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sappushivu

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Posted: 12 years ago

#11

thanks u guys...jus stated my opinions...btw thanks for the warm welcome..am happy my first post was well accepted:P...😃

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ritzbitz786

@ritzbitz786

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Posted: 12 years ago

#12

Hey welcome to the forum.

I agree with your post, but, the point is Rams anger maybe justified, but his actions aren't. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Idk how long you have been watching BALH, but they have always shown Ram as impulsive, who doesn't really think of the greater good. It was actually Priya who brought out the best in him.

Otherwise, Ram in anger, always makes rash decisions.

Such as sudhir/police station drama over the accident, because Ram missed his dad's pooja...Come on, using your money to deliberately cause people trouble.

Then of course the Karthik scenario, where Priya was mature enough to sort and figure things out. Ram knew Priya was upto something, hence kept saying he wouldn't divorce her no matter what and had faith in her...But how he handled Karthik was just another poor use of his wealth and power.

And here he is yet again, doing it all over. In his anger and revenge his is forgetting to act humane and get the whole story, which has been repeatitive during the course of the serial.

Sometimes he uses his senses, like when the whole Priya's Ex (forgot his name, shwethi's husband) thing happened. THATS the Ram I personally like and Love.

But and irrational Ram, fine get Priya back. But don't mess with lives, like that of Pihu, or using Ayesha to make Priya jealous (disgusting if you ask me) or telling you mother/dadi etc that if thay don't agree with you, they can move out.

Emotions and actions are two different things. His emotions are justified but not his actions.

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Kaushik Basu

@kaushikbasu

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Posted: 12 years ago

#13

As people are saying what Ram is doing wrong. So what else could he do? I know he can get her arrested for faking her death a case under sec 420 under IPC, would that something people would like?

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sappushivu

@sappushivu

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Posted: 12 years ago

#14

@ritzbitz...yes i do agree his actions r not totally justified..but thats exactly the whole point..i am jus stating that he is a normal human being..who is angry for a very very valid reason...so wat else do u expect him to do..if u say his actions r not justified..can u suggest wat he slhd have done..welcomed priya happily..n left ayesha..n lived happlily wth priya n pihu??? he wld have done this only if he was not a normal human wth normal emotions...d very reason ayesha is in his life is coz of priya..all this confusion is coz of priya..how can he accept her back immediately..!!! and how can he let pihu again go away from him...so the only option he has is to tke pihu..but as u said he is jus impulsive..so y blame him wen u know watever hez doin now..later on he ll regret n get tog wth priya..my post was only for all the people blaming Ram :)

@kaushik- totallly agree!!!

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Neo20

@Neo20

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Posted: 12 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: sappushivu
@ritzbitz...yes i do agree his actions r not totally justified..but thats exactly the whole point..i am jus stating that he is a normal human being..who is angry for a very very valid reason...so wat else do u expect him to do..if u say his actions r not justified..can u suggest wat he slhd have done..welcomed priya happily..n left ayesha..n lived happlily wth priya n pihu??? he wld have done this only if he was not a normal human wth normal emotions...d very reason ayesha is in his life is coz of priya..all this confusion is coz of priya..how can he accept her back immediately..!!! and how can he let pihu again go away from him...so the only option he has is to tke pihu..but as u said he is jus impulsive..so y blame him wen u know watever hez doin now..later on he ll regret n get tog wth priya..my post was only for all the people blaming Ram :)

@kaushik- totallly agree!!!

Agreed... Plus, I think his anger seems to be more towards the fact that "PRIYA" did not let him know her whereabouts. Remember his convo with Aayesha during Nuts abortion case.. He completely and blindly trusted and loved Priya.. Infact, I would say he trusted priya more that she trusts him. Like for example, during Ashwin's case, he trusted her against all proofs. But Priya easily accepted that Ram and Aayesha have a son!! You may say that anything is possible in 5 years, but she was also confused after she met Apeksha in Australia..

I am not blaming her.. Both of her reactions were natural.. But in the same way, Ram's reaction is also natural.. I mean, after all that love and trust, he would certainly expect that Priya would not hide such important things from him.. She would let him know that she is alive and they have a daughter.. Ram most certainly would not have done anything that would cause any harm to them. He could also have kept this as a secret and get her back only after she is cleared... But atleast he would have been saved from all the pains he had for 5 years.

Right now its complicated.. Ram has brought this custody business as he wants Pihu in his life back without any delay and is upset and angry with priya and does not want to say her to come back... In any case, Even though the plot is logically okay, I am not liking it because thats not what I want to see.. 😕😕 The whole setup they created when she landed in India, Natasha saying that "See, Priya is back with all the happiness" to Kartik, the bg song "Lagi aaj sawan ki fir ..." and Ram craving for her, made it look like it is going to be happy time now... I wanted to see them together.. And I wish cv's reunite them fast... The current plot is getting unpleasant now!!!

Edited by Neo20 - 12 years ago

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Kammiekins

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Posted: 12 years ago

#16

I loved your post. So true why can't Ram be mad, he deserves to be mad. You keep his child away from him for five years and just come back to think everything will be okay, no matter if she found Ayesha at the party being introduced as Mrs. Ram Kapoor, she should have confronted him there and said Peehu is your daughter. I sometimes get so frustrated with this show, but i loved seeing Ram's love towards Priya, he kept her alive, everyday, every minute of his life for five years he kept her there, that is true love. And honestly your right if Priya moved to Dubai and knew she was save there, she should have told Ram, for heavens sake he is Mr. Kapoor he could have done anything for her, she didn't give her love a chance, just thought chal I will let him move on. Well now she is in a runt, she can't get out, no matter how many times she says sorry, she has to wait, maybe for another five years for him to calm down. Lets see what happens.

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ritzbitz786

@ritzbitz786

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Posted: 12 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: sappushivu
@ritzbitz...yes i do agree his actions r not totally justified..but thats exactly the whole point..i am jus stating that he is a normal human being..who is angry for a very very valid reason...so wat else do u expect him to do..if u say his actions r not justified..can u suggest wat he slhd have done..welcomed priya happily..n left ayesha..n lived happlily wth priya n pihu??? he wld have done this only if he was not a normal human wth normal emotions...d very reason ayesha is in his life is coz of priya..all this confusion is coz of priya..how can he accept her back immediately..!!! and how can he let pihu again go away from him...so the only option he has is to tke pihu..but as u said he is jus impulsive..so y blame him wen u know watever hez doin now..later on he ll regret n get tog wth priya..my post was only for all the people blaming Ram :)

@kaushik- totallly agree!!!

See as kaushik and you also mentioned, about other suggestions..

Kaushik said about putting her in jail for faking her death..😆 well I have to give you this Kaushik, you are right..at least like he (Ram) made sudhir go back and forth to the jail and got karthik arrested but this time he didn't take the same route ...😆

and sappu..

as I said, I Agreed with your post. Whatever priya did, was senseless. She knew ram couldn't live without her etc..

And I think thats why Ram is mad, because Priya actually thought he could move on? Did she really think his love was that weak, that he would move on less than a week after her death ( I presume the call to Ram to tell about preg. where about all the confusion started was a week or so after priya's "death")

So I agree with all your reasons about why ram should be angry, anyone would be, I WOULD BE!

Thats why I said his EMOTIONS are justified..

But what seems a little outlandish to me is your suggestion that "should ram accept priya, be happy, leave ayesha..."

or Kaushik's whole "should Ram get her arrested for faking her death"

I dont think thats what ANYONE is saying or suggesting.

You guys, come one, we are bigger than this and more mature...

Just because people are saying Ram should not have asked for custody, doesn't mean they are ALSO saying he should just happily forgive Priya...I don't know why you or anyone would think that?

Or Kaushik would think, well what else should he do besides ask for custody😆

If you have it set already in your mind, that "Ram bashers" are thinking Ram should automatically forgive Priya, then I think you have to get to know people on this forum...

Its not always black and white...theres always grey and neutral

Which is why in my post I said two wrongs dont make a right

You guys have presented three options:

Ram takes custody

Ram sends priya to jail

Ram happily forgives Priya

Its like defending Rams actions "well he coulda done worse and sent Priya to jail"😆

I was so appalled at reading that, I didnt even know what to reply.😆

I think, like you said in your OP, there should be a track of Priya trying to win back Ram's trust and love...

Because I think THE WHOLE FORUM no matter whose "side" they are on, or who they agree with..

Don't want a court room drama track...

Its just time wasted, honestly//all this ayesha drama and court room lawyers drama...it should be better spent on Raya trying to fix their relationship...

Because just as Ram made mistakes with his impulse, should Priya then have gotten revenge by sending Rams brother to jail and destroying his rep.?

Priya always dealt with Ram's mistakes, and yet always sacrified herself for him..she never got revenge, or held onto it...

Raya should be above revenge..Anger is one thing, hate is another...

Like I said, I personally want that Ram who was cool minded and handled the Ashwin situation..

If anyone her likes angry Ram and him seperating Pihu from her mother, and disregarding Pihu and telling fam. members they can move out if they don't agree with him...so be it.

I don't, and I'll be verbal about it.

You're angry at Priya, Priya hurt you, then setlle it with Priya.

Not Pihu, not anyone else. Don't tell your mother to move out if she doesn't agree with you. Don't be a mad angry man to everyone in your life.

Here's is by *BIGGEST* distinguishing factor...Intention

By that I mean, when Priya left Ram 5 years ago and didn't tell him about his daughter, etc...

Her actions were wrong, but her INTENTION was not. In urdu, we call this niyaat. Niyaat saaf hona.

She multiple times, second guessed her decision, multiple times felt guilt, multiple times wanted Ram to know Pihu was his daughter.

But she did what she did, for LOVE. (even though it was wrong, her intention was to help Ram move on.)

What ram is doing, trying to keep Pihu away, he is doing it in HATE. To get revenge. To release his anger.

Their intentions ae completely different. And I think that is a big factor to me.

Because what Ram lost in 5 years, his wife, his life, the ability to see his daughter grow.

Priya in a way also lost. Her family, sharing moments of joy with the, raising Pihu alone. Yes Priya's route was self-chosen and Ram's was imposed upon him by Priya. But they both missed out on things the last 5 years, it wasnt "hunky dory" for Priya. But once again, I'll give that to Ram, because Priya chose her route, Ram didn't.

But Priya, in her decision always second guessed herself, especially when she saw Pihu, multiple times she would say That I'm doing wrong by keeping Ram and Pihu apart.

THATS THE RAM I WANT TO SEE. Who says to himself, I am doing wrong by trying to keep Priya and Pihu apart.

That is just my two cents.

Also, I want to say, I think this forum is made for expression of opinions, not for personal attacking, but to show each other our points of views, to share them, and sometimes to agree to disagree, but no matter who we better sympathize with, some with priya, some with ram, some with both...

We all want the same thing no courtroom drama, no ayesha scheming, just Raya working it out..

Because if there is courtroom drama and Pihu stays with Ram and is crying for her Mom, I think everyone will agree Ram went too far and should now bring Priya back.

@Kaushik: you're post, always seem sensible to me, I always even "like" your posts even if I don't comment on them...and I honestly don't know if you were addressing me as "people..would people want that, would that make people happy"

But my SN is ritz so feel free to reply openly to me😊

Edited by ritzbitz786 - 12 years ago

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ritzbitz786

@ritzbitz786

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Posted: 12 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: Neo20

Agreed... Plus, I think his anger seems to be more towards the fact that "PRIYA" did not let him know her whereabouts. Remember his convo with Aayesha during Nuts abortion case.. He completely and blindly trusted and loved Priya.. Infact, I would say he trusted priya more that she trusts him. Like for example, during Ashwin's case, he trusted her against all proofs. But Priya easily accepted that Ram and Aayesha have a son!! You may say that anything is possible in 5 years, but she was also confused after she met Apeksha in Australia..

I am not blaming her.. Both of her reactions were natural.. But in the same way, Ram's reaction is also natural.. I mean, after all that love and trust, he would certainly expect that Priya would not hide such important things from him.. She would let him know that she is alive and they have a daughter.. Ram most certainly would not have done anything that would cause any harm to them. He could also have kept this as a secret and get her back only after she is cleared... But atleast he would have been saved from all the pains he had for 5 years.

Right now its complicated.. Ram has brought this custody business as he wants Pihu in his life back without any delay and is upset and angry with priya and does not want to say her to come back... In any case, Even though the plot is logically okay, I am not liking it because thats not what I want to see.. 😕😕 The whole setup they created when she landed in India, Natasha saying that "See, Priya is back with all the happiness" to Kartik, the bg song "Lagi aaj sawan ki fir ..." and Ram craving for her, made it look like it is going to be happy time now... I wanted to see them together.. And I wish cv's reunite them fast... The current plot is getting unpleasant now!!!

Neo, Love love love what you wrote in bold.

My point exactly, Team Ram, Team Priya is doesn't matter, cause the whole forum wants the same thing..

Which is also supported by TRP's going down. No one wants this anger, custody, court room drama..

We all just want Raya related scenes, like sappu suggested, Priya winning back Ram's trust..

That is where the focus should be, in my opinion.

Even with Ram and his logic, what gets to me is his revenge and anger towards Priya is going beyond priya, by using Ayesha, or telling his mom she can leave the house if she doesn't agree with him ( I hated that scene, don't talk to your momma like that!) Keep it at Priya and Priya only, because she is your "mujrim"

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Mani

@Mani-RK

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Posted: 12 years ago

#19

dats wat i want priya wooing ram n try to gain his trust but i donno wats stopping her now dat she knows ram ayesha mrg is fake she can say dat if u want pihu i will also cum with her

or simply send pihu with him obviously pihu will ask her mom ram cant say no to her

instead dey are stretching it like a rubber band and now vik neha parallel track doono wer its leading form last epi ram was deeply hurt

Edited by ramsakshiroxxx - 12 years ago