is fine with it. I did not know what this teej is all about - coz unlike Diwali - this is probably very typical to people of Rajasthan.

My sis chose to get married into such a fmaily and her MIL had asked for a somehting similar for teej from my mom. But my mom said - we don't do it - so I can't send it. if U do it - please do what you U want to - just don't expect me to change my rituals to suit yours.

I was talking about the interesting manner in which on one hand - they want Anandi's saasra to have pride of place in deciding everything and yet - they impose their likes/dislikes on them at other times. I still think it wud have been prudent to check with her MIL. That's all !

But Ira and Meenu ARE from Rajasthan, so they know what teej is about. Just because you don't know, that doesn't mean that they don't know as well.

And in this case, Ira and co. did not ask dadisa to send anything, so your sisters example does not hold here.

I again reiterate that the teej stuff is only sweets and gifts. There is nothing to check with the mother in law.

If I want to give someone a birthday gift, I gift whatever I want to gift them. Not what they think I should gift them.

Dadisa can give whatever she wants as gifts. Why does she need to check with Ira? There is no correlation between gifts and the rituals followed in Kesarbagh.

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Posted: 12 years ago

#46

A gift is one thing.

A gift which is a shagun for a festival to be observed by your daughter in another household is entirely another thing.

Anandi plans to keep a fast. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to fast on any random day - it wud be still ok to first clear it with IRA.

But - no matter what I say - I can see that apart from repeating myself about the strange standards - I'm not getting thru. So Let me not bother any more.

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Posted: 12 years ago

#47

Originally posted by: hooked
A gift is one thing.
A gift which is a shagun for a festival to be observed by your daughter in another household is entirely another thing.

Anandi plans to keep a fast. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to fast on any random day - it wud be still ok to first clear it with IRA.

I don't distinguish between the two types of gifts. I feel the gift depends on the discretion of the giver even for the shagun festival.

Checking with ira will only make it a dowry type of situation - where in- laws demand, demand and demand so called "gifts".

If there was any correlation between teej stuff and the rituals to be followed, I would completely agree with your assessment -- e.g. anandi's saasra has some ritual that uses holy ash, and dadisa does not do it that way, and then she needs to check with ira and then send holy ash because ira demands it or says it is done this way in our home.

But the teej stuff was just gifts, even if as shagun.

Also, I don't see any great reason to check with ira if it is okay for anandi to keep a fast. I mean, anandi is not harming anyone else. If she chooses to get up at 3 am, have a bath, do a pooja and have a fast for the whole day, that is her own lookout. Unless it inconveniences ira in some way, why bother to ask?

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Posted: 12 years ago

#48

Originally posted by: KiranlovSriti
dont know if its really happen cvs ka koi bharosa nahi hai 😲

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Posted: 12 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
Angie ur my twin😆 exactly my thoughts , exactly the way i watch the serial . Ur views r great dear , not bcoz they coincide with mine but bcoz they r so succint .

I am simply waiting for Jagya to just tell his family and walk off and them staring open mouthed at him ...its hi time they understand that an adult has all the rights to make personal commitments important to him/her and that they cannot change due to force of mother , fiancee , sasural , anything .

I ultimately want Jagya to marry Ganga WITHOUT asking Sumitra . I don't expect anything from Saanchi but expected from Sumitra . She behaved viciously .

Kools,

😆😆 on the red part. Thanks for the compliment.

The blue may very well happen the way they Jagya is. It would be a nice payback for Sumitra. She was vicious to a girl who has been abused so badly all her life. She has not expected a full fledged place in the family, but was just happy with crumbs of affection she was getting from the family. She played with emotions of an abused girl by first offering her a hope of family, but then treating her so ruthlessly when it did not suit her. It is Sumitra's viciousness and insecurity that would be mostly responsible for Ganga getting a proper place in this family. Also this distance/disaapointment from her son and husband is another payback for Sumitra.

Saanchi will automatically get a payback once Jagya breaks the engagement with her. She has been playing with emotions of too many people including her blood relatives. Granted they are blind about her and have a big hand in spoiling her, but still she is deceiving the people who love her the most. So Saanchi's payback would be that her object of obsession prefers a simple, less educated and a poor rural girl over her.