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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 12 years ago

#31

@TM-The way they went on a Rakhi tying spree we are relieved that they didn't make Anandi tie Rakhi on Jagya's wrist considering that BH has become Anandi's maika.

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Posted: 12 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: shalinii173
Actually yesterday when Sumi told Suguna has sent rakhi for Jagya I thought y didnt Ansndhi? May be next year she will tie for Jagya 😛

🤣 i had a similar thought yesterday when anandi told sanchi she is the beti of the house 😆

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 12 years ago

#33

Originally posted by: sectoreight

🤣🤣

Well Madan singh and radha don't like suguna going there all the time (even when she was in Jayetsar)... but Ira and Meenu and daddu and shiv too are more broad minded and liberal.

And probably more jobless too. 😉

The only activity Daddu gets is telling jokes. Of late I don't see him even watering his roses anymore.

And the rest are always sitting on the sofas and having chai all day long.

So much so - that when Anandi got hurt - Ira suggested now onwards Shiv accompany her everywhere coz apparently he too must be as jobless even though he's collector.

The Shekhars are just not shown right. I wish they gave Alok a stronger role and some substance. That bechara always has a handycam at any function and is overshadowed by his dad line maroing DS with his cheesy jokes.

Ira and Meenu too - are just all dressed up dolls. All credit, all praise, all jobs, all sanskaar, all rituals, all good values, all good food - everything is done by the great Sri Sri devi Maharani Anandi Mata anyways.

Liberal indeed !

That's why they have a free format house where Anandi does as she used to at BH and now BH will dictate teej here too. Wud it not have been wise for DS to call here and ask if they did teej here and if she cud send over the stuff for the same ?

Is this progressive or regressive ? Anandi was suggested to - just before and after her wedding - that she can dress more casually here, she had choices of sarees and salwar suits - but bcoz these are "liberal" people and allowed her to be comfortable - she wore as she saw fit. Saanchi had made some very good points about Shiv being a collector and her lehenga was making them look a very odd couple - which though 100% correct was royally snubbed by Shiv and Anandi - just to make Ms. A FEEL more comfortable.

However, since BH is not as "liberal", Saanchi will be expected to dress more traditionally. I know I know - there's no force here - its all her choice - but - the point I'm making is - the village and its customs are being brought to the city but the city is not bringing about any difference to the village.

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

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Posted: 12 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: hooked
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That's why they have a free format house where Anandi does as she used to at BH and now BH will dictate teej here too. Wud it not have been wise for DS to call here and ask if they did teej here and if she cud send over the stuff for the same ?

But teej stuff is only sent for daughters from the maika. 😆😆

Dadisa does not need to send stuff for ira and meenu and saanchi.

They are not her daughters.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Kools, I am so jealous. 😡 I was hoping I could be your twin. 😳🤗

😆😆😆

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

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Posted: 12 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: hooked
Is this progressive or regressive ? Anandi was suggested to - just before and after her wedding - that she can dress more casually here, she had choices of sarees and salwar suits - but bcoz these are "liberal" people and allowed her to be comfortable - she wore as she saw fit. Saanchi had made some very good points about Shiv being a collector and her lehenga was making them look a very odd couple - which though 100% correct was royally snubbed by Shiv and Anandi - just to make Ms. A FEEL more comfortable.

Shiv is a collector in the Indian Administration Services.

What is wrong if he has a wife who embodies the traditions of India even if it is rural India?

Why is it so necessary that a collector's wife wear saris or salwar suits?

Shiv's education and position and urban sophistication does not make him "better" than rural Indians.

Shiv married her for who she is, not whom Saanchi wanted her to be.

If he wanted a girl who wore salwar suits or saris, he would have found someone like ashima. He certainly had options and opportunities - he has an urban upbringing and an MBA from London.

And if he wanted to make Ms.A feel more comfortable, hats off to him.

He supported Anandi's truth. If she feels more comfortable in a certain dress, why should he force her to dress differently and live a lie??

And they "look like an odd couple" to whom?

The peanut gallery?

I would not respect Shiv if he required anandi to dress a certain way to make him look good.

The fact that he is secure in himself and does not see himself as being devalued by his wife dressing a certain way is a tribute to his self-confidence and his self-esteem. He doesn't have any insecurity about himself and how people will perceive him because of his wife's dressing style.

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 12 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: sectoreight

But teej stuff is only sent for daughters from the maika. 😆😆

Dadisa does not need to send stuff for ira and meenu and saanchi.

They are not her daughters.

Read my post carefully please.

I meant wud it not have been prudent of DS to ask IRA if she can send stuff FOR ANANDI for teej ?

Shudn't you ask your daughters saasra what customs and rituals they follow and what they don't ? What if IRA or Meenu had some objections or some variations they wanted ? Is it not very presumptuous of DS to think Anandi will do her teej in Udaipur exactly as she has been used to doing all the time she was in BH ?

Edited by hooked - 12 years ago

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 12 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Shiv is a collector in the Indian Administration Services.

What is wrong if he has a wife who embodies the traditions of India even if it is rural India?

Why is it so necessary that a collector's wife wear saris or salwar suits?

Shiv's education and position and urban sophistication does not make him "better" than rural Indians.

Shiv married her for who she is, not whom Saanchi wanted her to be.

If he wanted a girl who wore salwar suits or saris, he would have found someone like ashima. He certainly had options and opportunities - he has an urban upbringing and an MBA from London.

And if he wanted to make Ms.A feel more comfortable, hats off to him.

He supported Anandi's truth. If she feels more comfortable in a certain dress, why should he force her to dress differently and live a lie??

And they "look like an odd couple" to whom?

The peanut gallery?

I would not respect Shiv if he required anandi to dress a certain way to make him look good.

The fact that he is secure in himself and does not see himself as being devalued by his wife dressing a certain way is a tribute to his self-confidence and his self-esteem. He doesn't have any insecurity about himself and how people will perceive him because of his wife's dressing style.

You seem determined to misinterpret every bit of all my posts.

This is not about Shiv. I never said a word about him or his likes. This is about the amount of adaptability expected from the bahu to merge into the new household. But repeating what I have already said - will just make as much sense as my previous post made - so - I will spare you and me the pain.

Relax !!!

Edited by hooked - 12 years ago

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

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Posted: 12 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: hooked
However, since BH is not as "liberal", Saanchi will be expected to dress more traditionally. I know I know - there's no force here - its all her choice - but - the point I'm making is - the village and its customs are being brought to the city but the city is not bringing about any difference to the village.

This is just our assumption that saanchi will be "expected" to dress more traditionally.

Saanchi has been wearing jeans and sleeveless tops all the time in Badi haveli prior to her sudden interest in jagdish. Nobody had any objections to her clothing - neither sumitra nor dadisa. This is saanchi's own endeavour to "fit in"... because Jagdish likes her in Indian clothing.

At this point in Badi Haveli, I think they are just relieved to have any girl as a bahu for Jagdish, and they don't have any expectations from saanchi anyway. 😆😆 . They all know who she is even if they don't say it outright.

The city is most certainly bringing about difference to the village in terms of education, healthcare etc. etc.

There is a difference between modernization and westernization.

Jayetsar is well on its way to modernization even if it isn't being westernized.

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

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Posted: 12 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: hooked

I meant wud it not have been prudent of DS to ask IRA if she can send stuff FOR ANANDI for teej ?

Shudn't you ask your daughters saasra what customs and rituals they follow and what they don't ? What if IRA or Meenu had some objections or some variations they wanted ? Is it not very presumptuous of DS to think Anandi will do her teej in Udaipur exactly as she has been used to doing all the time she was in BH ?

No. Because teej sinjara is sent from the girls maika based on the maika's customs. It consists only of sattu (a wheat and jaggery mixture sweet); kumkum; green bangles; and a sari along with gifts of saris for the girl's mother in law.

There is nothing controversial about this and the stuff remains standard even if there are variations in the rituals.

It would be like a tradition of sending a daughter firecrackers on Diwali and sweets.

Even if there are variations in the sasural, the gifts of firecrackers and sweets are not going to vary.

see what I mean?

No amount of variations will belie the gift of firecrackers and sweets because these are the standard for every Diwali.

Edited by sectoreight - 12 years ago