having a moral compass - why does it matter? - Page 4

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Where Daadisa is wrong/immature - is her nixing the rishta Shiv's mom placed before the daughter of the woman at the temple. There she maligned Shiv and undermined his family's choice for him.

Originally posted by: DiviNitya

Tinoo.. & Ur evolving as person made u more clear of ur own boundaries stronger !!

Originally posted by: Shaista33

Now to the moral compass... nothing wrong with being the way you are... life teaches us much along the way and sometimes its best to be a bit mechanical to deal with certain issues. People like us make better problem solvers as we can stay objective :-)

Originally posted by: princessyashika

No I am not against any of these practices.I am against the fact that ppl use this modernity as an excuse to spoil someone's life.And actually this is what jagiya and gauri do.For gauri its a feather in her cap that she impressed jagiya more than anandi.But that doesnt forgive the mistakes in any way.

So we need our value system only to differentiate these blink lines.There is always a small difference between such emotional povs and dilemmas.and its our value system only which helps us to see beneath these wraps.

Originally posted by: apjk

What I am trying to say is you can disassociate your self from the person's acts without actually losing a friend.

Originally posted by: avantikasharma1

Hi Tinoo,

this was a debate in Ashi arrives at the haveli. Me vs Akvats and tinoo 😆

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/balika-vadhu/3017112/ashi-arrives-at-jaitsar-haveli

I had given examples of the movies to explain the difference between dating and marriage and that they are not on an equal footing. I thought its alright if Shiv falls out of love of Ashi and goes for Anandi (without any manipulation of DS or anyone) because its dating. In dating both the parties know that it will or not lead to a serious commimtment of marriage 😆

You had replied to me on page 9, your quotation

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But I think, unless something really big event came about which brought home clearly to the other party that there was a real big difference of values between the two of them, it is wrong for them to ditch each other purely on the grounds of "falling out of love" and finding a new person to "fall in love".

What I took it to imply is that Shiv shouldn't break off with Ashi just because he developed feelings for Anandi. It is wrong. ( For me it is painful and to some extent wrong, but dating is dating and as I said earlier love is a risk). but in this post you implied there was nothing wrong with Jagiya falling out of love with Anandi and marrying gauri. What was not right were they going to Jaitsar"?

P.S: I am only looking forward to a healthy debate not fight. And this is only to take discussion ahead 😊, not finger point .

Originally posted by: tinoo

see this is where i differ with you 🤣 -- i think it was perfectly okay for dadisa to do what she did, given that there was no relationship existing between the girl and shiv (emotional relationship... )

also, i think that the mother of the girl was very stupid to raise a topic like that with some unknown maajisa who also might have a daughter or granddaughter of marriageable age who might be interested in hitching up her own chori with shiv ... it is quite well known that in arranged marriage circles, that one should not discuss these matters publicly 🤣 because someone else might deliberately sidetrack them for their own selfish interests...

even in job searches, for example, or when i am applying for a promotion or something, i dont discuss it with anyone simply because you dont know who else is interested in the job or promotion and may mislead you...

The lady should have come to jayetsar very discreetly, or else entrusted the task of finding out about shiv to someone very trusted in her own family ... who the heck goes and asks random maajisa's that one meets at temples .

Originally posted by: tinoo

actually anjana -- I dont condemn it from an ethical point of view... but I condemn it from a spiritual point of view -- I think that what is meant to be will be, and if it is not naturally ordained, then it will not prosper... so in dadisa's place ... I would not have misled the woman simply thinking that if anandi is meant to be, then she will be shiv's wife...I dont have to mislead someone to make anandi shiv's wife. Since dadisa believes strongly in devi maa, I think that if it is of God, then it will prosper, and if it is not of God, it wont prosper.

I dont like manipulation simply because I feel it creates mismatches out of lack filled thinking/desperation... and I only want relationships based on abundance based thinking...

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