why DIL should tell all to MIL

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Posted: 12 years ago
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I mean, your parents take care of you, cry and laugh with you, make all kinds of sacrifices for you, still how many of you tell them everything? Then you get married and suddenly supposed to trust a whole bunch of strangers who have never done anything for you, who don't know you, whom you don't know, and they must have your full trust and all your confessions?
Ira should get angry with Shiv, he is the one who hid stuff from her, But Anandi is not obliged to tell her anything. She should have told Shiv, which she did duly did.
Trust has to be earned, not demanded. MIL is not the same as mother. My teenager tells me once every fortnight that he hates me, can I say something like that to my MIL

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Exactly ..
Anandi told shiv and that was that.
Shiv is the one who hid things and he rightly accepted that in the precap.
I am sooo annoyed with Ira
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Posted: 12 years ago
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OMG my teenager hates my every restrictions these days either its her driving or partying, when she realizes her mistake says sorry!! If I used to say sorry to my in-laws for no reason they still use to sulk...
I agree with u all.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I partly agree with you.

But then, if a woman has to live for the rest of her life in the new family and wants acceptance there then she should be honest to them too!

It's said DIL should be treated like daughter. If so then shouldn't DIL be honest?

You may not confide everything. But at least stuff like this (what DS did) should have talked about. Anandi and Shiv could have discussed this together with elders of Shiv's family.

If you keep treating your in laws as "strangers" then why expect apnapan from them for you?

And if this is the case then couple should live separately post marriage. Why live in a joint family then?

There should be honesty in all relationships. If it's not there, then the relationship will be fragile.

Had Anandi and Shiv told about this beforehand then Ira wouldn't learn of this from third parties and wouldn't have felt betrayed.

Ira and Shekhars have been very nice and tolerant to Singhs and Anandi. What else do they need to do to earn her trust? Rather I'd like to know what has Anandi done to earn their trust? Made cakes?!
You hide stuff from them then you're obviously leaving loopholes for trouble in future. You are not earning trust this way.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Haha! As I said in other thread, now I realise why my friend's only condition for marriage is that the boy's mother should be long dead! 😆

In-laws are a hassle to all women. Anything they do is a hassle.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Skepblun

Haha! As I said in other thread, now I realise why my friend's only condition for marriage is that the boy's mother should be long dead! 😆

In-laws are a hassle to all women. Anything they do is a hassle.


its not only her 😉
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Posted: 12 years ago
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It should have come from Shiv and not from Anandi.She is finding Annadi at fault for what DS and her son did.If her son did not think it was important enough to tell what wrong has Anandi done?

When Anandi found out about DS she immediately told Shiv because that was the right thing to do.
But it was Shiv who thought differently because this issue of someone badmouthing him is of no consequence to him.Because he knows the truth and eople who know him know what kind of a person he is.So obviously he did not think it was a big issue.And he definitely did not marry Anandi because he was trapped into marrying her and the entire family including Ira know that.

So how did this issue become so big for Ira when it was she who did not take it seriously when Urmidevi made all those allegations in the first place way back before the wedding?It is not like she got her son married to someone like Anandi because no one else came for ward to marry her son.
Why is she making a big issue out of it?

It is she who is at fault for insulting her DIL in front of an outsider and forced her son to stan up against her.It is high time she realised that it is not mother against wife but wrong against right.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Skepblun

Haha! As I said in other thread, now I realise why my friend's only condition for marriage is that the boy's mother should be long dead! 😆

In-laws are a hassle to all women. Anything they do is a hassle.


hahah😆

secret wish of all those who are married
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian


hahah😆

secret wish of all those who are married

I don't agree with this...I always wanted a complete family of my husband...not just mother father siblings but good relationships with cousins too..mainly because I have very good first cousins from my mothers side. My husband envys my relationship with my cousins and aunts..
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

Sheets :)

Kidding yaar :)

I know that suchi...but it's true I have seen girls don't want lot of family members on their husband side. So that they can dominate on him.

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