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rdjha

@rdjha

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#31

I agree that anandi is not at fault...she is just trying to save a relationship from going too far and then breaking, causing much more hurt to everyone...specially Sanchi...

but i think speaking it out now also doesnt make much sense...i mean after the rishta is fixed no one would like to break it off. Shekhars did a blunder by taking the rishta and presenting it as if they are desperate - agreed, and Singhs and J also did the same but in less magnitude...by accepting it immediately and not buying few days time to reply back on it.

anandi did try to warn everyone and put forth her point, but later she remained mum cause her hubby dear told her to wait and watch.

singhs just thought that anandi is ok due to her silence, but later when she tried to put sense into sumi, sumi was in her lala land and did not now notice that her assuming that anandi is ok with the rishta is not true. had it been the old sumi she wud have immediately caught what anandi meant.

i dont think anandi will say this to Ira because of G2, even without G2 anandi's opini0on wud have been the same., She can see a worst JG1 happenning, bcause then atleast JG1 loved each other.

but i think her timing is not correct...immediately after the rishta is fixed, no one will agree to break it ..whatever the reason...and the reason is just of not being compatible, to which everyone will say that they will adjust. it is not like either of J/Sa is cheat/fraud/liar to break rishta immediately.

anandi shud wait for sometime, so that people in BH start seeing Sanchi;s true colors, which eventually they will. and also J will notice it and can then put forth the differences.

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poorva

@poorvab

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#32

very well said 👏

Originally posted by: aparnauma
Initially when Sanchi threw this bomb on their faces they all got mad because they felt that of all people she has chosen to fall in love with Jagya and started abusing his character and started to say that he trapped her.

In defense of Jagya's character both Anandi and Shiv spoke up saying he is not like that and he is not the type to trap her.Sanchi also confirmed that it was not Jagya but it is she who is in love with him and he is unaware of her feelings.

At that time itself Ira had asked Anandi if she would like to see Sanchi get married to Jagya and she said NO SHE DID NOT WANT TO SEE THIS MARRIAGE HAPPENING.She has not changed her mind since then.

She kept protesting since then but it was Shiv who told her to let go of it and let it take it's own course.

Shekhars went to BH botched it up and presented themselves to Singhs like they are desperate to see SaJa get married when it was exactly the opposite thing they wanted to convey.

Singhs despite not being keen they didn't want to hurt the feelings so they ended up saying yes.
In all this .

In all this how could she open her mouth and tell them anything?

How can she warn Jagya when Sanchi herself has not confessed her feelings for him?

They all went there expecting J to refuse but he was not given a full picture so he said yes.

A doesn't know that J said yes because of her.

They all have seen for themsleves how Sanchi was behaving How J was reacting to Sanchi and they all have noticed how unsuitable they are for each other.

Nobody is willing to accept the truth.

If she says that they should call off the wedding I don't think there is anything wrong in it.It is better to call off a wedding than see a marriage break later on.

Any ways we don't really know under what circumstances she told Ira that they should break off the wedding.

Why is Ira angry with Anandi????She should be angry with herself for doing such a pathetic job of bringing up her daughter.It is very obvious that she only indulged her daughter's wishes and never actually sat and talked with her or listened to her.

@bold - very true!

anandi had very clearly told her views to everyone, and also did her bit by explaining to sanchi in private that u n jagya r very different n it wont work out! even now she 's saying the same!

when everyone in badi haveli was proposing the marriage idea, how could she say at that time that no i am against this rishta!! seriously, that doesn't make sense

and right now, its not too late to break the marriage. only shagun has been given, its not like they have got engaged or marriage preps have started! sirf baat hi to pakki kari hai, its better to stop it rather than regretting later! even i dont like the way they will show anandi getting in the bad books of ira again by all this, but i guess its important from anandi's pov as this relationship will never work out!

And i dont understand - when shekhars were leaving for jaitser they decided they should find out what is in jagya's mind , but over there they were literally begging them to accept it by saying bachon ki khushi hai etc !!

they only wanted to see what were jagya's thoughts , but does this mean that jagya also likes sanchi will make them all happy and agree to this relation! i dont understand these people! his character and the fact that he's had 2 failed relationships and other flaws that they pointed out earlier have not been changed by the fact that he is ready to marry sanchi 😲 so how r they all content with it now? and why is ira so angry now if the rishta breaks?? wasnt she the one who said, main apni beti ko puri zindagi ghar bitha lungi lekin jagya se shadi nai karaugi! i fail to see how circumstances have changed now that have made ira see differently !!

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Jan50

@Jan50

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#33

Every body including Anandi is paying J like a toy. Anandi took it upon herself to lecture and bully

Jagia to arry to please his parents. She was an intelligent woman, an activist. How can she force

marriage on J. That was my biggest gripe on A. Poor Jagia because of his guilt feelings of the

Past he is turned into a robot. Every body including his dearest mother and Ds is bringing up

Anandi's past and tieing her happiness to his decision. But i am happy at least now Anandi gathered her courage for which we hail her, and decided to confront her MIL. I think once she has decided she wil not retreat. She may be doing yhis more for the future happiness of Singh family.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#34

But she has spoken a bit late . She has spoken after the rishta became fixed . Why was she quiet uptill now . She was even shushing her father who rightly pointed it out to her that speak up , this odd rishta will affect your life . All this while she kept quiet till even the Singhs got wrong signals about her silence . She should have spoken up when the Shekhars were planning to take the proposal to the Singhs .

Also what is the point of asking Ganga NOW if her behaviour when Jagya was serious in hospital meant more etc. She should have had this talk much earlier if she really wants to fall in this matter . Sanchi's rishta is fixed and now she is telling her sasural members and asking Ganga ? Isn't her time sense odd ?

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: Jan50
Every body including Anandi is paying J like a toy. Anandi took it upon herself to lecture and bully
Jagia to arry to please his parents. She was an intelligent woman, an activist. How can she force
marriage on J. That was my biggest gripe on A. Poor Jagia because of his guilt feelings of the
Past he is turned into a robot. Every body including his dearest mother and Ds is bringing up
Anandi's past and tieing her happiness to his decision. But i am happy at least now Anandi gathered her courage for which we hail her, and decided to confront her MIL. I think once she has decided she wil not retreat. She may be doing yhis more for the future happiness of Singh family.

I agree with your post but not the last part...Anandi is doing this to save happiness of both the family...the problem here is even if Saanchi-Jagya's rishta gets broken Singhs-Shekhars ties won't break because even Anandi-Shiv are their to bind them together and their rishta will not break with Saanchi-Jagya...so after Saanchi-Jagya divorce things can get very bad or sour with Shekhars and Singhs but yet they will have to remain in ties because Shiv-Anandi are married...if Saanchi-Jagya marriage happens Saanchi tantrums can bring many complication b/w the families and in the end with Jagya will just end up losing faith in marriage completely and Saanchi will end up being a divorcee where it will difficult for her family to even explain why she became a divorcee if they think of her re-marriage...Anandi is thinking about both the families equally

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
But she has spoken a bit late . She has spoken after the rishta became fixed . Why was she quiet uptill now . She was even shushing her father who rightly pointed it out to her that speak up , this odd rishta will affect your life . All this while she kept quiet till even the Singhs got wrong signals about her silence . She should have spoken up when the Shekhars were planning to take the proposal to the Singhs .

Also what is the point of asking Ganga NOW if her behaviour when Jagya was serious in hospital meant more etc. She should have had this talk much earlier if she really wants to fall in this matter . Sanchi's rishta is fixed and now she is telling her sasural members and asking Ganga ? Isn't her time sense odd ?

I cannot comment of their things points since i am confused about them but i don't think anandi did any wrong in shushing her father because first it would not have made a difference and second anandi wanted to stay out of this matter till then because they had thought that elders would never agree with this relation and her saying anything in this matter would have made saanchi against her...now anandi is reacting because she can see elders have lost their mind are not thinking in long term time

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 12 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
But she has spoken a bit late . She has spoken after the rishta became fixed . Why was she quiet uptill now . She was even shushing her father who rightly pointed it out to her that speak up , this odd rishta will affect your life . All this while she kept quiet till even the Singhs got wrong signals about her silence . She should have spoken up when the Shekhars were planning to take the proposal to the Singhs .

Also what is the point of asking Ganga NOW if her behaviour when Jagya was serious in hospital meant more etc. She should have had this talk much earlier if she really wants to fall in this matter . Sanchi's rishta is fixed and now she is telling her sasural members and asking Ganga ? Isn't her time sense odd ?

In the beginning itself she told Ira when Ira asked her whether she supported Jagya Sanchi marriage.She said no.Since then her stand has always been that.

Senior Shekhars did a flip flop on it and decided to go ahead with it.Even then when she raised her voice her husband asked her to keep quiet.

After the surprising acceptance by Singhs and seeing the reality of that match she decided to voice her opinion again.She tried to make Sumi see the truth but Sumi was too blind to see that's why she probably making Ira to see this.

Since nobody seems to be interested in Sanchi heading towards a doom she was trying to do her bit.

As for Ganga - She did not ask Ganga about her feelings for Jagya she only asked her if she is unhappy about anything.Because she saw her crying and looking disturbed.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#38

Saw the episode .

She sked Ganga straightway if it was 'more' . It was a woman to woman talk and she wanted to know about it .

Ganga refused about anything 'more' and tried to lie unsuccesfully and Anandi simply knew the truth .

Neither am i saying she was wrong to ask Ganga nor am i saying she was wrong to ask her sasural members .

Infact i am saying why she did not put her foot down and ask earlier .

Whenever she will ask she was bound to face negativitity . That was sure . 100%. So why not ask before the proposal went to the Singhs .

Why one day later after all happily agreed to the rishta .

Makes no sense to me at least .

See what the Singhs felt about her silence .

See what Jagya felt .

They misunderstood that she was okay with the proposal .

And why should she not have a say in the going ons of that joint family .

She is the eldest bahu of the house , the wife of the eldest son . Of course she has a full right to tell her sasuma exactly what she feels about them taking a proposal of their daughter to her ex .

She should not lie , be quiet or diplomatic about this issue but be clear cut and vocal and not mince words .

Her father was absolutely right .

It does not matter if him saying certain things made a difference or not . The Shekhars needed to hear some outside opinions .

The man was no outsider , he was their bahu's shocked father coz what they were gonna do was preposterous and affected his daughter's life .

Still , if she thought her father speaking out would worsen matters coz the situation was delicate , she could have pulled him back and spoken herself .

Why not BEFORE .

why AFTER .

whenever it was spoken Sanchi and Ira would be unreasonable . But does that mean she should agree to their any rubbish .

She has spoken up even against family members when she was Sarpanch . Then why the hesitation .

The Shekhars too should understand that a bahu is not just for fetching tea and desserts in a tray but has a complete say in decisions that affect lives .

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poorva

@poorvab

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
Saw the episode .

She sked Ganga straightway if it was 'more' . It was a woman to woman talk and she wanted to know about it .

Ganga refused about anything 'more' and tried to lie unsuccesfully and Anandi simply knew the truth .

Neither am i saying she was wrong to ask Ganga nor am i saying she was wrong to ask her sasural members .

Infact i am saying why she did not put her foot down and ask earlier .

Whenever she will ask she was bound to face negativitity . That was sure . 100%. So why not ask before the proposal went to the Singhs .

Why one day later after all happily agreed to the rishta .

Makes no sense to me at least .

See what the Singhs felt about her silence .

See what Jagya felt .

They misunderstood that she was okay with the proposal .

And why should she not have a say in the going ons of that joint family .

She is the eldest bahu of the house , the wife of the eldest son . Of course she has a full right to tell her sasuma exactly what she feels about them taking a proposal of their daughter to her ex .

She should not lie , be quiet or diplomatic about this issue but be clear cut and vocal and not mince words .

Her father was absolutely right .

It does not matter if him saying certain things made a difference or not . The Shekhars needed to hear some outside opinions .

The man was no outsider , he was their bahu's shocked father coz what they were gonna do was preposterous and affected his daughter's life .

Still , if she thought her father speaking out would worsen matters coz the situation was delicate , she could have pulled him back and spoken herself .

Why not BEFORE .

why AFTER .

whenever it was spoken Sanchi and Ira would be unreasonable . But does that mean she should agree to their any rubbish .

She has spoken up even against family members when she was Sarpanch . Then why the hesitation .

The Shekhars too should understand that a bahu is not just for fetching tea and desserts in a tray but has a complete say in decisions that affect lives .

i'm not saying ur wrong, but have u seen the episodes properly? Anandi , from the day Sanchi told them all, was against it and she said it to everyone and to sanchi as well. when ira asked her infront of everyone, she said it that she doesnt think this is a good match.

and she also told ganga that i wish i could do something for helping you but i cant.

she is not objecting to the relationship now because of ganga, she is speaking out now because she , like all of us, never knew the Skhekhar family would finalize the rishta in Jaitser. they only said that they want to know what jagya feels and thats what they will find out in Jaitser, but they straightaway finalized the rishta! and anandi had no idea they had this in mind!

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#40

Yes i am seeing all the episodes of this track .

I am not takling of tentatively giving an opinion when asked and keeping silent all the time .

I am talking of her talking seriously and decisively .

Why not tell the husband that this will NEVER do .

Why not talk when the Shekhars were discussing about ' JAGYA KO TATOL KE DEKHTE HAI'

she has merely given an opinion which Ira has of course dismissed and Sanchi has railroaded .

Sanchi crushes anyone who comes in her way . Even her family .

I don't buy it that she was just going along with this ' Let us see what Jagya's reaction is ' nonsense by the Shekhar family .

What was she expecting when the propsal was put forward , that this stage was not serious enough ? She was waiting for a more serious stage ?

Her putting her foot down before would have ensured that the proposal would never have gone to the Singhs .

Also she should have immediately phoned the Singhs and told them to refuse Sanchi if she was confident that she would be bypassed and come what may the proposal would go to the Singhs .

She owes that family that much , Sanchi is thoroughly unsuitble for that family .

As i see it

she did NOT talk decisively to the family

she did NOT talk decisively to her husband

she did NOT talk at all with the Singhs , so much so that her silence was taken for agreement .

Her silence is also responsible for a lot of things .

She should have spoken up much earlier , to Shiv , to Jagya , to the Singhs and to her family .

It is a bit late , thats all .