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Quite a feverish discussion.
I DON'T think there is 'much ado over nothing' going on here. The hug is a big deal. In the entertainment world, males and females think nothing of hugging and giving air kisses to each other however generally it is not condoned for males and females to demonstrate affection publicly. Heck, even married couples are embarrassed when caught even just holding hands. That's just how it is in India (my frame of reference).
I finally watched the controversial episode and wanted to further add my take.
1. Yes Jagya was quite remorseful. He genuinely did not wish to malign Ganga. HOWEVER, I don't think he realized that he was maligning ANANDI as well. What made his remorse indigestible was that he qualified his apology with an excuse...'sorry, I didn't mean to. It wasn't me, it was the bhang'. What would have proved his growth in his reformation was if he said, 'I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. And it should not have happened. I should have had better control of myself'. That statement would have validated Ganga. By making excuses he was invalidating the sense of umbrage that she was feeling.
2. the Singh's (well Dadisa more so) did admit that whatever happened was wrong. But she should have put her money where her mouth is and used it as a teachable moment for Jagya. She could have sat her Laadesar down and explained to him about a women's Lajja. I'm sure Jagya does understand already, but coming from an adored female family member makes an even greater impact.
3. I feel that the Cv's intentionally crafted Ganga's reaction and explanation;
A) to enable her to give Jagya that final push to get over Anandi, when he comes to find out how damaging his love for a married woman can be.
B) to edge Jagya closer towards redemption with the above realization.
C) to prevent Ganga from becoming the villain but rather the savior of Jagya with her carefully penned dialogues.
D) last but not least, this incident becomes a social message as well. This past weekend everyone has been debating this quite passionately. This much talked about scene has, if nothing else, created awareness about Eve Teasing and the implications.
I recall this week in Mahadev ( courtesy of the written update)
Lakshmiji tells Vishnu, that Parvati had told Shivji, if he is unable to get the Gajara then she will forget about him. Then he'll have to work hard to remind her. But this seems like Devi Parvati's test, not Shivji's. Vishnuji enlightens, Parvati's hard work is visible, she is like a child now, needs guidance. Where as Shivji's work is more difficult, like a mother he sees the child not being able to walk but he has to stop himself from helping her. His Akarma is his Shram.
Vishnuji says this shows Parvati is searching her self with Shivji's help. If you will notice the true meaning of Aadi Shakti's Leela, it's explaining the World about the Ashtanga Yoga. This is her Kripa on the world.
So too I feel the Cv's are using Ganga to help Jagya find himself and help Singh's realise their folly. Through this they are explaining to us about certain social evils pertaining to a women's lajja.
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