CM's Concern, Cruelty & Closed Mind - Page 7

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

@Khusi - I don't think its Bitter - it judgmental - She cannot get beyond her own experience to grasp Anandi or Anandi's situation. Its how dare this damaged girl phasofy my naive son...he is senseless in love and I must stop this nonsense with my immense sense.

I don't think she is jealous cuz she had choice and did the "honorable" thing...staying true to her husband's memory...not burdening another with them.

While i agree with the basic point anjana, i think that these things are not so sorted sometimes subconciously in heads of people portrayed like her - on one hand she held on to staying true to her husbands memories etc , but obviously since she has not grown in openmindedness and basic human genorisity and kindness - so people who remain narrow minded and to some extent even orthododx in thinking often have repressed emotions too .

So on one hand all the reasons you outline hold, the fact that her remaining true to her husband's memories has not also made her a more open hearted human being (who's love and sorrow have not moved her to a more deeper and humane understanding of relationships) also suggests that while she did what she thought was the 'right thing' , over the years there might have been other desires and needs in face of loneliness, which might have been constantly repressed and led to perversly a degree of self righteousness where she cant stomach the idea of a village girl and a divorcee moving on in life like this with her own ladla ...it could be a mix of self righteousness, repression , envy , obsessive love for shiv ( which becomes even more pronounced in single mothers sometimes)...

Unlike anandi - she's not shown with that core of basic unadultered goodness - which would have made annadi welcome these developments if roles were reversed . Afterall - its what we make of ourselves and our lives through our experiences - of love, loss, life ...that makes all that difference . CM 's behaviour betrays the complex emotions of an ordinary woman - with leanings on the conservative side...

I liked everything you wrote mona except CM being positive...I just think she is STUPID...

In media management, we are taught of a basic principle...ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY...ITS ABOUT HOW YOU SAY IT...

Originally posted by: hooked

Shiv has told her nicely to have faith in him and his choice, but she refused. Now she just has to be told firmly and she shud also understand that she risks alienating Shiv with this kind of nastiness.

In Jodha-Akbar, do u remember how Akbar's nurse claimed she was doing everything for his own good ? And do you remember what happened when Akbar found out about her schemes ? Hope the same happens to CM. Hope Shiv just blasts her out.

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

I liked everything you wrote mona except CM being positive...I just think she is STUPID...

When shiv is going to find out... she will realize what blunder she has done...for the FIRST TIME i did not even want to watch the episode of BV again... GRR hated her and her fake smile and fake concern

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I just wanted to add some more to what I have already said in my earlier post.

yes i liked what some oen said above " it is not what you say, it is how you say it that matters ".

@Fuzzface - I agree with you...as I have myself previously noted...S is J 2.0 (J 2.0 of the Jugya we loved not Jugat) and this new marriage is BV 2.0. So, mini-vamps/obstacles are needed and expected in this new rishta. Be it CM ya Sanchi. It can't all be roses. That said, CM and DS are similar but, different. DS was the family mukhia perpetuating old traditions, she herself was stuck in. Meeno is not the mukia here of Shekhar family...so, her beh is passive aggressive as well as regressive. She is stuck in her own history not just traditional beliefs despite the "progressive" sari...

CM to me seems a very stubborn n opinionated lady. she was coaxed so many times in her youth to marry again but she did not that shows how much ziddi she is. theother thing i feel that she is gender biased as shiv is a male she thinks he has every right to get a new unused nayi naveli bride with no baggage.