Making a difference! - Page 2

Originally posted by: Picasso9

The way I see it is that Jagya lashed out at HIS family. He felt satisfied that he had his familiy's unwavering support when it came to him fulfilling his responsibility towards Ganga and Mannu. He had no inkling of the inner dynamics (politics) that was taking place daily in his house. Most men don't get embroiled in such things. He trusted his family to at least stop Ganga. What upset him was that no one stopped her. He looked specifically at his mother and Dadisa for this assurance and in turn found his mother petulant and was able to deduce something was not kosher. Of ourse he knows what his family has gone through but he knows that they have each other as support. The need of the hour was finding Ganga. Sure it's their choice, then why to live in a joint family. Then Everyone should just be Independant and not answerable to each other. No man is an island!

Originally posted by: hima_123

The problem with joint family, and any other kind family is --when sacrifices are expected from others, often from women. He trusted his family to stop Ganga, but didn't he trust Ganga also to leave smack in the middle of the night, and do something more rational? People can be under extreme emotional pressures---and Ganga's act of leaving at night, and they not stopping---was ALL done in emotionally high situation. He didn't realize the pressure his own mother felt before...infact for some reason it's almost taken for granted that Sumitra should be ok with everything her family decides--or everything that is good for community--even if she voices out...it's not imprtant...because her personal fears aren't as important.
As far as why live in a joint family...I don't know. Lot of people lived in those for financial and other practical reasons. However, from my understanding, the reason of breaking up of joint families is...people dictating morals to other people. These serials aren't building up morals in our society...just making us demand morals from others.

Originally posted by: Picasso9

Hima,

Sumi has every right to have her own morals. She is also responsible for how others treat her. She set a precedent by being meek and mild for many years. Also if she really was so staunchly against the idea of Ganga being in her home, she should have used proper methods. No one can read her mind. Her tactics of first bullying Ganga in private moments away from the family and then Venturing into public domain (godh badaai). She is quite an elderly woman, she should have sat her family down and strongly put forth her predicament. She should have told them not only that she fears Rattan Singh because of Ganga's presence but also that she personally doesn't want Ganga living in the house now that Jagya is engaged and for propriety's sake. They still don't know that she also has a problem with Ganga's and Jagya's growing closeness. She didn't even discuss this with Bhairon...yet she has a very stable, mature marriage with him.

About Jagya trusting Ganga not to leave...Ganga is the newest member in Jagya's life. How can he implicitly trust her yet. Furthermore, if Singhs are under pressure after one night of terror, imagine what that one night did to Ganga. It probably created an earthquake within her, reviving all those nightmarish memories of years of brutality. She still lacks confidence, self esteem, inner conviction. Years of abuse will do that to a person. Jagya cut her more slack because she doesn't have the support infrastructure that Singh's have with each other.

Is demanding more morals from others such a bad thing. Shouldnt we be each others' moral compass? Shouldn't we always strive for being better? Don't our scriptures demand better morals?

Originally posted by: Tindae

Did Jagya really insult his mother? He was angry and shouted at her. The family was wrong to let Ganga leave with the child , in the night.

Originally posted by: SPuja

Shouting at your mother is not insulting her? His mother was not wrong, but he behaved rudely with her like she ousted Ganga at night. He was rude and has insulted his mother.