In the name of love - Page 5

I understand...I just dont agree with few things.

I am again don't think western society is full of kids unattended to and who are not taken care of. What I have seen the biggest 2 reasons of are--
1) poverty
2) bad upbringing/unhappy family atmosphere

Also, how can society decide for an individual--what fights are "significant", and which are not. Society doesn't have to deal day in and day out with the couple. Its the man and woman have to deal with each other. Each person is different and his expectations are different. If people are not happy while living with each other----how will they raise happy children and happy families?

How can we as a society impose happiness on anyone?...We can impose marriages on each other? but we can't impse them to be happy with each other?

Also whats wrong about the people in the west...who have married 3/4 times--or have not married at all, yet had partners?...How come we have concluded for them--that like animals, these people have contributed nothing positive to society??...And what makes us think, these people are unable to take care of their old age?...or their children will not be smart, happy and successful people...the President of United States-Barck Obama, did not have any connection with his father..and his mother divorced twice...but since Obama was raised well, in a happy atmosphere---he was capable of going to Harvard, successfully marrying...and generating a happy family.

I personally don't feel that single parents can't bring up their children well...if they have the financial resources to, and are emotionally healthy. I think its more important for the society to ensure that people are happy--married or not.

I think sreevask's pov was something else.. not what you are stating Hima dear.

Originally posted by: hima_123

I understand...I just dont agree with few things.

I am again don't think western society is full of kids unattended to and who are not taken care of. What I have seen the biggest 2 reasons of are--
1) poverty
2) bad upbringing/unhappy family atmosphere

Also, how can society decide for an individual--what fights are "significant", and which are not. Society doesn't have to deal day in and day out with the couple. Its the man and woman have to deal with each other. Each person is different and his expectations are different. If people are not happy while living with each other----how will they raise happy children and happy families?

How can we as a society impose happiness on anyone?...We can impose marriages on each other? but we can't impse them to be happy with each other?

Also whats wrong about the people in the west...who have married 3/4 times--or have not married at all, yet had partners?...How come we have concluded for them--that like animals, these people have contributed nothing positive to society??...And what makes us think, these people are unable to take care of their old age?...or their children will not be smart, happy and successful people...the President of United States-Barck Obama, did not have any connection with his father..and his mother divorced twice...but since Obama was raised well, in a happy atmosphere---he was capable of going to Harvard, successfully marrying...and generating a happy family.

I personally don't feel that single parents can't bring up their children well...if they have the financial resources to, and are emotionally healthy. I think its more important for the society to ensure that people are happy--married or not.

suchi...I agree...with it-that if one gets married...they owe some responsibility to the other partner...and a lot of responsibilty--in terms of honesty, commitment, investment of efforts and emotions.

But if someone doesn't feel that commitment---as a society we should make the process smoother for people to come out of such marriages...instead of asking that person to commit without his will--and we can't control people's will.

If marry someone--marry with commitment...or just understand that the marriage was never meant to be. Society needs to help people come out of wrong marriages...instead of emphasizing on strengthening all marriages, whether they are good or bad.

And I am sure there are people who don't want to get married---men and women...let them live with each other with or without commitments...they can find their own partners who share the same views...and probably they can be happy on their own chosen path...they needn't get into marriages at all...However, if such people decide to have children--then society needs to take a commitment from them to raise the kids in a way that kids are not deprived of happiness, finances and protection----for that the society can have some rules...like parents financial responsibility, ensuring quality education...and both parents spending at least some quality time with their kids...while one of the responsible parents takes the responsibility of child raising. there can be child raising rules without imposing men and women to sleep and live with each other without their will..

That was just what I felt...and just my POV...sorry if I appeared disagreeable to anything.😳 ...or misinterpreted anything...😊

i understand hima. I see you pov its the common and norm here in US u know : ) but yeah I feel its best to get into a relationship , physcial specially only after marriage!

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

i understand hima. I see you pov its the common and norm here in US u know : ) but yeah I feel its best to get into a relationship , physcial specially only after marriage!

yeah I can understand Suchi..😳...actually I was born and raised with this belief too...

My idea to post all this here is just to spread an idea to make people tolerant towards different kinds of beliefs and cultures ...😊...differences are ok..and good...

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

I think sreevask's pov was something else.. not what you are stating Hima dear.

I think he/she ( sorry don't know) is talking about a person's obligation towards marriage and how he/she should be after marriage and not actually talking about unmarried people.

Perhaps there is a slight hint about, its better to get married and get settled with the rolling stone comparison. Though to a person who is loving and kind, mature. Also if one is in a marriage that has problems then they should work on it first. Abandonment should not be an option.

And the animal comparison was for those people who cheat and change partners at the slightest whim of desire-change.

This is what I understood from Sreevask's statements

Originally posted by: hima_123

yeah I can understand Suchi..😳...actually I was born and raised with this belief too...

My idea to post all this here is just to spread an idea to make people tolerant towards different kinds of beliefs and cultures ...😊...differences are ok..and good...

In spite of this,Society or law will never compel any one to get bonded for ever in spite of differences!!

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

Differences are something thats bound to happen and do exist. And to live with difference in peaceful manner and at the same time encouraging whats morally right is important.

and what I personally believe I like it for the people I care as well but at the same time I do not go ahead and curse or disrepect others cause of their personal choices u know. I guess the trick is in maintaining the balance