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Originally posted by: Lavi_961

Awesomeee update di!! Thank u❤️

Originally posted by: Sonakshi-grp

MINDBLOWING UPDATE...LOVED IT..

Originally posted by: Oneandall

Neel to be honest, I just can't stomach the slap part and don't feel any justification for that was appropriate.

The update was nice otherwise... very emotional...

What Ram did, with a secret compartment reminded me of a mystery movie, where the precious gems are hidden behind an unknown wall.

Originally posted by: Oneandall

BTW Merry Christmas 😃

Originally posted by: Alya1991

Woowww...nice update...ram priya ke beech sab thik ho gya...please jaldi se nxt part update karo na...thanks for pm dear!!!!

Originally posted by: TVserialfreak

Awesome...rocking updates...thanks for bringing the past episodes scenes...really loved it..hats off to your writing skills...keep rocking... ⭐️ 👏 sorry for late commenting as my net was not working for the past one week 😭

Originally posted by: taashu11

i agree what you feel about the slap you are not wrong... but at the same time situations are out of control they both were out of their mind at that very movent witn their pain anger guilt and things naturally happens and are not done purposely...it was not DV it was just happened unknowingly out of mind am posting comment below hope you get that point...


it was indeed a dhamakedaar update...
it was a bit dhamaka like 5th march...
but a step ahead ram slapped priya poor
priya...
but am not atall angry on ram for slapping
priya because it showed his pain and
love...
(pain of those years he lived without priya
and love for her that made him insecure
how he could survive if he loose priya
once again its his ultimate and
unconditional love that made him do such
thing... he cant even imagine loosing
her again... so am on rams side)
and more over i know that he will pacify
priya and he will go to any extend to
rectify his mistake and manofy priya...


hope you get my point...

Originally posted by: Oneandall

Taashu I understand what you are saying. Your point is that slapping your spouse is wrong but in some situations such as heated arguments in which anger, pain and guilt surface a slap happens. In that case it's natural. Maybe we come from different walks of life, different experiences but for me there is nothing natural about someone slapping their spouse because he/she provoked them with their words. NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION MAY BE. See where you and I differ with regards to slapping (let's forget about DV that's a by product of a slap but much more complex than that) is that you say that a slap is wrong but there are conditions in which it is right but I say that slapping your spouse is wrong no matter what the condition is. That's my general opinion about abuse within a relationship, be it one slap or one million, I still maintain my stance.

Im seeing myself here when i enterd into this institution , gradually changed my version towards slap ,because it hits the smile lamp in so many homes , so i will go with my theme only here means i was not saying it right but the condition is correct .. Hats off to you for this dedication ,Stay in your stance [loved your dedicatin for this🤗]but if you get a chance while this battle witness the opprtunity of true love ..


But to be specific and talk about it in terms of the update in which the slap happened. Well first of all it's just a story and I don't want to knit pick someone's creative work to bits and pieces. Ram in real BALH would not do that,

May be Cvs can bring this track .. But as i know those are 2 powerful actors they cant dare it !!1

especially given the fact that Raya had many heated arguments which diffused without the need for a slap (they bitterly hated each other but ram never hit Priya and Priya never hit ram).

But that time noone is in love with the other person and she is not run away from his life whole 5 years .!!!

But still, you said in the update u are on Ram's side. lol by all means your opinions are respected. However, I am on Priya's side...let me explain why. First Priya did whatever she did (run away from Ram) for his well being. Did ram ask her why? NO!

Why he should ask her ? [Just think as by his side ]His heart is burning inside that his love of life left him ,after knowing the truth that inhis life he betaryed by every family member .. Whatevr the circumstances also ,she has to tell to him ...Obviously he thought that somether.

Ram taunted her into depression, she still wanted the best for him (waiting up for him at dinner). Did he see her love shining through than? NO!

Yes he has seen her love ,he do knows that she loves him ..But that bitter 5 years reminding him to be anger on her ,yes he do taunted her ..
He missed her first steps ,first words ,first in everything ..

Even though she managed in photos but that doesnt mean of real presemnce ,Isn't it ..
when we love someone deeply that pain reincarcinated ..

She asked him to forgive her, punish her in any way but take away the hatred. Did his mahaan love show up than to give her a chance to explain?Did she ask to be abused? NO and NO! The time the slap happened Ram found her anklet and asked her why she left him. Did he instigate the fight by not letting her explain and by continuing to repeat the same nonsense? YES!

His mahhan love not ready to forgive her ,which he hardly acceping her to him again ..
why she left him if she loves him so much ..The reason she is giving is killing him inside out ??
He has every right to do ,Because she has taken a drastic step that invade two of their lifes badly ...So she has to be answered there is no place for her explanations ,Be cause it was not satifiable answers..


She said how she felt and was just as angry. Ram practically ignored her, lived for peehu, she might as well be dead physically because mentally he had killed her. Was she angry too? YES! WAS HER LOVE TESTED, INSULTED TORN APART ALL AT ONCE? WAS HER ANGER JUSTIFIED? YES!

Mentally she killed him first . almost he cross over the death bed when he met her first time !!
isn't it ..
Yes she is angry , yes he tested his love because he loves her more than anything ..
Yes he insuled her love because he shattered into pieces when he came to know she was alive ..
if she loves him , why why whythe hel she left him ..Ofcourse her anger is justified towards him !!!

Did the truth cause ram pain? Does that give him the right to cause pain to the person who was telling him the truth? NOT IN MY BOOK!

But her anger she sould show towards him , not his love of life that means she ..
He warned her means she knows that he loves her so much ,...'


Could Ram have dragged her forcefully to the hidden room where he kept her memories which she had no memory of? OF COURSE!
So from Priya side I saw love and anger. From Ram's side I saw anger, ego, hatred and yea a tiny bit of love. He has immense love for Priya but his actions spoke otherwise so how was she to know? Without that information whatever she said was right. To convey that information to her, well there were many other methods...
But i knoe priya lovbes him so much ,But i saw Ram side only full of love and anger too ..
Well there were many other methods too ..But at the heating moment as other asked he cant kiss her to shut her up ,He raised her voiceto shut up but she keeps on repeating that wordds,.that ignited him to cross his adrenaline levels high , In an unknown world his hand hits her as she is vulnerbale that time that force has hit her head to the bed ..
That was happend..

My god this is so long again. But khair, my heart became lighter. 😆

In response TO THE WRITER's last post... (not quoting because this post will become too long.. refer back to it if you wish to follow)
"Yes , one slap can trigger to other ,But If it is with love it will stop by there itself.."In my perspective, to say that is demeaning to those women who have been abused by their congenial partners who they thought loved them at one point and whom they loved immensely in return. You can't say that with certainty because there is no proof in that statement but there is ample proof against it. IN A PERFECT WORLD where love is exactly how it is in fairy tales, one slap if it is done with love, like you are legitimizing, abuse will stop right there and than!! Living in the REAL WORLD we can't categorize abuse as acceptable and unacceptable given the circumstances in which it happens. Abuse is like cancer, the earlier you catch it the better your chances of remission (so if you catch abuse at one slap you can treat it better but it is never cured, it will always be a part of your memory and life when you think back on your relationship). The later in the development of cancer that you are diagnosed with it, the greater the likelihood that it has spread to many areas of your body. (Like continued abuse consumes every aspect of a woman/man's/children's life if help is not sought out)… But even in remission there is always that fear at the back of your mind that once again, unexpectedly, that cancer can re-surface. (If I hit my spouse once because I Love him… What guarantee in our short or long life together that another situation in which I feel the need to strike him using my love as an excuse, would not arise?)

It's funny because you said that when you first started working with abused women you thought like I am thinking just now, which is that there is no reason to hit. BUT how you are thinking now was how I thought before at a very young age of my professional development and by no means am I implying that I am fully proficient in the care that I provide nor am i questioning your credibility as a HCP. In fact, before I used to think like you are thinking right now, which is that sometimes a slap is okay if the person provoked it. If I read your update eight or more years ago we would not be having this argument today. But through my experiences working with women in severe cases of domestic abuse, through my contribution from a tender age in certified volunteer groups against spousal abuse and abuse in general, it always starts with one slap and in most cases they stay with their spouse because somewhere deep down inside of them they believe what society and culture feeds them about abuse, which is that it is anger covered love. But poor souls keep waiting for that love to re-surface and eventually they are in too deep too get out...safely at least... At that point they stay with their spouse for the children or they stay with their spouse fearing what society will think of them… BECAUSE SOCIETY is QUICK TO POINT THE FINGER AT THE WOMEN with the immature mentality, "what did she do to deserve it? She must have done something to provoke him!" And of course if children are involved than we have a new generation of kids thinking that hitting is synonymous with love WHICH IT ISN'T because daddy hits mommy and than apologizes saying to her that he did it because of his love for her!!! That type of thinking degrades the essence of love, which is already nearing the brinks of extinction in our world.

Love and pain go hand in hand. Anger and love share an inverse relationship. Have you noticed??? When you're angry at a person who you love more than yourself… in that moment that you are so angry your anger is so strong that it trumps your love… So how can you hit a person in that moment and say "baby I slapped you because I Love you?" when in that moment it wasn't your love guiding your action it was your anger??? That is why we do things and say things in the heat of the moment that we later regret… Because if it was guided by love you would never regret it…

Before I conclude this once more super long essay type answer😆, I just want to say that I never put this much thought into anything I've written in class or did this much research for any class in university…lol… you said I am a good reader, most of my profs would beg to differ. 🤣

… But after reading your first note about DV and the whole anger cover love thing that you proposed I went back and read in detail, all of the updates of this SS, to see if you did justice to this topic that touches more people's lives than we can even begin to imagine and unfortunately despite my desire to challenge my thinking, I found no shred of evidence that could make me see something astray from my experiences.

MY POINT IS AND ALWAYS WAS THAT ABUSE/DV/ONE SLAP (and all other things that you mentioned) IS TOO COMPLEX OF A TOPIC TO JUSTIFY WITH 100% CERTAINTY AS ANGER COVERED LOVE… Such a touchy topic should only be touched upon if it is adequately justified. BUT THIS IS A HEATED TOPIC so than the biggest challenge is how do you justify the unjustifiable? I had a great deal of intellectually stimulating pleasure, engaging in this debate with you… We strongly represent two opposite sides of the same coin…

MY HEART IS SHATTERING TO PIECES WONDERING WHAT PIHU WILL THINK WHEN SHE SEE'S THE MARK ON HER MOM'S FACE THAT WASN'T THERE WHEN SHE LEFT FOR SCHOOL THE SAME MORNING. WHAT will Ram say in response to her innocent question? "Nothing Rockstar, mumma made papa very angry and so papa lost his temper. But don't worry its okay mumma loves your papa a lot and vice versa. It will never happen again? (but how can we be so sure? In the real world we can never be sure that it will never happen again BUT in your SS we can... But than that's not the reality in the representation of abuse... IN THE MAJORITY OF CASES!!..."

I feel strongly about this topic as you can probably guess. So please read this not as a personal attack on you or your creative work but as my opposing opinion to your presentation.Thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to reply😊

Sheetal

P.S. Neel i am supposed to be writing the next part of my FF to update today, but i was so engrossed in this intriguing debate that it totally slipped my mind.. 😛 In fact, i wanted to continue writing, so passionate about this topic but alas i have to sleep and i have already written too much!

Originally posted by: luvsakshi

Thank you so much sheethal dear , Its completely ok ,I do undrstand every human being have their own thoughts .. Loved your honest answer ...
Mystery movie i havent seen that ..If you have a link just PM me i too want to see it ... Thank you so much hope your talks are good ...