why DIL should tell all to MIL - Page 3

She need not ell them everything

Anandi should have told the Shekhar's but kaise batati wo toh socho?

Agar wo inko batati toh would she not be going against Shiv; ek baar Shiv ne use kaha I will handle it toh usne phir socha hi nahi;

Shiv also did not take the matter seriously arre like wo dono sochte bhi kaise ki kabhi aise kuch hoga adn sab kuch bahar aayega

She told Shiv everything and that showed the trust and strength of their relationship

She should have told them about Shiv knowing because ab Shiv chahe jitna bole I knew it Ira ne soch liya hai ki it is A's fault and Shiv is taking her side

Then again Shiv gave the justification for her keeping her mouth shut about him

You know ye BV wale humein bhi pendu bana rahe hain; Dono taraf se soch rahe hain hum and dono taraf apni jagah sahi hai like Mahi said

Dono jab sahi hote hain toh ye tay kanra mushkil hai ki kaun zyaada sahi hai

LOOKING ON THE BRIGHT SIDE

Ira ko negative nahi bana rahe hain na hi use butcher kar rahe hain; thoda lapse in judgement dikha rahe hain;

this Saachi ka kiya hua kaand will somehow strengthen Ira Anandi relationship. Meenu use beti maanti hai but Ira use bahu maanti hai; this is the third time use lag raha hai ki Shiv Anandi ke kareeb aur uss se door ja raha hai

DHEERE DHEERE IT WILL BE OK ANANDI KO BHI SHEKHAR BAHU BANNE KA MAUKA MIL RAHA HAI AB TAK SINGH'S KI BETI BANKAR HI RAHI HAI

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

true samvi.. I do agree that if Anandi told Ira that shiv knew that would have solved the situation.

Its sad that the situation just got worse and Ira's Ego got hurt!

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

I still do not understand how Anandi has done anything to make shekars look bad?

Even lets say she earns the trust of shekars.. what after that?

If this issue were to come out even after years of marriage... Ira willstill feel bad and blame Anandi. Cause even when shiv would support her after 10+ years she would feel bad. Its just a mother in law syndrome. Normal and irritating but thats how it is.

Anandi told Shiv and thats that. Shiv is at fault here if anything not Anandi.

ANd Shiv did not think it was important to tell the family at that time.. and he didnt

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This issue of trust would raise only if Anandi did wrong to the shekars. She has never said anything wrong about SHiv and his family. She has always supported him and what else should be expected of a wife. That she takes care of the husband and his family to the best of her abilities. WHich Anandi is doing.

I do not understand why people are saying that Anandi has to earn their trust. I mean ... she is doing what a DIL does.

. Take care of her husband

. Take care of the family by cooking cleaning making sure that they are fed and taking responsibility of what ever chores she can

. Making sure she does not bad mouth about her inlaws to her mayka wala peeps

. Making sure that she does not bad mouth about her in laws to her husband.

I mean from where i see... any good mother would want her son's wife to do what Anandi is doing.

I am not sure what else she needs to do.. press Ira's legs? hmm

I am sure she will do that too

perhaps clean their toilets .. that she probably does too..

May be become a slave..

isnt that she was doing for her dadisa for 26 years of her life?

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What has the Shekars done for Anandi

Given her love? Yes

Did Anandi give them love Yes

Did she bear Sanchi's nonsense.. yes

Did sanchi bear Anandi NO

Did she disrespect Ira No

Did Ira disrespect Anandi Yes (twice) Annadi does not know that her mother in law already inquired if she had sex with her son or not.

SO ... My question is what should a daughter in law do to gain respect of her in laws besides taking the responsibility of her home and her husband?

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Originally posted by: mukta13

confidence and trust is something which has to be earned and not demanded.It is Anandi here who has to earn it.she has done nothing for her in laws,she has made only shiv happy except for wearing saree,comming for makar sankrati and making food.which any DIL but on the other hand shekhars had to suffer for her,before marraige a lot of jagia drama in which she equally participated,returning to Jaitser on third day bcoz she was not comfortable and missed her family,celebrating all festivals at BH,she went to udaipur only when she knew Ira really felt bad,not having a husband wife relationship till four months and the whole familay knew about it and above all giving more importance to singhs over shekhar when she knew saachi is making a big issue about it.And about Shiv he is just joru ka ghulam,why a mother will not feel bad.U need not say everything to ur MIL but then u have to face the consequences when a third person comes and gives u the detail.Shiv did not sayall this to keep peace and save insult of DS but look what happened ,DS has fallen down in the eyes of sekhars but he himself along with Anandi has fallen down in the eyes of Ira.U can never be happy If your mother is sad atleast for me.

Anandi has never said lie,she told ample of times about jagia as singhs would be hurt but might be her marraige could be saved If she told the truth in time.

Shiv and anandi r repeating the past which has started showing its effect.

Originally posted by: SPuja