What are Anandi's Problems? Is she crazy? - Page 2

Originally posted by: smriti81

I was initially very disappointed with the fact that she still views it this way, but this is the typical reaction of a woman in an abusive relationship. Whether Shiv is a cameo or not will depend on how he is shown dealing with this raw, hurt, battered woman...not the perfect wife material. And her outburst on him was extremely necessary to get to that point where he starts understanding the real Anandi.

Don't get me wrong. I am not propagating divorce. Nor am I saying that compromise is a bad thing, I am not even saying women who compromise are spineless - All I am saying to what extent one should compromise? Yes, it is true that no two situations are alike. But remember no one is born "professional". Not everyone is born with silver spoons, but I believe everyone has ability to make something out of their lives. At least these shows are encouraging women to understand their self-worth. It is wrong to assume that by staying in a relationship by extreme compromising (for many reasons) is healthy for any individual (man or woman or kids). Esp. in cases like Anandi's where her husband left her for another woman, that too without sorting out with her in a dignified manner. Are we to expect Anandi to still compromise?

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Srijay - Yes. Shiv is not the solution. The key to Anandi's healing is ultimately within herself and time. But, if Shiv wants to be part of that process and part of her life as a husband then he needs to understand her pain and soothe her fears. Genuine love is not magic, but it along with respect, care, trust, and loyalty may help Anandi heal faster and see herself in a more positive light.

I used to wonder why women put up with such crap when I first started working with abused women... the reasons vary - low self esteem, financial dependence, children, societal stigma, societal expectations/norms, etc. What I learnt by the end is that whatever the reason maybe, walking away is not simple or easy for many women whatever their social status, ethnicity, or education level. Domestic abuse is insidious and the strongest of women can fall prey to it. And the way out is always difficult.

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Srijay - Yes. Shiv is not the solution. The key to Anandi's healing is ultimately within herself and time. But, if Shiv wants to be part of that process and part of her life as a husband then he needs to understand her pain and soothe her fears. Genuine love is not magic, but it along with respect, care, trust, and loyalty may help Anandi heal faster and see herself in a more positive light.

I used to wonder why women put up with such crap when I first started working with abused women... the reasons vary - low self esteem, financial dependence, children, societal stigma, societal expectations/norms, etc. What I learnt by the end is that whatever the reason maybe, walking away is not simple or easy for many women whatever their social status, ethnicity, or education level. Domestic abuse is insidious and the strongest of women can fall prey to it. And the way out is always difficult.

Originally posted by: srijay

Don't get me wrong. I am not propagating divorce. Nor am I saying that compromise is a bad thing, I am not even saying women who compromise are spineless - All I am saying to what extent one should compromise? Yes, it is true that no two situations are alike. But remember no one is born "professional". Not everyone is born with silver spoons, but I believe everyone has ability to make something out of their lives. At least these shows are encouraging women to understand their self-worth. It is wrong to assume that by staying in a relationship by extreme compromising (for many reasons) is healthy for any individual (man or woman or kids). Esp. in cases like Anandi's where her husband left her for another woman, that too without sorting out with her in a dignified manner. Are we to expect Anandi to still compromise?

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Shiv appears to have every quality a woman would want in a husband - tall, goodlooking, buff! Okay looks may fade with time and halwa, but he's intelligent, ethical, hardworking, established in his career, he helps people, and he comes from a good family. Anandi MUST be PAGAL to REJECT HIM!

Originally posted by: tinoo

I dont think even one person on the forum has said that anandi must be pagal to reject him - given his good looks, his intelligence and the other blah blah blah...

what I (and others) personally question is whether she is pagal to go and scream at him when he did nothing at all to hurt her ... if she doesnt want to marry him, fine. Nobody has said she should... we are not compelling her to marry shiv ... but to yell at him for something dadisa said is not in good taste, it is not dignified and it is not right. In addition, giving him a long lecture on ashi et. al is also none of her business ... ashi had already made it clear that her interest in shiv is one-sided ... and therefore, anandi cannot yell at shiv for not having feelings for ashi at all... that is none of her business.

and as for all that immense pain, and raw hurt etc etc. that too is all blah blah blah because she is still talking yesterday about how much she loves jagya.

I agree with ranidutta -- anandi is only comfortable being abused and battered and she is a 100% fit for jagya -- she loves to wallow in his abusive behaviour, so much so that when a normal man comes into her life and treats her with respect on all occassions and never so much has crossed even a single boundary with her, then she simply cannot take it...

Originally posted by: anjana.d

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i feel and i may be wrong , that she is VENTING. that is also a sign of closeness to me. have we never yelled at our moms or our hubs and later cried bitterly all becuase we knew they r our closest and witht hem we can be ourselves and cry our hearts out?

i think she regards him so close that she can even scream on him. its just my POV 😳

Originally posted by: bluerobin

[/. If she doesn't wan't to marry shiv - just say to shiv and Singhs I cannot forget my first love jagya , its true I am getting divorced from him but nobody can take jaggu's place. Don't wait for me, you marry some one else. all the best . Chapter closed.