What are Anandi's Problems? Is she crazy?

Shiv appears to have every quality a woman would want in a husband - tall, goodlooking, buff! Okay looks may fade with time and halwa, but he's intelligent, ethical, hardworking, established in his career, he helps people, and he comes from a good family. Anandi MUST be PAGAL to REJECT HIM!

👏 Very nicely put! :) :)

I agree with you 100%. I feel as if Anandi deserves Jagya. I am sure she will appreciate him treating her like unworthy woman who cannot do anything in life. I am sure she will enjoy him having no value of her. The fact is Anandi needs to get over her insecurities and marry Shiv. She clearly doesn't deserve to be with Jagya. That soul is out of his mind, and has everyone to blame but himself.

No wonder women get treated like crap in our society. The men do so many atrocities to her, and yet we try to understand a MAN's perspective but never a woman's side of the story.

Originally posted by: ranidutta

I agree with you 100%. I feel as if Anandi deserves Jagya. I am sure she will appreciate him treating her like unworthy woman who cannot do anything in life. I am sure she will enjoy him having no value of her. The fact is Anandi needs to get over her insecurities and marry Shiv. She clearly doesn't deserve to be with Jagya. That soul is out of his mind, and has everyone to blame but himself.

Very nicely put Anjana! The solution to Anandi's problems/ haal-e-dil is not marrying Shiv. Actually, Anandi does not HAVE TO marry Shiv at all to feel whole again. This, I am telling from my personal experience. Women/we have to first get out of our fears, and retrospect as to are we really so worthless, is one person or a group of people (external to us) going to decide what our worth is? My take on this is no one - man or woman - should put up with BS in the first place, should not allow any person to make a doormat of us, in the name of love. If a person cannot understand how to treat someone with dignity and respect, that person DOES NOT deserve love or even a customary glance, let alone brooding over the so-called loss! A person's strength should come from inside, understanding one's self-worth.

It is great that Anandi found her happiness and self-worth in her family, her school, work, social service. But, it is very clear from her outburst that her wounds have not healed completely. Shiv or no Shiv, Anandi deserves a better life (at least a better mental health)

As to whether Shiv deserves this rejection or not, is an entirely different topic. Unfortunately, some times people fall prey to circumstances for which they are not responsible in any way.

very nicely written anjana.👏👏

Originally posted by: srijay

Very nicely put Anjana! The solution to Anandi's problems/ haal-e-dil is not marrying Shiv. Actually, Anandi does not HAVE TO marry Shiv at all to feel whole again. This, I am telling from my personal experience. Women/we have to first get out of our fears, and retrospect as to are we really so worthless, is one person or a group of people (external to us) going to decide what our worth is? My take on this is no one - man or woman - should put up with BS in the first place, should not allow any person to make a doormat of us, in the name of love. If a person cannot understand how to treat someone with dignity and respect, that person DOES NOT deserve love or even a customary glance, let alone brooding over the so-called loss! A person's strength should come from inside, understanding one's self-worth.

It is great that Anandi found her happiness and self-worth in her family, her school, work, social service. But, it is very clear from her outburst that her wounds have not healed completely. Shiv or no Shiv, Anandi deserves a better life (at least a better mental health)

As to whether Shiv deserves this rejection or not, is an entirely different topic. Unfortunately, some times people fall prey to circumstances for which they are not responsible in any way.

Anandi's perspective very well brought out! A lot of people are spewing vitriol on A but hats off to the cvs for delving so deep into the psyche of an emotionally battered woman. They are not giving Anandi's emotional upheaval a cosmetic treatment & making her move on in a hurry to satisfy the TRPs. Agree with srijay that this is her personal battle with herself & the ghosts of her traumatic past. Till she truely let's go of Jagiya's memories & sees him for who he really is...a selfish, good for nothing, pompous loser she wrongly idolized in her inner sanctum sanctorum she will not move on. And her dialogues with Aashi show that she still blames herself somewhere for wHat happened (puja main kami etc.). I was initially very disappointed with the fact that she still views it this way, but this is the typical reaction of a woman in an abusive relationship. Whether Shiv is a cameo or not will depend on how he is shown dealing with this raw, hurt, battered woman...not the perfect wife material. And her outburst on him was extremely necessary to get to that point where he starts understanding the real Anandi.

Srijay - Yes. Shiv is not the solution. The key to Anandi's healing is ultimately within herself and time. But, if Shiv wants to be part of that process and part of her life as a husband then he needs to understand her pain and soothe her fears. Genuine love is not magic, but it along with respect, care, trust, and loyalty may help Anandi heal faster and see herself in a more positive light.