Originally posted by: hooked
I debated if I shud say this here and though this is presuming at the most - but I have to say that if CM is representing the face of common opposition to remarriage of widows/divorcees, then their not being untouched is also a major issue though they may find other ways ie ('yaadein') to say so.
Its like women don't get clean once they bathe. They stay tainted with the touch of another man. CM has not said so yet - but this most certainly will come up and it is the underlying bone of discontent with CM and the ideas she stands for.
A bachelor deserves a maid. But a divorcee shud look for another divorcee or widower perhaps. This, as unpalatable as it sounds IS a major concern. We saw the same thing when Sugna got married. Then Shyam's entire extended family was against Sugna. Here its just CM. In fact, it was much more worse then. Shyam's family was rural and lived close by and Sugna was carrying another's man's baby.
But there - Shyam's will had prevailed. Here too, Shiv's will will prevail and eventually Anandi will win over everyone - well most - with her personality. No in-laws are a set of roses and there have to be some thorns to make it worthwhile. CM will be one. I can live with that.
ok i am going to mention wo examples to highlight the contrast between the situation of a divorsee woman marrying an unmarried man and a divorsee man marrying an unmarried woman.
not sure if im allowed to mention other celebs but i would take my cances.
i rememebr when anil kumble had married his childhood girlfriend who was by nwo divorsee with a small baby girl from her previous marriage. there were a lot of comments like how she was not good looking, how she had taken anil kumble for a ride. etc etc ... on deeper probing i coudl understand what was not said explicitly but the major cause of such comments was her physical state!
ok now come to amir marrying kiran, absolutely no objections on amir , if at all i have heard anyone saying anything bad it is for kiran. personally i dont like their situation, reena divorsed with two kdis etc but to blame kiran for taking amir for a ride. now that is sexiest!
but such prejudices keep prevailing and need to eb addressed.
im actually very sad by CMs words. such attitudes make it impossible for women to start over, and force them to get stuck with looser spouses for the rest of their lives, without any hope of being happy ever again.
in my opinion, society needs a major revamp as regards to its stand on virginity. that alone will make it possible for countless women to start over with the hope of having a better life, without having to hear such derogatory comments. and without being made to feel like a criminal.
Edited by anjana.d - 13 years ago
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