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Posted: 12 years ago
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@TM: perfect post! Very true. I share your feelings.

If Sumi's acting was supposed to be what the director wanted then we all are going to be in for a shocker soon. With Sumi's expressions she said it all without uttering a single word against Anandi. See, how powerful the expressions can be?!! They convey a lot without saying a word!

Anyway, if the expressions of Sumi were brought in purposely in the story, this dramatization is going to bring AnSh probably even closer and Anandi would feel finally really liberated from the confines of the Singh's mentality and would see how the world around her is so different, beautiful and worth living. More than the mental torture, DS had managed to rob Anandi of her self-confidence but Anandi being a very strong willed woman, broke through the shackles as much as she could finally even winning over DS! But you all are right, she will never be the REAL beti of Singhs as Sighs are still secretly harboring the desire to have Anandi back as their Beendni. Seeing Shiv and Ananadi happy together is going to be a torture for the Sighs now! Because not only Jagya but DS, Sumi and others are still very much into Anandi. Bhairon is the only sensible one who would want Anandi to be genuinely happy with Shiv. Remember, Bhairon wasn't so sure of Shiv being the right life partner for Anandi in the very beginning when DS was relentlessly pursuing Shiv for Anandi. Not that Bhairon had any objections about Shiv or Anandi being re-married. He genuinely thought that Anandi needed time to come out of all the trauma that Jagya had caused her. So apart from Bhairon nobody would consider Anandi as REAL beti of the house. She will always be the Beendni or Ex-Beendni of the house and will be treated as such.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Gina - Fab post. Your post, if I may so, just reflects what I was feeling yesterday when watching the epi.

I thought I too was in 'bhram' yesterday when listening to Sumi. Is this the same Sumi that I saw from May??

Thanks to Khushi for her posts 😊 -- clarified a lot of points..

I do not know if this is a build up that Cvs are planning in later/future tracks-- Slowly replace the Mother figure in A's life with CM..The emotional dependence shifting from Sumi to CM..this will do a lot of good to A😊


Edited by umam - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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1. A marvellous post. 👏 Congo. 🤗

2. Agree with you fully.

3. ''Ek bahu kabhi beti nahi ban sakti'' is a universal truth/ fact. No matter how mahaan you are people just cant come out of ''my own blood'' moh. I believe Singhs would've never helped J if he has not berated them also. He left ALL of them. If he had just left A then the scenario must have been different. After whatever J did Singhs knew that they were on fault. If instead of pampering a 6 foot man they'd have taught him some moral lessons he'd have not been so spoiled. Plus it was first Bhairo's wish for A to have divorce & remarry & lead a good, well deserved life. DS was always against it ( Inspite of her marrying Sugna to Shyam ) But finally she changed after FIL of Sugna asked her same question in lieu of Asha. DS got a reality check & she agreed. After that everything happened was extra ordinary. Now apart from all this what was the reason of this mahaanta ? Simple. Singhs were sure that J wont ever come back to A. Maybe they even thought that he has married G legally so if they marry off A maybe J will come back with G. ( It must have taken time but they would've accepted A. Moreover A would have forced/ convinced them to accept JG.)

BUT what happened was unexpected for Singhs. J came back after getting jootas from all over. And what timing ! On the AnSh engagement day.

DS forced A ( after engagement ) to remarry J and she rejected the stupid offer firmly. What would've happened if Sumi has been there ? Watching her favourite J crying & 'demanding' apology ? And what when A would've denied her offer too ?

I dont think if Sumi has been the witness of J ranting & crying she still would've supported AnSh marriage. Now i thank God that she was abroad ( Thanks to Smita's hubby ) otherwise im sure CVs would've twisted the story.

Now on Sumi's making face. She is screwed up. Why ?

1. A married S whereas J is alone
2. A got a life partner like S whereas J lost not only A but G too.
3. A is happy whereas J is not.
4. A is now more successfull than J

Some hidden complaints -

1. Why J didnt came before AnSh marriage ?
2. Why we supported A re marriage ?
3. Why did A accepted the proposal ?
4. Why couldnt A was able to wait for J for some more time ?

Sumi's dialogue, ''Aisa lagta hai jo kuch bhi hua ek bhram tha'' was the most disgusting dialogue of the history of BV.

A's mental torture was a bhram ?
A's thousands of sleepless nights a bhram ?
J mercilessly berating A a bhram ?
A crying every night a bhram ?
A's dreams & desires crushed by your ladesar via a phone call a bhram ?
AJ divorce a bhram ?

How can they call those several years when A felt dejected, rejected & alone, vulnerable to other nonsense people's insulting remarks ( stupid villagers & Hetu ) a bhram ?

By saying this they insulted all that years of struggle of A. The poor girl is still having marks of whatever happened with her. She's still coping with it and here this mean woman is calling all that a damned bhram !!

Its shocking how can Sumi forget whatever A has done for them. She left her parents for Singhs. Even after her divorce she was serving all of them and now when she has got her son back she is not able to even listen that girl's name. How selfish & mean !!

Edited by piya_anshian - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Thanks Ginu - Nice post - very thought provoking one.
I know I too don't like to see Singhs go down in their blind love for their son.Sumi and Bhairon apart from Anandi are the reason I watch the show.They have been shown to be some who balanced their modern ideas with the more traditional mind set of DS.
They tried to bring up their children in the best possible way and tried inculcate values in them.

I know when they sent J away and chose to support A it is a combination of their sense what is wrong and what is right and there was an emotional need for them too because they have been kicked in th gust by their own son and they needed someone to soothe the wound.That's where Anandi came in.Here there was their son who did not need them nor did he value their love and A needed someone to love her too so they lavished all their love and care on her.

Now their prodigal son has returned so they are rejoicing rightly so.After all that's what parents' love is all about it will survive the wounds inflicted by their children and the rejection meted out to them by their children.

Anandi is now no longer in need of their support but their son but their battered son is and taking care of him probably gives them a sense of purpose in life So I do not find fault with there.

But in the wake of rejoicing the return of their prodigal son they should not neglect the child who was with them in the hour of their need.They should not make her feel unwanted and at te same time let the child know that they are paying attention to this child of theirs because at the moment he needs it.I hops Singhs will behave this manner.Because that's how they have been in the past.

As for parents love it should be an accepting kind of love who accept their kids despite their faults and shortcomings and it parental love should not be blind to their child's shortcomings.Sumi and BS have not been blind to J's shortcomings but they have not done much to help him realise his shortcomings and overcome those.They have only punished him for his shortcomings till now but it is high time they help overcome his shortcomings by not being blinded by love for him.

I hope they show Sumi and Bhairon returning to their well balanced behavior soon.

Edited by aparnauma - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Actually you know we were overexpecting from Singh's bcoz of their support in past we thought that they are the exception who support the right and raise objection against wrong.They dont see the realtionship they see the person and previously they showed that and DS .Sumi supported Anandi bcoz she was right .So we expected the Mahanta again again and again
but suddenly CVs opened the hard bitter thruth infront of our eyes and give us a jhatka showing the unecessary love showering on Jaggu.suddenly Singhs didnt remain Singhs ...they turned into a common nieghbour of us who always give first priority to their blood only.
So this is the very real approach of CVs to show them like that...but unfortunately we are not used to with this real face of Singh...*ALAS*
P:S thanx for this AWSOME post Ginu
Edited by tistaa - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
#26
chill guys all in laws r like tht jahan bete ki baat aati hai bahu bhaad mein jati hai 😆
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Thanks Mozart66, Piyu, River, Gow, Neha, etc for liking the post, and having a constructive discussion here...
Edited by VerboseG - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I dnt thnk so. Singhs have supported anandi during distress. Sumi and singhs also suggested her to forget jagya nd move on. Recently singhs suggested anandi not to involve shekhars to find jagya as it may hamper her married life. Many a times anandi showed temper (inc. Pag fera nd wen dadisa talked bout Anandis marriage to shiv) at that time singhs understood her like parents. In the same way singhs are also trying to keep anandi thoughts away from jagya so that he can move on similarly leaving all negativity.
Rather I personally feel ira is partial to her own children. She is listening to sanchi even though she knows that sachi is illogical.
A distance between jagya and anandi will help them to move on in same manner. Sumi is treating jag an equally by trying to keep a healthy distance btw them.
Edited by bips54321 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: bips54321

I dnt thnk so. Singhs have supported anandi during distress. Sumi and singhs also suggested her to forget jagya nd move on. Recently singhs suggested anandi not to involve shekhars to find jagya as it may hamper her married life. Many a times anandi showed temper (inc. Pag fera nd wen dadisa talked bout Anandis marriage to shiv) at that time singhs understood her like parents. In the same way singhs are also trying to keep anandi thoughts away from jagya so that he can move on similarly leaving all negativity.
Rather I personally feel ira is partial to her own children. She is listening to sanchi even though she knows that sachi is illogical.
A distance between jagya and anandi will help them to move on in same manner. Sumi is treating jag an equally by trying to keep a healthy distance btw them.


I hope your analysis is correct...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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At the onset, please note that this post is not meant to bash any character/actor/CV, etc. It is all about ME, what I feel, and what I hope for.

I would love it if this post doesn't turn into a verbal battlefield.

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I don't know if this is the right place for such a post, but I was deeply saddened by the behavior of the Singhs last night.

For me, the adage "blood is blood" (and all other relationships water) was proven last night.

A girl who was wronged by the dictates of society all those years ago seems to have been forgotten by the lady who claims to be her mother.

Said lady just needed to get her own son back into her fold to seemingly forget the girl she claims to be her daughter. I will never forget the face she pulled when her husband took Anandi's name.

The Singhs seem to be hoist by their own petard. Their blind faith and love in their son follows a vicious circle. I do hope they are not setting themselves up for yet another round of dejection.

However, how is that so different from real life? Everywhere you look are examples of the in-law really being the out-law. There is no pleasing any of the two parties. Each positive step taken is regarded as due right, and every negative step taken (even mistakenly) is considered a crime.

No matter how badly behaved our progeny are, in public we only praise them (regardless of how we treat them in private). And, when that progeny's spouse arrives, we see negativity only in the spouse.

This is the story of innumerable houses. It is a classic story of a mother hen with her chicks. She just gathers those chicks under her wings and then sits on them to keep them safe from the big bad world. The rest of the whole wide world out there can take a walk, and see if she cares.

So, why am I sad when I know this reality? We are only being shown what we see everyday.

But, the thing is that BV is different. The story is different. The characterization is different. And our hopes from BV are different.

The Singhs have always been made out to be a larger than life family.

When DS was bad, she was really, really bad. I, for one, hated her to the core for what she did to choti Anandi. But when redemption arrived, few loved her more than I did (though I do accept she is capable of flipping cartwheels at any given time).

Sumi was the sweet one, taking the place of Anandi's real mother, loving her, and nurturing her through her times of travail.

Bhairon was the ultimate, fantasy father - kind, loving, caring, not blind to the faults of his progeny, and capable of taking harsh stands.

Inspite of the face Sumi pulled yesterday, I am hoping (against hope) that the CVs do not denigrate her character and show her to be the proverbial mother-in-law.

Bhairon will pull through. I do not see him turning coat at all.

Ira, aah Ira, kaan ki kacchi though she is, I do not blame her for yesterday's anger in the precap. A newly wed couple does spend its first festivals in the boy's house. However, I am also praying that the CVs do not turn this track into one from a Kekta serial.

About Sanchi, I have nothing to say at all. She is a caricature.

So, all in all, as I look forward to doing another LU today, I wish that the CVs were just having an off day and we get to see what we long to see - a strong, sensitive story line, with easy-to-empathize-with characters, and a story that builds hope for the future in countless others.

PS: A strong dose of Ansh would, of course, be the icing on the cake. And, Jagya/Shriti Jha/Gauri fans, I wish that your (plausible) wishes all come true as well.

AMEN
[/QUOTE @ bold u answered to yr question... but i think we need to wait... don't jump to the conclusion😊 and 2ndly see the positive side...array when anandi will realise that as u said she is always come secondnext to jagia... to phir shiv ki ehmiyat ko achchi tarah samajh payeegi... and the main thing...when anandi needed them most they stood next to her and give her a husbend like shiv even she was not ready for marriage... is se jyada unse expect karna hi galat hai... coz as u said .she was their D-I-L...not daughter... and that is the hard-core reality😊

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