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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: mansimat

Hi Woman11


People are unable to understand the true meaning of your post and the attached article. I don't think a lot of them even opened up the article you posted. They read the various responses by members here & made their own connotations of 'jealousy' and other negative emotions. Very immature. The deeper meaning of social fabric and human psyche failed to make an impression. They are arguing as if you have invented this theory out of your own mind and you are forced to defend.

"Benot Monin, a psychologist at Stanford, has studied it in a number of fascinating experiments" This is how humans probably think. It's not like Woman11 has introduced some pop psychology here!

Please read the article members, this is not her theory! -

http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/ideas/brainiac/2011/08/why_moral_leade.html?camp=pm

I thank you for your valuable inputs. Very thought provoking, if someone is interested in a good psychology study. Its beyond the realm of just BV, though it does explain some of the underlying psychology of people who criticize Anandi for being 'Mahaan', it's actually about the existing human society and our thought process.



Dear Mansimat,

Speaking purely for myself, I think your reaction above is very immature.

I responded to Antara's interpretation of the article she quoted. In no way did I determine that Antara 'invented' this theory, but I do recognize that she promotes this theory after her own understanding of the article. There is no rule or order stating that the said article is the 'be all and end all' in explaining the attacks on 'mahaanta'. As many as there are who read the article, there will be that many interpretations. If an interpretation or differing viewpoint is not in alignment with your way of thinking, it does not make it necessarily wrong. Again, every interpretation is reliant on individual frames of references.

Please don't club all respondents as immature. I really appreciate your posts but do take umbrage to this.


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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: woman11

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The criticisms spring from our awareness and rejection of the notion of womanhood that patriarchy has dictated for ages together. But in the process of rejecting that model are we also not construction a counter-model that is equally constrictive? The model most of us believe in is the model in which the woman is outspoken, preferably financially independent, resolves her conflicts with a degree of aggressiveness and looks 'modern' in her dress and appearance. Keeping this in mind, are we really tolerant of the other forms of womanhood? Why is it that a woman who is a housewife by choice feels inferior and the needs to justify herself to her working female friends? Why are we outspoken against a woman who makes a choice to make sacrifices for her family? Why are we intolerant of a woman like Anandi who is non-confrontational and non-bellicose and makes peace with her adversity in her own way, again by choice?

Note I have highlighted the word choice. I am ruling out decisions women make out of pressure from society or patriarchal brainwashing. But if we encounter a woman who wants to act out of choice a different model of femininity than we endorse, why should we cry foul?

I dont have women who make decisions out of choices -- but those choices should be made out of some sort of strategy to garner respect in the eyes of viewers, and not choices made out of weakness.
I respect Gehna far more than anandi even though she is not 'modern' in her dress and appearance, and not 'financially independent'.
The issue is of whether one retains one's personal power or gives it away in a situation.
Do one's decisions of 'choice' make one's personal power grow or do one's decisions of 'choice' take something away from them, do they chip away at their personal sense of self?
The issue is not one of financial independence, because financial independence does not guarantee power structures within the home. It is not that the more money a woman makes, that she has power, and if she is a home maker then she has no power in the household. Those are matters of respect.
There are home makers who retain their personal power, and there are highly paid, professionally qualified women who lose their personal power on the home front.
It is my view (only my personal perception) that anandi does not really have any kind of strategy when she behaves the way she does. By strategy, I dont mean a devious personal agenda of manipulation to get what she wants. I just mean some sort of behaviour that ties into a desired outcome.
And in most, if not all interactions with people who abuse her, these people take away pieces of her sense of self and take it away irretrievably... and she still engages with them.
And THAT is why anandi inspires contempt in me on issues such as daliya making for gauri etc.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Hi Parri, I don't take offence to posts if people are having a frank discussion & without abuses/prejudices. So no umbrage taken, I don't understand why you want me to take umbrage. You say, I quote "do take umbrage to this." What do you mean?

I am urging everyone to read the actual article & understand its larger context. Answering with small, specific examples of Anandi's behavior, takes away it's meaning. Such studies on human subjects, needs a level of maturity and some amount of dispassion. One needs to distance oneself a little bit. The study asserts that a large of chunk of human minds behave this way. Its a study in the realm of psychology, I of course respect differing interpretations. But if scientific psychology studies are tested to differing opinions, then it would mean all studies be negated. All studies done as yet would become obsolete. It probably then takes no special skill to become a psychologist, everyone is one.

I am trifle irritated with terms like 'jealousy' etc coming in. Because that's, pardon me, wrong interpretation and nothing else. I believed their connotations of jealousy to be immature. Because the article states something very different, which some members failed to grasp. I didn't club the members immature, I don't make such sweeping statements about a whole group.

Yes, the study may not be the 'be and all' for explaining the criticism to 'mahanta' that I agree to. It may not explain the criticism in its entirety. It gives reasonable explanation for most parts, but I can't say completely.

Thanks
Mansi

Originally posted by: parri814


Dear Mansimat,

Speaking purely for myself, I think your reaction above is very immature.

I responded to Antara's interpretation of the article she quoted. In no way did I determine that Antara 'invented' this theory, but I do recognize that she promotes this theory after her own understanding of the article. There is no rule or order stating that the said article is the 'be all and end all' in explaining the attacks on 'mahaanta'. As many as there are who read the article, there will be that many interpretations. If an interpretation or differing viewpoint is not in alignment with your way of thinking, it does not make it necessarily wrong. Again, every interpretation is reliant on individual frames of references.

Please don't club all respondents as immature. I really appreciate your posts but do take umbrage to this.


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Posted: 12 years ago
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that's a very good observation
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: mansimat

Hi Parri, I don't take offence to posts if people are having a frank discussion & without abuses/prejudices. So no umbrage taken, I don't understand why you want me to take umbrage. You say, I quote "do take umbrage to this." What do you mean?


Parri is not inviting you to take umbrage.
she is saying that SHE takes umbrage to it.
"I do take umbrage to this"
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Okay, my apologies, then.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Parri is not inviting you to take umbrage.

she is saying that SHE takes umbrage to it.
"I do take umbrage to this"

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: mansimat

Hi Parri, I don't take offence to posts if people are having a frank discussion & without abuses/prejudices. So no umbrage taken, I don't understand why you want me to take umbrage. You say, I quote "do take umbrage to this." What do you mean?


I am urging everyone to read the actual article & understand its larger context. Answering with small, specific examples of Anandi's behavior, takes away it's meaning. Such studies on human subjects, needs a level of maturity and some amount of dispassion. One needs to distance oneself a little bit. The study asserts that a large of chunk of human minds behave this way. Its a study in the realm of psychology, I of course respect differing interpretations. But if psychology studies are tested to differing opinions, then it would mean all studies be negated. All studies done as yet would become obsolete. It probably then takes no special skill to become a psychologist, everyone is one.

I am trifle irritated with terms like 'jealousy' etc coming in. Because that's, pardon me, wrong interpretation and nothing else.

Yes, the study may not be the 'be and all' for explaining the criticism to 'mahanta' that I agree to. It may not explain the criticism in its entirety. It gives reasonable explanation for most parts, but I can't say completely.

Thanks
Mansi

I think the first problem is that the article itself is not making any claims about Anandi's character and Bv. So there are two kind of criticisms which are possible:
1) Of what the article suggests as a behavorial study - even that can be disputed by laymen on the basis of their own individual observations - it does not become an 'xpert opinion' ofcourse nor did anyone claim that, but psychology itself is based on individual feedbacks and obervations which guide even the study of 'experts' because it deals with various interpretations of human ehaviour and action. HOWEVER i do not think most critiques here were targetted at the article
2) The second round of criticisms can be aimed at TMs own application of this article in understanding the criticism of a fictional character in a specific serial. And this is where most criticisms lay . And that is why TM had to respond to them and defend her own interpretation and application of the article. So your very sweeping and patronising dismissal of all such criticisms becomes deeply problematic.
All differences here with the TMs interpretation have been because this application did not strike a chord with many people in the manner in which they relate to Anandi's character. Small incidents were brought in to substantiate those arguments from both sides because if we are doing any overall character analysis- all of them count , even more so in professional psychological studies based on the principles of inductive- deductive hypotheses. Besides one has to rememer Anadi's character is fictional and is constantly being reshaped and refigured by CVs in their efforts to cater to different audiences, their responses and their opinions . So a pshycological study based on real life humans is not this easily applicable to a fictional character who's construction over time represents different pushes and pulls coming from different quarters and individuals - those of the creative team and audience opinions. Accordingly different people approve of and reject or react to different aspects of her character and their reactions cannot be so easily 'straitjacketed' in one theory.
Besides in case of a fictional character, people have both empathy and distance so they do not easily think of anandi as the other of themselves. Everyone likes to see qualities which they consider 'ideal' in the heroine on one hand and wants to be able to relate with her on the other. So conflict arises on both grounds -
1)in a serial with a social message, people do not want the heroine to conform to what they consider against their 'ideals' even if it is 'ideal' in the sense as sanctioned by traditional mores. And here all little incidents which make up that character become important. If anandi is being projected as the 'ideal woman' to be aspired to , then all who find her falling short of their ideals have a right to protest legitimately that they not identify with this 'model of ideal womanhood' being put forward - and here it is for reasons diametrically opposite to what the article suggests. When people say the 'adrak chai , daliya, unswerving patience in face of abuse' makes them upset , it is because they find this ideal sometimes too close to the traditional ideal of the suffering but unendingly patient , virtous , accomplished and subservient woman portrayed as the ideal 'indian woman' in a deeply patriarchal society. And far from feeling inadequate internally for not being able to measure up to those standards , it makes them deeply angry because they have no desire to, infact they are against such standards of ideal womanhood. And they have a right to be so and hold their opinion here - because it matters what a serial based on a social tradition upholds as the ideal woman. Ofcourse there are many other aspcts to ANandi's character which have been put forward as deeply admirable - her professional achievements, her goodness, her desire to help everyone etc - but they exist with other kinds of contradictions which make it difficult for people to accept it wholesale...
2) This leads to a second set of criticisms - they are about 'mahaanta' but they critique it on different grounds. They feel Anandi's character is shown with such seamless flawlessness in an almost fairytale setting that it is too far removed from any reality of a 'rural village set up' ...and hence makes it possible for people to have a distance from it by simply thiking of it as a fairytale and hence easily distancing themselves from engaging with the social message in it too ...here mahaanta is not attacked but conveniently idolised and forgotten ...so the demand is to create a story which deals more realistically with the lives of real people - ordinary men and women , not necessarily all as good as anandi but who nonetheless are victims of such traditions , are able to fight them and can convey a message which hits far closer home.
Ofcourse all of us can agree or disagree with either but that does not betray a lack of understanding or ability ot come up to the level of the 'argument' or the 'article' to invite irritation and condenscation.. The discussion has been about not the merits of the article but to what extent does its analysis hold for reactions to anandi's character in BV - an entirely different ball game all together . And people have aright to different interpretations.
Edited by rehana11 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: rehana11

[And far from feeling inadequate internally for not being able to measure up to those standards , it makes them deeply angry because they have no desire to, infact they are against such standards of ideal womanhood. .

👏👏👏👏👏 👏Bravo!!! yes, thanks rehana11. This is precisely where I am coming from... anandi's mahnata does not make me feel inadequate internally ... I really have no desire to measure my adequacy or reach up to those standards because it is not my measuring stick to begin with. Your statement resonated with me beautifully.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: sectoreight

👏 👏Bravo!!! yes, thanks rehana11. This is precisely where I am coming from... anandi's mahnata does not make me feel inadequate internally ... I really have no desire to measure my adequacy or reach up to those standards because it is not my measuring stick to begin with. Your statement resonated with me beautifully.

Thanx 😊. I also just wanted to make one more point - why is there this demand to iconise anandi by fans where they cannot take any criticism of a fictional character being controlled by the whims of a CV team ?? Nobody needs to defend everything she does - she's also after all attempted to be portrayed a part of certain set up where she's also been brought up with traditional values- so tradition, aspects of orthodoxy, conformity but also goodness and self asserrtion and courage all sit together . There should be no demand on others to accept it all - anandi's character can have contradictions and people have a right to express their consternation over it ! they can criticise some aspects while endorsing others thereby contributing thru feedback to coming closer to an 'ideal' which all of us could identify with ...similarly all critique cannot be slotted merely as a deep pshycological response to the other's 'mahaanta' thereby delegitimising it all !
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Thank you Rehana. You posts resonated deeply with me as well.

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