Why Anandi is People Pleaser ?

Anandi has always stepped in make others happy...everyone can count on her for a favour. Sekhars ,Singhs and even their servants are fighting over her for her being nice.

Bhach she has low self esteem. So pleasing people she feels better about herself. She feels if she doesnt, she will be rejected.

Only with shiv is open about her inner self. Otherwise she would have already consummated her marriage to please him. So I think all these years she pleased others to make th happy never thought about her desires in life. it's only with shiv she is not giving herself to please him. This is possible only bcos of shiv understanding her like no one did till now. The main reason she married him rejecting jagya as she is herself completely with him which she never was with adult jagya. All the options r false as anandi is good by nature who always put her need after others. she is never afraid of rejection or failure from others except marriage. Not in other aspects.

Originally posted by: Shinya

Bhach she has low self esteem. So pleasing people she feels better about herself. She feels if she doesnt, she will be rejected.

Its so bad she was not like this as a child. I stronglyl feel anandi should go to city for an year or two then return to village. I am not saying to stay forever in city. Few time there will completely uproot her deep seated insecured mentality

really doosron ko khush karna bhi apradh hai i dont know

Fruityjee

anandi yeh sub fear of rejection ki wajah se nahi karti infact koi agar use reject kur bhi dega to bhi woh uske baare mein accha hi sochegi .this is inbulit nature of anandi that she loves to take care of everyone whether anyone reject her or not .she pleases everyone so that peace is maintain in among family members.

because she has nothing else to do

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Fruityjee

Only few days ago people were complaining how uncaring she is towards her sasuralwale and now she addressed their insecurities and made them happy she is being asked why she wants to make people happy

When she was happy to go back to Jaitser because being in Jitser made her happy people complained

When she was unhappy because the Singhs are unhappy they complained for being too much involved with Singhs happiness

When she comes up with a plan to make both the families happy and succeeds in her plan then also she has a problem.

When will she ever be regarded as someone who simply likes to keep people around her happy just because she likes to have happy smiling faces of her loved ones around her?

As for your question about fear of rejection and fear of failure?

Just put your self in that little girl's place where she was told by her parents that her home is not her home any more she has to make a home for herself at a different place with people who are total strangers to her and she has to be a good girl to be liked by them.

And try to remember what all that little girl had to undergo to make herself loveable to her new family.All the rights that every child has have been taken away from her.All the things that are her by rights she had to earn them.

I think these things need to be kept in mind while trying to analyse and dissect her behaviour before you deem her to be a person with mental problems.

Well, you picked up some good points..the question is why she wants to please everyone..I agree with you that being a kid what she was told..but life has taught her so much that she has already faced diificulties in her life from from her ex husband and even from people like Het Singh ..but my dear frind...I clearly mentioned about her recent or her present..

@Fruity