What is wrong with gauri's POV? - Page 7

There is nothing wrong with G's POV. All that she said yesterday or today is right but her way of putting it to him is not right. If they want to live in a peaceful relationship which is amicable she needs to tone down a little. I am not saying this because she is a girl and he is a guy. I would say this same thing if G was in J's place instead. Having to sit at home doing nothing after being so educated is not an easy thing. Its a massive shot to ones self esteem and even a casual remark or statement can be taken as a finger pointed out to ones unemployment. In such a situation G needs to understand J state of mind and support him. All that she told him and wants him to understand needs to be put forth in a very diplomatic and tactical manner. At times its best not to call a spade a spade but call it not a soft object that is harmful. G knows the tricks of the trade and how to get work out of J with her sweet twist of words and emotions. Not like J is a saint and is not at fault at all. his state of mind is only magnified with his laziness, cowardliness and habit of getting things easily. He was always like this not like he was any different before. Either G failed to see it or she ignored seeing it in her obsession of making him her own. He always wanted the best easily and G's constant coaxing him of dreaming big is only adding to him not wanting to settle for anything less than the best. She did tell him to dream big when she wanted to build the big hospital with his share in the property but today that has backfired. I will again say that J is more at fault for his present state no doubt about it but I have talked more about G here since the topic was about her viewpoint...

Originally posted by: andv

There is nothing wrong with G's POV. All that she said yesterday or today is right but her way of putting it to him is not right. If they want to live in a peaceful relationship which is amicable she needs to tone down a little. I am not saying this because she is a girl and he is a guy. I would say this same thing if G was in J's place instead. Having to sit at home doing nothing after being so educated is not an easy thing. Its a massive shot to ones self esteem and even a casual remark or statement can be taken as a finger pointed out to ones unemployment. In such a situation G needs to understand J state of mind and support him. All that she told him and wants him to understand needs to be put forth in a very diplomatic and tactical manner. At times its best not to call a spade a spade but call it not a soft object that is harmful. G knows the tricks of the trade and how to get work out of J with her sweet twist of words and emotions. Not like J is a saint and is not at fault at all. his state of mind is only magnified with his laziness, cowardliness and habit of getting things easily. He was always like this not like he was any different before. Either G failed to see it or she ignored seeing it in her obsession of making him her own. He always wanted the best easily and G's constant coaxing him of dreaming big is only adding to him not wanting to settle for anything less than the best. She did tell him to dream big when she wanted to build the big hospital with his share in the property but today that has backfired. I will again say that J is more at fault for his present state no doubt about it but I have talked more about G here since the topic was about her viewpoint...

@Ankit: Yes Ankit I have criticized J umpteen number of times and I am enjoying what is happening to him only because it is J. But remove him from the situation and any other person in his place needs alot of empathy and constant coaxing and encouragement to build back one's self esteem. Yes he is rude and lazy and irrational in behavior towards G. But this is not all due to his mcp attitude but also due to his mental state of mind. When in marriage having an mcp attitude or a feminist attitude is not going to make matters smooth for the couple and ther marriage will always be on thin ice. Here although I cant' stand the sight of J but he did help around in the house while studying. he took good care of G while she suffered from the miscarriage. But today when he needs G where is she? No doubt she is ready to provide for his financial needs but what about emotional support? Not every need is materialistic. he needs moral support that which he has lost from his family to be with G. She sees a change in his behavior but has she had the time to stop and think why he is behaving like this?All she sees is her success and his joblessness which forces her to tell him that the reason for his bad behavior is his jealousy of her success. No doubt what she is saying is right but there is a way of saying everything. I don't remember anytime when I was unhappy or jealous of my husband's success of him being of mine. But this unique couple have a motive behind everything they do and that motive is something for their self satisfaction. The day that these two stop thinking about "me" and think of us they will not only understand each other but will also actually start loving each other in the true sense, "matured love" not "puppy love"

Sonali, Wow you did go through a lot and I am glad that you have found your prince :) : )

for all those who say that gauri is not "sensitive" to jagya's feelings at the moment,

and for those who say that gauri keeps harping on the fact that she is MS and Jagat is an MBBS, you must remember that it is jagat who keeps complaining that he doesnt have a job as good as hers... so in response to that statement she tells him why that is. It is a fact.

@ankit - @ andv - i totally agre with you both...pig head and madam atmasamnee self made has always thought about their presonal benefit...nothing else..but the thing was all thsi was hided behind punching anandi and puting all blame on her and goin further...now this is true life with anandi no more in picture..now its real exam of life..and they both are falling quit nicely in the exam of life 😆 they both thought life is too simple...falling in love and being wiht your love is nothing such a big deal or like crossing himalaya via traking...what takes effort is to maintain the relaitonship futher..putting effort in to it..trying to make it less trouble and more smooth with whateva way posible and more over this is realtion where both parties ahs to put aside ego and work on it..if one is not then another has to stay calm and put aside ego and work...but here both has their own ego and they work and do things which satisfy their ego...and more over which can upten their beterment of life not their beterment or life beterment but for their themself betermnt...lolzzz all this situation could have been handeled in diferent way too..in more matured way...but lolzzz...pig head will be always pighead and atmasamne self made will be nothing but all drowned into that only..she cant see anything further then that...lolzzz...life is not like a klick or chutkee..it takes lots lots to build a life...lolzz and in short time they will relaise they both has done bigest mistake of life being together and they wont stay back saying this to each other what a big mistake other has been to have her\him in life...lolzzz..now both are punch bag and both are punching feast...lolzz..point is who wins the battel...lolzzz...start counting...😆

harping about each others failures and success won't make a marriage work. Gawari should learn some patience, she is a doctor and all the time i see 0% patience from her and her cheekna chillana will make things worse. She wants to work her marriage and be successful in career as well then she should work towards it.

Gawari is not wrong in her POV? she denies that Jagat is a pig and then go on saying how bhola bhala he is. When she herself denies to look into his mistakes then why cry over some??? He will never change so is she. successful marriages work with lots of patience, understanding, communication and compromises. these two have none of these qualities so their is no wonder this to be happening.